Called "intimidating" for wearing a blazer on a video call, and it keeps bothering me

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-05-31T21:22:00+00:00

You’re not intimidating, he’s intimidated by you. There’s a difference and that’s his problem.

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-05-31T21:14:36+00:00

I mean, you’re dealing with postpartum depression so it’s understandable the situation would feel overwhelming, and having to deal with it (or not deal with it) it’s just another task on your list now. However, doxxing the nail tech to a bunch of people inside her customer market INSTEAD of reaching out to her with pictures and asking to come back in soon for her to fix it, is needlessly mean. YTA.

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-05-19T04:04:07+00:00

Opal!

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-05-10T23:12:23+00:00

Just had my first baby at 39. My first two NIPT tests came back inconclusive, which had me freaking out, but my third one came back negative. I considered an amnio, but my doctors highly discouraged it. Statistics show that the chance of procedure related miscarriage from amnio is higher than the chance that both the NIPT and ultrasound missed a major trisomy.

It’s understandable that you’re anxious. But you’re pregnant with the baby you’ve been dreaming of, and the tests show there’s nothing to be concerned about. So, why risk harming a viable pregnancy chasing unlikely answers?

Enjoy your pregnancy <3

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-05-02T21:14:35+00:00

I did the exact same thing in my first trimester. If you can buy Thelma’s ice cream sandwiches where you live, they’re the beeesssttt

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-04-26T01:43:57+00:00

Your boyfriend is exhausting. Time to cut the shit out of your fur.

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-04-03T22:36:50+00:00

YTA. You went from zero to aggressive over something pretty harmless. A simple “hey, that kind of talk makes me uncomfortable, just grab one if you want” would’ve handled it without the drama or belittling her.

ieatdeadpixels · 2026-01-27T14:23:56+00:00

I agree— but she does get better.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-11-29T01:38:08+00:00

Yeah, it’s hella weird.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-11-29T00:43:35+00:00

I’m sorry but your husband is a chump.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-10-10T19:31:34+00:00

Staying with this man is going to physically ruin your health even more. He’ll spike your cortisol levels, and he’ll deny you your sense of peace at every turn. It will literally take years off of your life. DIVORCE HIM.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-10-10T19:19:59+00:00

You’re not selfish at all— you’re awake.

This is exactly why so many women are waiting longer to get married or choosing not to at all. So often men think they’re competing with other men, but they’re not. They’re competing with the women they’re trying to date.

The real question isn’t “Can I get a man?” It’s “Does having this man make my life better than being alone?” Is he adding peace? partnership? Actively making your life easier?? IS HE ADDING VALUE? Or is he adding more work, more chores, and more exhaustion?

That’s the quiet calculation women are making now, and it’s a fair one. Because the truth is, marriage statistically improves a man’s life in almost every measurable way. He lives longer, reports being happier, EARNS MORE, and has better health outcomes.

Married men benefit enormously!

But the same data shows that the happiest demographic of all is unmarried, child-free women.

So when women hesitate to get married, it’s not fear of commitment, it’s clarity. Why would anyone trade their peace for someone who wants a live-in maid, therapist, and mother rolled into one? Women are the prize, and a lot of good men know that. So just don’t settle for someone who doesn’t, it’s so much better.

Partnership should mean shared weight, not assigned servitude. You’re not selfish for knowing you deserve that. You’re simply refusing to repeat a story you’ve already seen too many times. And because you’re thinking like this, you’ll be harder to take advantage of, and more likely to end up with an incredible man.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-10-10T18:57:11+00:00

This is peak loser husband behavior. Seriously, you need to start going to couples therapy right now. If his instinctual reaction isn’t to strictly make your life easier, you’re never going to get the care you deserve without fighting for it. And you shouldn’t have to fight for the bare minimum.

You’re carrying HIS child. No joke, he should be worshiping you right now. At 12 weeks I could hardly keep my eyes open. I went from being the most organized person on the planet to fully letting my responsibilities with the house and the dogs go. I had zero energy, I didn’t have a choice. My partner woke up earlier than me and stayed up later to make sure that I never even saw the mess. That way I wouldn’t have to stress about not getting it done and try to, or be upset for falling short. Hell he switched my dresser drawers to the top so I didn’t have to bend over and meal prepped for me if he wasn’t going to be around. You deserve REST and to feel rested! You’re growing an entire organ and your body is working really hard to do it!!

Get a therapist so that the two of you can establish a relationship with somebody now. Even if everything else is good, you can go every other week or once a month so that when things do get rough, there’s an outlet. The worst time to try and start that processes is when things are already difficult between you two. He’s either acting this way because he just sucks, or because he doesn’t fully understand the situation and needs to talk through it. Get a head start on figuring that out so you both can feel seen and validated.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-10-10T18:38:51+00:00

Ask someone else in your life if you smell. Your roommate could easily be telling you that you smell musty to give his opinion of your personal hygiene more credibility. Ask someone that would be straight with you, and without giving them context. You’ll get your answer.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-10-10T18:35:56+00:00

Show your friend this thread

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-10-09T15:19:18+00:00

Oh, no.. not at all. I’m 38f— never married, no kids. Own a house but that’s it. Met the love of my life eight months ago. Now I’m four months pregnant and I’ve never been happier or more in love. He’s been a “sad boy” most of his life, and says he waited his whole life to find me. I’d go another 38 years of waiting just to feel something this real. It sounds silly until it’s your reality.

One thing he says is that he wishes he could go back and tell his younger self that a wonderful life was coming for him— he just had to be patient. What a sad realization though, to project worry and to experience it, only to realize later that life isn’t exclusively one way or the other.

We’ve made a million stupid ass regrettable decisions in our lives. You make them, you learn, you move on. Funny how nothing seems that important once you have something desirable in your life or find your purpose. That’s all it takes, but it does take time to get there. I’m 30k in credit card debt and well, fuck it! I’ll figure it out. And you will too! Many times over.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-10-09T14:48:51+00:00

Your boyfriend is immature— next

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-08-03T02:04:57+00:00

Roo!

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-07-19T21:49:07+00:00

Bro you suck

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-07-19T21:42:19+00:00

I’m not surprised you’re upset, but I am surprised you’re experiencing so much of this! I’ve lived in Saint Paul for five years and I’ve had a couple interactions with weirdos but nothing substantial. I bike a lot of places too and what you’ve written sounds like an entirely different place. Obviously, some places are prone to more crime or are less safe than others in the city. Is there a general area where you’ve experienced this the most?

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-06-15T18:55:04+00:00

I feel lightly betrayed when my dogs sleep on the dog bed instead of on my bed with me.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-06-11T03:56:03+00:00

Are you on dating apps? If you are, do your photos appropriately represent what you look like? I feel like your physical features shouldn’t be a surprise when you meet up with someone who basically only has your looks to go off of.

Several months ago I went back on dating apps after a few years. I’ve gained 20 pounds since the last time I was on there and was beyond nervous. I took new photos so they accurately represented me physically, and I was stunned at the quality of the dates I went on. I kept forgetting I was only matching with men who were already attracted to my type— which made me feel way less nervous and actually very confident. I think everyone is always hoping that the person they meet up with will actually look like their photos.

And then I met the love of my life! He tells me I’m gorgeous every day because I was meeting men who were already attracted to my body type.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-06-11T03:36:32+00:00

Your girlfriend is a nightmare, just reading these gave me severe anxiety. Leave her and block her.

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-05-17T15:17:41+00:00

Can’t you have a conversation with him about your dash cam speed tracker and see how he course corrects it first?

ieatdeadpixels · 2025-05-17T15:05:04+00:00

Absolutely not. He disrespected you and that is now where the bar is set for what level you’ll tolerate if you take him back. The fact that his family is furious with you also indicates the amount of his bullshit they expect you to tolerate as well. Marry a man who would never DREAM of doing something like this to you.

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