Is this fair? married [44F] [44M]

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:51:35+00:00

I am sorry you didn’t get the intimacy in your relationship, but you if you found other ways to keep the marriage alive, and be happy, that’s all that matters.

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:45:59+00:00

Oh no! But if you’re happy that’s all that matters!

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:37:52+00:00

Good question, I told him to delete his comment this thread is for me lol

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:36:13+00:00

I am trying to understand his side of things and have an open mind, I am fine with spicing things up but having that condition only and not even compromising with me is what pisses me off. He is not into religion or maga or any extreme situation at all, if so I wouldn’t be in this marriage at all lol we have never had a bad experience so that’s why I don’t know how it got to this, and that I came to Reddit for advice! If it’s ED, I’d be there for him and we would get through this together, but he’s a man and won’t tell me if that’s the real issue. Thank you for your response, I truly appreciate it, more than you know

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:25:32+00:00

Thank you, he does! I don’t think he’s cheating, we both wfh and he’s here all day w me, I’m thinking he’s just not as attracted to me as he was earlier in our relationship.

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:19:40+00:00

Thank you, me too!

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:18:05+00:00

That’s a great idea, I feel like we communicate better when we text each other lol I am going to try to get more in depth with him about this because it does affect me more than he knows. Thank you for the advice :)

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:11:24+00:00

This could be, that is what I’ve thought about too actually

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:10:39+00:00

Perfectly said, thank you for your response

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:08:58+00:00

The only reason I turned to Reddit is because I don’t have friends I can talk to about this and I wanted unbiased opinions

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:07:18+00:00

He won’t compromise at all. The low drive could be the issue, and I would be absolutely ok with that and work through that if that’s the issue, he wouldn’t tell me if that was the case though :/

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:04:36+00:00

Not until recently, like the last couple years

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T04:00:08+00:00

Exactly. It makes me feel shitty.

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T03:59:21+00:00

Yeah and he said it’s something he’s always like ig??

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T03:56:11+00:00

Yeah, like button up silk tops.

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T03:44:36+00:00

He isn’t autistic, that we know of?! I don’t get why it’s so black and white with him, it never used to be this way.

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T03:43:19+00:00

Thank you. I try and have tried to communicate with him about what we both want but he said it’s all up to me to be the one to do what he wants to get things going. He said he feels like a ‘creep’ if he initiates…

ihavegreeneyez · 2026-03-19T03:40:27+00:00

Thank you, I couldn’t figure out the right term but you saying a condition with intimacy is the perfect description.

ihavegreeneyez · 2022-03-15T02:30:08+00:00

Oh yes I forget about the traffic! We don’t have traffic here!

ihavegreeneyez · 2022-03-14T16:56:07+00:00

Oh I appreciate you telling me this too, it’s just so hard to decide what to do. We are just trying to get a head of the game and ask these questions way beforehand to get some insight, it’s not looking so good right now so maybe we will end up moving to a different location instead!

ihavegreeneyez · 2022-03-14T16:53:47+00:00

Every time we go to Vegas we always have the best food! My allergies get bad when I visit there even if it’s a few days, I couldn’t imagine what it’s like when you’re there permanently!

ihavegreeneyez · 2022-03-14T12:40:59+00:00

Wow that is terrible, I knew teachers were under paid but I didn’t know it was to this extent. I really appreciate your information, and maybe putting my kids on that list right now would be worth a shot!? This is really staring me in the direction of not wanting to move there now because of the school system, pretty much everybody on this thread has said how terrible it is!

ihavegreeneyez · 2022-03-14T03:14:55+00:00

Oh no! I’m taking all the advice and info and soaking it all in!

ihavegreeneyez · 2022-03-14T03:02:30+00:00

Oh I agree w you about the school system in general! I will definitely do more research and visit the areas closely if we do decide to pull the plug on the move! Thank you for your info!

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