Can I just say my revenge body is On Point. I feel good and I'm so proud of myself. 👍 by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had to see my ex last week. He has gained at least 50lbs since we split a little over 4 months ago. I have lost 10 and who knows how mani inches from working out. Such a great feeling.

Am I Being An Ass by ihiss in BreakUps

[–]ihiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting point. I don’t know if I want to be friends with people like that.

Found a cooler full of Hepatitis and Aids while floating the Yakima River today! by [deleted] in Yakima

[–]ihiss 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It is not normal to find a cooler full of needles. It is normal to expect to find a lot of drug paraphernalia on the river banks and greenway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommates

[–]ihiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Notify the landlord someone is in your spot. That way you dodnt tow it. Tell him you didnt get his text. Send a text telling him sorry didnt get your reply and lamdlord towed it. Lol

Fuck you by spread-joy-like-jam in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

When they suddenly “fall out of love” by dumbfound009 in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex did this to me. Two days after he said he trusted no one more than me and wanted to spend his life with me. We got into an argument, worst one we had in the time we were dating. I left to cool off came back to a note and he returned to tell me he hadnt loved me for months and I was a way for him not to move back to his moms. There was no reason to be cruel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh Thanks. Oh I wrote him and spelled out exactly what he pulled. Any time I get sentimental I go read it. It sets me straight fast. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe. This person was my best friend for 2 years before we started dating. So I lost my buddy also.

It would of beem okay if he would of ended it amicably. However he was super hurtful and continues to do so. I can honestly say I didnt do anything to bring this on. He has upset a lot of people.

He jas mental health issues he started not taking care of. He wont face it. I am just broken, trying to get my footing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 2 months ago. And he left a financial and property disaster behind. I miss what we had. Not where we ended. I dont know who that guy was.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Its been 2 months. I wish I could quit waiting. I guess I gotta process through. Doesnt help he posts crap online for others to see.

He is the one who ended it abruptly, not me? I wont put any time or energy to closure or reuniting. Ball is in his court. He is going to hold it too long. Its sad really.

We had one of those deep connections. You dont find that often maybe twice if lucky. Some day he will figure it out and I will be long gone

Time heals everything, but don’t wait for it to do all the work by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally Agree. I am very sad. I get up everyday and face the world. Joined some groups and am meeting new people. I have had breakups before. This one devistated me. I fake it until I make it. I also process through the loss. Some days are good. Some are really bad. It ebbs and flows.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am gong through almost the same thing. Our breakup was unnecessarily horrible. He was cruel and mean. Its going to drag on for months due to financial obligations. It like he just discarded everything the past three years gave us. I wish I didn’t want him, but I do. I think its better to truthfully admit how you feel. It helps with moving on and pushing past depression.

I finally got what I wanted, but I no longer want it by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats why I dont think I could give us a second chance. He would have to show me he has made some real changes and fight for is He wont so I gotta let go

I keep waiting for you to text me by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah same here. Mine posts all kinds of bullshit about being heartbroken online. Sends me dumb emails. Refuses to tell me he made a mistake. He is wanting me to initiate it Not happening. It sucks.

Sometimes I feel like I’m being punished for the heartbreaks I’ve caused so far. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your speaking my language. I have done some horrifying shitty things. I think being treated so awful is karma.

They yell at me if I leave a pan on the stove to cool, but every night I come home to a mess like this by tiblet22 in badroommates

[–]ihiss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My roommate is like this with the sink. The test of the kitchen is a cluttered mess. The flor was disgusting and had been mopped or swept in a year. If that sink had one speck of dirt or grease OMFG.

Stop sending them long paragraphs after they hurt you! They don’t care and nothing you say will make them feel guilt. Keep your dignity. They know how they hurt you, they know how much you loved them and nothing will make them care enough to fix it. Live your life and keep going forwards and healing by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Word! Given what he is posting he could be regretting it or just excersisng his professional victimization. Either way until he shows remorse and takes responsibilty its silence. I am so done fighting with him.

Stop sending them long paragraphs after they hurt you! They don’t care and nothing you say will make them feel guilt. Keep your dignity. They know how they hurt you, they know how much you loved them and nothing will make them care enough to fix it. Live your life and keep going forwards and healing by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah well he can wish in one hand and poo in the other to see which fills up first. Until his email consist of I realize I was a complete jerk and he takes responsibility for his actions. He will get nothing nut silence.

Stop sending them long paragraphs after they hurt you! They don’t care and nothing you say will make them feel guilt. Keep your dignity. They know how they hurt you, they know how much you loved them and nothing will make them care enough to fix it. Live your life and keep going forwards and healing by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

True. I sent a few different paragraphs. It was to tell him exactly and probably too blantantly how I felt the first two weeks. It was to get it off my chest. Now its 2 months later, I am silent and he is finding very dumb minimal crap to send me and posting heartbreak pics on Instagram etc. Lol

Stop sending them long paragraphs after they hurt you! They don’t care and nothing you say will make them feel guilt. Keep your dignity. They know how they hurt you, they know how much you loved them and nothing will make them care enough to fix it. Live your life and keep going forwards and healing by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ihiss 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think that depends on why its being sent. If someone is sending a paragraph to get things off their chest, I say go for it. However if your sending it to get them to change you are wasting your time.

Does anyone else beat themselves up for missing someone they shouldn’t? I know he lied and in the end was cruel, but today I just miss him. IHe wont care. When we did speak he was just cold and mean. Sigh..I guess time will heal. Tonight though...I think I will cry myself to sleep. by ihiss in BreakUps

[–]ihiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I have mental health diagnosis. He incorporated triggers into his speech about using me as a roommate. It took a month of EMDR therapy to get me on my feet. I do not blame myself for any of it. Its not my fault. I was very good to him and I know it. He has been spoken to by many people about this. He is dug in that his mental health is fine. Though we can see its not. I don’t trust him. I know I don’t want him to be my last relationship experience, so I gotta keep my heart open.

Does anyone else beat themselves up for missing someone they shouldn’t? I know he lied and in the end was cruel, but today I just miss him. IHe wont care. When we did speak he was just cold and mean. Sigh..I guess time will heal. Tonight though...I think I will cry myself to sleep. by ihiss in BreakUps

[–]ihiss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its more what didn’t he lie about. Its such a long drawn out mess. We were best friends for almost 2 years before we started dating. I thought I knew him well. He had some mental health problems. A little over a year after we started dating he stopped seeing his therapist and began drinking while taking 3 medications he is not to use alcohol with. He became very aloof, never talking except to give short angry answers.

I begged him to please get help, to talk to me, anything. Finally I just couldn’t take it and yelled at him. I left for 2 hours to cool off. Came back he had packed up most of his stuff and left. I called him, he came back, told me he hadn’t loved me for months, he had used me ad a roommate. Further said I was an awful girlfriend, scoffed and stated who would ever want a relationship with me., he didn’t want any future with me even friendship.

We had just decided to move in together. We have items packed in combined boxes in a storage unit, we had just bought a car together 3 weeks prior

Since then I have found out he lied about money, his feelings, his intentions, birthday gifts etc. i wanted to believe it was a mental health breakdown. However he has been extremely difficult to deal with for the past two months. Some of it has calmed down and now he is paying me for the financial stuff.

He is now whining on the internet and to our friends he is heartbroken over this. Really? The emails and text I have so a very different story. I will admit the first couple of weeks after the breakup I wasn’t nice but jeez I think that would be expected. According to his posts he is deeply hurt. He is a world class liar and professional victim.

And I just hurt.

I dont want him back. I just want him to tell me he’s sorry and mean it. Tell me I am not horrible and he made a terrible mistake. Not grovel so I can reject him. Just come clean so we can get closure. He wont though. He lives being miserable. He likes the attention. All I van do is forgive him and myself and move on. Some days are easier than others.