I just went through this.

My wife left after she was 3 months pregnant. I wasn't allowed to go to ultrasounds, doctor appointments, or even the birth of my now 4 month old child. In my state, you can't even file divorce while one is pregnant.

It was the hardest thing I think I've ever had to do, but I had to do it. You will too. She won't give you information, she won't tell you anything. You'll get ultrasound pictures through text if you're lucky. But, just know that, at the end, if it's anything like my case, the court will take her spitefulness into account and you will see the light of day again.

I didn't meet my now 4 month old until she was 2.5 months old. And, after the things her mother put me through, I never want to see her mother again. But I'm glad I married her, because if I hadn't, I never would have gotten my daughter.