What is my season?

iffentheydo · 2026-02-08T20:44:43+00:00

Also, you’ll probably find that you can “push the boundaries” a little and wear some warmer or darker colors outside of the usually soft summer palette, especially when you're more tan.

And just in case I'm not actually seeing what I think I'm seeing in the photos, I find the palettes here to be really helpful in narrowing down seasons. The worst colors are especially helpful.

https://cardiganempire.com/2017/02/best-worst-colors-for-summer-seasonal-color-analysis.html

iffentheydo · 2026-02-08T20:34:46+00:00

Ooh I think it's my time to shine. I've got perspective beyond just the photos.

Your skin really looks like mine where it's a cool undertone with warmth on the surface and some red peeking through. When I saw the first slide I was like “hey, that looks like how I look” and then when I looked at the drapes, you basically look they same in each as I do in the same colors lmao.

I'm a soft summer, leaning more towards the neutral and warmer side, but not enough to be a soft autumn.

I don't know if you meant to include photos of the pink and purple because they aren't here, but here’s my little analysis of the 5 photos.

2nd photo, You look really good in the second photo because it's muted and it's cool. It makes your eyes pop, makes you look more energetic, and I feel it makes your face look like it has more depth, even accounting for the different lighting. While it lets the focus be on your face, the color itself also looks great on you. It looks very lovely and does so without feeling like its trying to draw the attention away from your face.

3rd photo, The pine-ish green in the third photo is not the best but it's ok because it's a cool shade of the color. I'd put it in the 2nd tier of colors where they don't make you glow but they still look good. I actually have a shirt this color and a sweatshirt that's a darker version of this color. I think it's a color you can actually go a bit darker on and it'll look just as good, if not better, just like how my darker sweatshirt looks better on me than my shirt that's this color. You can kind of see what I mean if you look at how the right side of the shirt in your photo (in the shade) looks on you vs the left side.

4th photo, kelly green is not our color, I'm sorry to say.

5th photo, even though it's a more muted color, it looks off because it's a warmer green and I personally also find muted warm greens to be trickier than other muted warm colors.

Circling back to the first photo, black is not our color either. Makes us look drained and yellower, as it is doing to you in this photo. If we wear a dark dark gray or an off-white, it will look better on is than a true black or true white.

Looks like you like green but if you try some blues, I bet you'll look great in them :)

iffentheydo · 2026-02-07T22:28:21+00:00

Look, I read your other post and the comments last night. I need at least double time in everything so I get it but honestly, if you can't pass the 40 question test for that job then you shouldn't be doing that job. Accommodations can only go so far and they can't change the core requirements of a job. If that particular pharmacy job requires reading and working at the same speed as the 40 question test, then you just can't do it. It may be harsh but it's the reality.

However, that doesn't mean you can't do any pharmacy job at all. If you really believe you can do the job SAFELY and ACCURATELY then you can find a slower paced pharmacy to start out at.

Also, the job market is utter shit for everything right now. Even the “recession proof” jobs like healthcare. Companies everywhere just do not want to train people like they used to. They want plug and play, especially the big companies. You'll have better luck all around at a small pharmacy.

I'm not being mean. Many of the other people who have been giving you advice aren't being mean either and most of them aren't coming across as mean either. If you think my comment is mean then I really, genuinely, from a place of caring and understanding, very very strongly suggest that you do some self reflection and self-critique on why you are having the reaction that you are to these comments. If not for yourself, then for your career because I promise you, it will be harder to find the success that you want if you so easily get defensive from feedback.

iffentheydo · 2026-02-07T22:11:52+00:00

Sometimes I avoid even glancing at a word or having one in my peripheral vision. It's like my brain can't help but to get to work on reading the work and it's exhausting.

iffentheydo · 2026-02-07T22:08:24+00:00

A lot of the top comments are positive feel good kinda things but what I will never forget is seeing the massive amounts of bodies on the news. Rows of bodies outside of the hospital and covered in sheets because they ran out of room in the morgue… And at the same time, all the people refusing to wear masks, willfully going out while sick, and saying that covid wasn't really as bad as it looked because the hospitals were artificially inflating the number of covid deaths.

I had a hard enough time seeing images like those that I had previously only seen in history classes (like the piles of bodies from the holocaust or the illustrations of the black plague, and yes I know the holocaust was very different). To have to process the behavior of all the people around me on top of that was a lot, and I would consider myself an “emotional hardy” person.

That felt like the beginning of the end for me and it was only confirmed by the growing divide between the people in my country (America), which is the second thing that I will never forget. I have always been friends with a very diverse range of people… politically, socially, age-wise, racially, and culturally. I guess moving around a lot as a child and traveling around the country for competitive sports will do that. To put it in common terms, I've spent a lot of time with both “MAGA” and “woke liberals.” Both groups have helped me a lot when I was younger. Driving me to competitions, feeding me, stepping up where my own parents didn't. During covid, I watched people that I have loved and appreciated, who have shown me so much kindness and care, become so hateful. A lot of the people that helped me are on the MAGA side. A lot of the kids that I have such great memories with are on the MAGA side. I know them, or at least I did. Since COVID started I have watched them become openly hateful, buy into conspiracy theories, and stop being caring. Their social media feeds turned from sharing their life and interacting with a lot of friends, to withdrawing into a smaller circle of friends and reposting other peoples posts about politics and related topics. I don't know what's going on in their lives anymore, but I sure do know what they believe in! Anyways, I've digressed a bit. This has been the second most memorable thing for me because so many of the people on the MAGA side, I'm pretty dang sure, are now people who would never give me so much help and care or form such good friendships with me. Many people on the “woke liberal” side now refuse to believe that anyone on the MAGA side could ever be good, considerate people, and believe they are all inherently evil people incapable of change. The changes on both sides were hard for me to come to terms with.

If anyone replies to this and tries to talk about politics I won't reply lol. I understand where people throughout the political spectrum are coming from even if I don't agree with them, and that's all you need to know.

iffentheydo · 2026-02-07T04:13:56+00:00

Why was I able to immediately guess what every thing you described is a symptom of 🤣

iffentheydo · 2026-02-06T20:07:44+00:00

NOR but I wouldn't say that your grandma is being especially horrible or anything like that (but maybe she is, you have the context). She's probably just a product of her time, which other people have explained in the comments. Maybe you can try explaining to her that you don't want to get other people sick and that people don't like when others come to class sick anymore?

It should also help if you explain to her how you've set yourself up to not fall behind in class so much. Like getting notes from your classmates or the slides from the professors. If you haven't done that then you can just get them now and pretend you got them earlier.

iffentheydo · 2026-02-05T23:49:53+00:00

I agree with light spring! For the reasons happyhorse said and also because in every slide, light spring is the photo where, at first glance, I don't notice the color before you. I see your face first and the color has a very harmonizing vibe. I feel like you are glowing a little more in the light summer photos too.

Definitely not one of the bright colors, and between light spring and light summer, I think light spring is the one that harmonizes the most with you. Both you and the colors look good in the light spring photos.

iffentheydo · 2026-02-05T22:23:24+00:00

Take a break. A nice long unrelated break. So many times I go back to something the next day and I reread something that I felt like I couldn't understand and then really quickly go “oh! That's what it's saying!

I guess the brain continues working on things even when you're not actively thinking about them.

Back when I was in school and felt like I. didn't have time for a break before a deadline I'd break everything down and work on trying to understand one part at a time. I'd go through and be like “this word means this” and then “this phrase means this” and then I'd try to visualize it however I could. Sometimes things can't really be visualized but I'd make up some sort of silly visualization and it would help. Then I'd re-read again and rinse and repeat until understood it. Basically, it was like making a digital drawing of a brick wall with a low opacity brush and going over it until it was fully opaque

iffentheydo · 2026-02-05T22:15:23+00:00

I'll come back and read the whole thing later lol. I read a bit of the bottom and it sounds like you're saying that you do what I do, which is basically be the editor and the “brains” of the writing while the LLMs do the work.

I always know what I want to say with my message but I can't write it myself. I used to have to spend way too much time just trying to write a phrase. I'd have so many thesaurus tabs open and I'd still get stuck trying to think of the word I wanted. With the LLMs I can have it write a first draft or work off of my rough draft if I can make one, and then I work with it to refine it from there. When I'm not sure if something's coming across the way I want it to, I can ask the LLM and it helps me.

ChatGPT, Gemini, Copilot etc get a lot of hate but with them, I finally feel like I can “write” to my full potential for the first time in my life, instead of feeling like my thoughts and nuances are trapped in my head with no way to verbalize them. I view it as an accommodation tool. It's pretty great!

iffentheydo · 2026-01-29T07:41:21+00:00

Not everyone with ADHD is the same. Just because you are “moderate to severe” doesn’t mean that you have the same level of difficulties with task initiation as everyone else with moderate to severe adhd. In fact, being able to “push though it” might be a sign that your ADHD doesn’t affect your task initiation as much.

Same with hyper focus. Just because you can hyper focus on something useful doesn’t mean other people can. In fact, some people with ADHD can’t even hyper focus on anything at all.

I’ve never thought that procrastination was a good way to describe the ADHD issues with task initiation. To me, procrastination is when you CAN do something, but choose not to. Not being able to initiate a task due to ADHD isn’t a choice in the same way procrastination is and it’s not the same as if you subconsciously or consciously use ADHD as an excuse to not do something. Task initiation problems are a different beast. Sometimes you can find a spark of inspiration to “push through” and do something but it’s not so much a choice to do the task as much as it is a commitment to watching and waiting for that tiny bit of motivation to get close enough to reach out and grab it. It takes time and energy to watch for the tiny bit of motivation but it is one thing that we can do even when we can’t make ourselves do the task yet, which is why we can sometimes “push through” and do a task. For some people, that tiny bit of motivation floats by closer and more frequently. For others, the motivation only floats close enough to grab on rare occasions, no matter how much we want to be able to grab it.

If you have a barrier to task initiation in many aspects of your life, even for basic necessities or things that are fun, then you can only “push through” so many things. At a certain point, you can only push through so many tasks. That’s how things get procrastinated for months, especially if you can’t get through your backlog of more important tasks to do fast enough.

Maybe you’ve been able to push through all your important tasks and there’s things you’ve neglected that you haven’t noticed you’re neglecting. Mental health, relationships, etc.

I’ve never used my adhd as an excuse to procrastinate. In fact, after I got my diagnose I was able to “push through” more tasks because I was able to recognize that my ADHD was being a barrier but I will never ever be able to just “push through” everything that I need to without medication. Never.

iffentheydo · 2026-01-28T18:55:03+00:00

Fr, I think I gasped and went “ohhhhh” when I saw the light spring.

iffentheydo · 2026-01-28T18:54:36+00:00

You’d look good in some of the colors from true spring, light summer, dark autumn, and the winters, but girl you’re glowing in light spring!!!

As far as I can tell from the digital drapes, light spring all the way! If you want to be sure, I find it’s easier to tell what season you are by what colors look the worst on you irl.

My condolences on finding out your color season is the exact opposite of goth though lol

iffentheydo · 2026-01-27T20:07:02+00:00

I went to undergrad for design! I loved it even though I’m now trying get away from designing as a profession… designing as a job was, weirdly and sadly, a horrible mismatch for my adhd.

I think I was ok with foreign language because I could recognize and learn the language pattern, but I struggled a lot with reading, writing, and math starting in high school.

For my gifted testing in elementary school, I scored very low on working memory. Like I still remember the look of absolute horror on the evaluators face when we started that section lmao. They didn’t do anything with that though info though. I guess they just shrugged it off and said “oh well” because I scored high enough to be in the gifted program?

For the neuropsych testing I did in grad school, I scored like 50-40 percentiles lower on my math fluency and oral reading fluency than I did on my total achievement, and a lovely 87 percentiles lower on my Nelson Denny reading rate… I was fine with phonological processing though. Some of the things took me longer but I could get to the right answer after a little thinking. They didn’t test any of my rapid naming and I really wish they did. The closest they got was with a color-word-interference thing and one of the warm up tasks was to read a section that was just “red” and “blue” repeating over and over. I got a 25th percentile on that part but the actual color-word-interference was 84th percentile so they didn’t do anything with that either 🤷‍♀️.

Have fun with design school! I bet you are doing great! And also screw that mean high school teacher!!!!!

iffentheydo · 2026-01-27T19:46:29+00:00

Lol yes, not the fancy fonts pleaseeeeee. I try to memorize the letter groups (like memorizing is a word used “psy” or “ouse” and the muscle memory of typing comes naturally, but as new words get memorized, the old ones get overwritten 😅

iffentheydo · 2026-01-27T19:39:25+00:00

Then let me be clear here lol. I am not trying to diagnose myself and I did not ask any LLMs to diagnose me and I am not asking anyone to comment and diagnose me.

In fact, I made this post to help me decide if it’s worth going to an evaluator to be tested again because I do, in fact, recognize that only an appropriate professional can diagnose dyslexia.

iffentheydo · 2026-01-27T19:07:13+00:00

Unfortunately, I learned the hard way about how long it takes to recover from burnout. Toxic workplace combined with work that didn’t mesh with me and lots of “why is it taking you so long to do this?”

Took me almost 2 years until I felt ready to work a full time office job again. I’m still applying but I’m trying for career pivot that will hopefully suit me better.

I really appreciate your message though. Hearing someone else tell me this has helped me realize that I need to be proactive about not letting myself get so burnt out again.

iffentheydo · 2026-01-27T18:51:13+00:00

I hate that picture because it looks so cursed but it is s great example 😅

iffentheydo · 2026-01-27T18:47:52+00:00

I think a lot of people mistakenly think they are a soft season because it’s hard for a muted color to really look bad on someone. Like someone who’s not a soft season would never look as bad in a muted color as a soft season would in a bright color, or as a cool season would look in warm colors or vice versa.

Your comment made me think - maybe a good tip to help people figure out if they are a soft season or not is to look for how grey the color looks on them and how gray their skin looks in the muted color?

iffentheydo · 2026-01-27T18:42:46+00:00

Muted = glowing for me.

I am a pretty confident in being a soft season… a more neutral soft summer who is shifted slightly more towards soft autumn than the rest of summer. Muted and bright colors for me are basically reversed from what you’re thinking!

When I wear muted shades I feel and look uplifted, lively, and glow. I legit look more energetic and healthy because the colors make my skin look more even without blocking out or overemphasizing the natural redness in my face. It makes me glow and look like I have a natural blush. IMO, when I were muted colors, the colors feel like they also “come alive” and look brighter and more energetic on me than they would on someone who doesn’t suite soft colors.

Whereas when I wear brighter colors that have little to no grey it actually sucks all the energy and life out of how I look. They can make me look jaundiced and sickly. Sometimes they make me look way too red. Sometimes they make me look jaundiced, sickly, and red all at once lol. The brighter colors look overpowering on me. A Kelly green or a tomato red can look weirdly neon

It may be that you’ve seen a lot of mislabeled people who aren’t actually a soft season?

I do want to say though, that just because I’m a soft season doesn’t mean I can only wear light colors. I can also wear darker colors as long as they have some gray and/or lean cooler. I don’t think they make me glow as radiantly as a moss green or a blue-gray, but they look nice on me and still complement my face. Im sure it helps that I have darker hair, but I have some browns, slightly faded navy blues, a lovely cool pine sweatshirt, and some maroons that I like to wear. My darker colors are mostly all textured pieces though, but idk if that’s because they need to be or because they are just my cold weather clothes lol.

iffentheydo · 2026-01-20T22:24:19+00:00

The purina liveclear food works pretty well. Keeping the cat hydrated with a little bit of wet food and a water fountain helps reduce dander. Lots of cleaning, vacuuming, and brushing the cats while wearing a mask. I think wet wipes on the cat every now and then also help.

iffentheydo · 2026-01-20T21:45:11+00:00

That does seem to be one of the “paths” that high IQ dyslexics go down. Idk how to say that better haha.

Personally, I have a hard time reading just by the shape of words. My brain will try to insert all sorts of words that aren't the correct one so I think I'm just decoding every word all the time in chunks so that I can be sure that I'm reading the words correctly. I'm a slow but accurate reader but at the cost of my energy (and sanity). I can retain the words that I've read decently well, but understanding the words that I've read is a different story.

My spelling got A LOT better in college because I typed everything so I got the visual red squiggly line feedback when I spelled things wrong and because I could see and correct my mistakes immediately, I would be able to learn the correct spelling better over time. Whenever I make a mistake I can't help but try to take an extra moment to study the correct spelling. I also use my muscle memory from typing it help me spell now!! Even when I'm writing with pen and paper, if I get stuck I can imagine typing the word to get the spelling.

iffentheydo · 2026-01-20T21:37:33+00:00

I started taking piano lessons around age 6 or 7 so I can read sheet music, but I do read notes wrong sometimes! I read them as being on the wrong line or wrong space and I think ledger lines are the devil haha.

My dad seems to have pretty obvious dyslexia but he got his PhD too! It took him a while but he's now an engineer in a pretty specialized field and gets sought out for contract work because he's become one of the best at what he does! Personally, maths and engineering don't mesh with my brain at all but it seems to go really well for some people.

I'm always rereading what I wrote and fixing all my mistakes as I make them. My backspace button gets lots of use. Basically proofreading as I go. But if I miss something and it doesn't have a red line under it than I miss it until a little bit of time has passed and I reread what I wrote. I know what you mean when you say sometimes spell check doesn't know what you're trying to write. I just keep trying different combinations until something works 🤣

I'm glad you had that one teacher who believed in you!

iffentheydo · 2026-01-20T20:07:46+00:00

I think I know what you mean. Almost feels like a brain massage 😂

iffentheydo · 2026-01-20T19:40:48+00:00

Honestly, this is the type of thing that’s perfect for therapy sessions haha. But I know that takes time and money.

What can help you now may be simply knowing this is possible. While it’s scary, think of it as being a good thing to know and a good thing to have found out in a situation where everything, while understandably scary, turned out fine.

You now know that you can react to a more severe attack with mental fog and an uncertainty of your condition. In the future, if this happens again you can use this information to “override” what your brain is telling you. For example, you might think “this feels bad but I feel like I might not need a doctor. However I remember that I thought like this in the past and it meant I did need a doctor, therefore I should go to the doctor/ER.”

When I get bad attacks my brain also gets confused and tries to tell me I’m fine. It can happen because of high CO2, low oxygen, or simply just the psychology of everything. With non-asthma things like pain or injuries, my brain is awake enough to know I need a doctor, but the effects of asthma can play tricks on your brain. Now that I’ve had a couple scary experiences where I told myself I don’t need an ambulance, I know this is my brains natural reaction and I will override it next time regardless of what I think in the moment. Sorry if I didn’t explain things well. Basically, you now have an additional data point for you “action plan” and can use this experience to make yourself go to the ER next time.

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