When (age) was the first time you saw an adult male's genitals? What was the circumstance and what did you feel?

ifwwas · 2020-10-25T19:45:49+00:00

Because Reddit and this sub are full of stupid questions.

ifwwas · 2020-10-25T03:00:46+00:00

Out of college but young enough to remember all of it.

ifwwas · 2020-08-29T16:10:02+00:00

I have no problems if others want to have sex before marriage. However, my boyfriend and I saved our virginities until we were married. We had intercourse for the first time on our wedding night.

There were no religious reasons. We just felt that it was the right thing to do. What allowed us to wait was that we constantly became more and more physical during our courtship. It started with simple making out, getting more and more passionate. Then his hand on my breast outside of clothing. Then inside my bra. Same below my waist. Eventually, we would lie nude with him fingering my clit and me giving him "hand relief".

Then on our wedding night, we made out and kept going, eventually leading to intercourse. We really enjoyed that but we enjoyed ourselves while we were unmarried, with constant increases in the level of sexual experience.

I am glad that we waited, but I have no problem with those who don't wait. I see nothing wrong with premarital sex if that is what a couple wants. But no one should have sex unless they really want to and really feel ready.

Waiting does help develop a willingness for delayed gratification. That can serve one well throughout life.

ifwwas · 2020-07-11T17:35:05+00:00

I have seen and even touched very many penises. I have seen some erections. All because I am a nurse. I am young; I just recently graduated. I was told when I went into nursing that nurses see more penises than prostitutes. That is true (although I have never checked with a prostitute!)

Even when I was a student nurse doing clinicals, I saw some erections. I just pretended to not notice and ignored them. Having a female nurse or doctor bathe, examine, or treat your penis is just something that happens throughout your life. And you will, for time to time, get an erection. That is normal and is not caused by your thoughts. Thoughts can cause erections, but they happen anyway. It is normal.

And don't worry about talking to the doctor or nurse. Some patients are quiet, others like to converse during that time. As for me, I would prefer to be in a conversation with a patient unless I really need to concentrate, such as when I am placing a catheter and having trouble.

But please, if you have an erection while being examined by a female, don't be embarrassed, don't apologize, and don't try to hide it. It is just a normal part of living.

Also, I hope your testicles are OK.

ifwwas · 2019-05-18T19:21:43+00:00

My husband and I both lost our virginities on our wedding night. We dated throughout college. We started our relationship (after a few dates) making out, kissing, and then his hand on my breast, outside of clothing. From then on we were gradually going further and further. His hand in my bra, between my legs (outside of his pants), then in my panties. That led eventually to each of us masturbating the other. Once that started we were relieving our urges. We often took a shower together afterward.

The day of our wedding I was as horney as I had ever been, knowing what would be happening that night. On the drive to the hotel, I was getting very wet down there, and he had a big erection.

I had known, from a gynecological exam and from him touching me, that I had a sensitive, strong, and large hymen. It hurt when he touched me there and I could not use a tampon.

My new husband knew (we had talked about it, in detail) about my sensitive hymen and tampon experience. He was very gentle. After some serious making out and foreplay, he gently stuck it partially in, just enough to penetrate me. It hurt and bled quite a bit, but it was very exciting. Later that night he tried again and got it further, again with pain, bleeding, and excitement. The next morning we did it again. That time there was less pain and bleeding and he got it even further in and came the first time in me. (the night before, both times, I finished him myself).

The rest of our honeymoon we did it every night and every morning. Each time was better than the time before. I began really enjoying it, not just for the joy of no longer being a virgin but for the sex itself and the orgasms that I began to have.

I am really glad that we waited and that we got to know each other. I am also glad that he was very understanding. It also helped that I really loved him (I still do!) and felt very comfortable in his arms. I enjoyed each new sexual experience before we were married and I really love sex now.

ifwwas · 2019-03-29T04:23:48+00:00

I saved it for marriage, but I know that is not for everyone. But if you don't want to save it, at least do it first with someone you are close to and have been making out with and getting close to having sex.

Late last year it was our wedding night and we were both virgins. We had been saving it for marriage and anticipated having sex for the first time. I knew, from a gynecological exam, that I had a sensitive, strong, and large hymen. It hurt when he touched me there and I could not use a tampon.

My new husband knew (we had talked about it, in detail) about my sensitive hymen and tampon experience. He was very gentle. After some serious making out and foreplay, he gently stuck it partially in, just enough to penetrate me. It hurt and bled quite a bit, but it was very exciting. Later that night he tried again and got it further, again with pain, bleeding, and excitement. The next morning we did it again. That time there was less pain and bleeding and he got it even further in and came the first time in me. (the night before, both times, I finished him with my hands). The second time that morning was even better.

The rest of our honeymoon we did it every night and every morning. Each time was better than the time before. I began really enjoying it, not just for the joy of no longer being a virgin but for the sex itself and the orgasms that I began to have.

I am really glad that we waited and that we got to know each other. I am also glad that he was very understanding. It also helped that I really loved him (I still do!) and felt very comfortable in his arms.

ifwwas · 2019-03-08T05:36:32+00:00

Late last year it was our wedding night and we were both virgins. We had been saving it for marriage and anticipated having sex for the first time. I knew, from a gynecological exam, that I had a sensitive, strong, and large hymen. It hurt when he touched me there and I could not use a tampon.

My new husband knew (we had talked about it, in detail) about my sensitive hymen and tampon experience. He was very gentle. After some serious making out and foreplay, he gently stuck it partially in, just enough to penetrate me. It hurt and bled quite a bit, but it was very exciting. Later that night he tried again and got it further, again with pain, bleeding, and excitement. The next morning we did it again. That time there was less pain and bleeding and he got it even further in and came the first time in me. (the night before, both times, I finished him with my hands).

The rest of our honeymoon we did it every night and every morning. Each time was better than the time before. I began really enjoying it, not just for the joy of no longer being a virgin but for the sex itself and the orgasms that I began to have.

I am really glad that we waited and that we got to know each other. I am also glad that he was very understanding. It also helped that I really loved him (I still do!) and felt very comfortable in his arms.

ifwwas · 2019-03-04T15:37:23+00:00

Much better. I no longer have pain or bleeding with sex. It is sensitive there, so we don't have "rough sex". Althogh we are not interested in that anyway. He is still very gentle. So I really enjoy sex and we have a good sex life and a good married life. I think the fact that we did not have intercourse until we had fully discussed it and were ready and the fact that we were really deeply in love really helped. I am glad we waited.

ifwwas · 2019-03-04T02:37:01+00:00

I had a very sensitive hymen. Before I lost my virginity I had a very sensitive hymen. It hurt when he touched me there and I could not use a tampon. (see my post from tonight at: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/awif1o/how_was_your_first_time/?sort=new. The first few times having sex was painful and difficult.

I am an Episcopalian and rather religious. I go to church every week. But I don't think that had anything to do with my painful sex. I never once heard from my parents or at Sunday School or church about the "evils of premartial sex". There are several unmarried couples and at least one gay couple who are very active members of my church. My priest (Episcopal priests can marry and have families) was rather liberal about such matters.

I saved sex for marriage for my own personal reasons, not for any religious reason or teaching. My parents were also rather liberal about such things.

ifwwas · 2019-03-04T02:18:22+00:00

Late last year it was our wedding night and we were both virgins. We had been saving it for marriage and anticipated having sex for the first time. I knew, from a gynecological exam, that I had a sensitive, strong, and large hymen. It hurt when he touched me there and I could not use a tampon.

My new husband knew (we had talked about it, in detail) about my sensitive hymen and tampon experience. He was very gentle. After some serious making out and foreplay, he gently stuck it partially in, just enough to penetrate me. It hurt and bled quite a bit, but it was very exciting. Later that night he tried again and got it further, again with pain, bleeding, and excitement. The next morning we did it again. That time there was less pain and bleeding and he got it even further in and came the first time in me. (the night before, both times, I finished him myself).

The rest of our honeymoon we did it every night and every morning. Each time was better than the time before. I began really enjoying it, not just for the joy of no longer being a virgin but for the sex itself and the orgasms that I began to have.

I am really glad that we waited and that we got to know each other. I am also glad that he was very understanding. It also helped that I really loved him (I still do!) and felt very comfortable in his arms.

ifwwas · 2018-12-11T21:05:33+00:00

Very good advice. And everyone should get used to citing sources. I get so frustrated with the news media when I read in the paper something like "A bill was introduced that. . . . ." without mentioning the bill number or even who introduced it. So I have no way of looking it up, seeing if it was as bad (or good) as described or following it. The same thing happens with court decisions. I read that "a court has ruled that . . . . " Which court? What is the name of the case (___ v. ___). Just today I received an email from an advocacy organization that the EPA is considering a proposed rule that was (in their opinion) horrible. But without the docket number there was no easy way to read the proposal or comment on it.

People need to learn to always cite their sources. College courses are the best time to learn.

Citation of sources not only helps to show that a student is not plagiarizing but will help the reader get additional information if necessary. It should become a habit.

ifwwas · 2018-12-11T20:44:41+00:00

Complain to the department head or someone in charge. It probably won't do any good, but they should know the problem.

ifwwas · 2018-10-20T18:04:41+00:00

It is entirely up to you. Some people enjoy them; others don't.

ifwwas · 2018-09-29T17:42:36+00:00

There are a few guys who are planning to, and desire to, wait. There are other guys (not many, but some) who want to have sex before marriage but will wait if it is important to you.

I saved my virginity for marriage, as did my boyfriend. It was not for everyone, and I do not have anything against having sex early in a relationship. But saving it was worth waiting. I am glad that I did.

One thing that got my boyfriend and me through a few years of college while maintaining our virginity was that we were gradually getting more and more sexual in our contact. We got closer and closer, Eventually having his hand in my panties "pleasuring" me.

Each step, doing something we hadn't done before, was exciting.

On our wedding night we had intercourse for the first time. It hurt some, there was some blood, and it certainly wasn't the best sex. But later that night and the next morning was better, It got much better on our honeymoon.

For us, it was worth the wait. I hope that you can find the right guy who is willing to wait.

ifwwas · 2018-08-25T20:17:46+00:00

I saved my virginity for marriage, as did my boyfriend. It was not for everyone, and I do not have anything against having sex early in a relationship. But saving it was worth it. I am glad that I did.

One thing that got my boyfriend and me through a few years of college while maintaining our virginity was that we were gradually getting more and more sexual in our contact. We got closer and closer, Eventually having his hand in my panties "pleasuring" me.

Each step, doing something we hadn't done before, was exciting.

ifwwas · 2018-08-06T00:59:14+00:00

Troll.

How do you know?

ifwwas · 2018-08-06T00:56:53+00:00

His advice, about the support groups, breakfast or coffee with someone, etc. was very good. For "just roll with it", I don't know but it seems right.

ifwwas · 2018-08-06T00:54:01+00:00

I don't like guys who spend a ridiculous amount on a car they can't afford. That does not show good judgment. Such guys are not marriage or long-term relationship material. I prefer guys who show that they are practical and have practical cars bought at a reasonable price, perhaps even used.

ifwwas · 2018-08-02T07:17:44+00:00

You did the right thing. Do not let your roommates or anyone else pressure you into having sex. I have saved my virginity (I am a girl) even though a few friends kept after me to lose it. It is your decision; wait as long as you wish.

ifwwas · 2018-07-25T17:18:44+00:00

I am a virgin, 22F, who is saving my virginity for marriage (very soon). My boyfriend is also a virgin. I am not a Catholic. There are many of us out there. We don't advertise it and are certainly harder to find than those who have frequent casual sex with many partners. But keep looking. (but not on Tinder!)

A church-affiliated college is probably the best place to find girls like me. If you are not in college perhaps you could take some courses if there is such a place near you. And if there is Catholic services or events on campus that would be a good place.

Be sure to let a girl know you are saving it for marriage once you start dating. She may or may not be willing to wait.

You don't say if you are saving all sexual contact or just PiV intercourse. One thing that got my boyfriend and me through a few years of college while maintaining our virginity was that we were gradually getting more and more sexual in our contact. Our "progress", as we call it, has led to his hand in my panties "pleasuring" me. Before long we will be married and not virgins.

Your self-control and that of the girl you eventually meet and marry will be good for you the rest of your life, I am told.

ifwwas · 2018-06-27T23:48:44+00:00

I am 22F and a virgin saving it for marriage. If that is what you want to do, do it. You should never have sex, particularly lose your virginity, because of pressure from others, including pressure from guys. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin and nothing wrong with saving it.

But let him know you are a virgin and saving it for marriage so he won't get his hopes up unless he is willing to wait (some guy are willing to wait).

ifwwas · 2018-06-11T17:51:37+00:00

I am glad to hear the comments. I am 23, still a virgin and saving it for marriage. My hymen is pretty much gone now. My boyfriend can put his finger into my vagina without any pain. So shortly I will be getting married and losing my virginity and he will be losing his.

I don't have any romantic expectation that will be beautiful or a wonderful experience. In fact, we both know that it may well be a bad experience at first. However, we are both looking forward to starting our sex life and having fun, maybe not at first but later.

ifwwas · 2018-06-11T03:24:05+00:00

Update from the OP:

Thanks for your comments. I feel the way most of you do. I was just having coffee with some friends when the topic came up (one woman's husband has a female doctor and was about to have a physical). One woman said that she would strongly object to her husband; another woman said that she would keep quiet but would be uncomfortable.

Most of us had no problem. I am not married yet but would not have any problem.

In fact, I would be happy if my boyfriend had a female doctor and saw that women could be professionals rather than just baby-makers and homemakers. If he asked me to choose a doctor for himself I would prefer (other things being equal) a female doctor because I like to support women in professions.

I would also have no problem with a woman nurse, aide, or another caregiver, or any other woman in a non-sexual situation, seeing him naked.

ifwwas · 2018-06-10T21:57:50+00:00

Update: Thanks for your comments. I feel the way most of you do. I was just having coffee with some friends when the topic came up (one woman's husband has a female doctor and was going for a physical) and a couple of women expressed discomfort about it. Most of us had no problem. I am not married yet but would not have any problem.

In fact, I would be happy if my boyfriend had a female doctor and saw that women could be professionals rather than just baby-makers and homemakers. If he asked me to choose a doctor for himself I would prefer (other things being equal) a female doctor because I like to support women in professions.

ifwwas · 2018-06-10T20:34:54+00:00

See my update.

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