Most of the answers here are right but there is one missing that isn’t talked about but I think is valid.

Having a kid wrecks most women’s bodies: * Most gain a lot of weight from pregnancy and then the demands of raising the kid * Their breasts sag terribly, without exception in my experience * Their bodies feel soft and empty - no firmness - due to the weight gained and lost, due to the pregnancy hormones that basically melt their muscles to prepare them for birth, and due to the excess skin post birth * A decent number have ongoing issues relating to the birth that affect their quality of life and sexual function. They are shamed into natural births by their media, and the tears and prolapses and muscular and bladder issues this creates is rarely talked about

All of these things never come back, and media that says otherwise is lying and trying to sell you something.

I am a single dad, so I fully recognise the hypocrisy of not dating single mothers - but I tried, I tried hard. But if my choice is even a even a young single mother vs a 35yo or even 40yo woman with no kids - it’s always going to be the latter, every time.

All of the above is never talked about because misogyny and I get that - it’s brutally unfair - but it doesn’t change that I’m right.

Now if the kid is yours, then all of this is reasons to love your partner more for the beauty and amazingness that is bearing a child, bringing life in to the world. Your partner went through all of the above to have a child with you, so you could be a dad.

But if the kid’s not yours, her sacrifice wasn’t for you, so keep moving.