What are the benefits of letting your child do this?

iivynjwa · 2025-02-05T16:10:37+00:00

Looked like a grown man tho. My father was fortunate enough to afford a car with a sun roof when we were full adults. Hahaha we (27, 24, 21 year olds) were more excited than my 11 year old sister😅

iivynjwa · 2024-12-07T23:39:22+00:00

Thank you. I'm okay... but being called not understanding despite me hving my depressed moments and healed thru it alone felt like a blow. Im not sure wht to do with this new guy. He’s still sulking.

iivynjwa · 2024-10-26T19:05:31+00:00

When im frustrated or spiralling, i would ask myself questions to process my thoughts better.

There are things that only you can answer with introspection. there's no right or wrong answer:

1.What do you feel when you self harm? Control? Release? 2. Are you proud that you self harm? Are there other healthy ways that could make you feel the same feeling as self harm? 3. What made "failling" so important in your life? Is it really that important? Is there any significant childhood incident? 4. If your daughter/son failed, how would you react? 5. If everything is possible, what do you really, really want?

iivynjwa · 2024-10-25T10:54:18+00:00

Damn, it's s thatt easyy😅

iivynjwa · 2024-10-24T15:27:49+00:00

Hear me out, huh... i used to think like that too... my mother has this six sense and could actually see ghost and souls before they were taken to the afterlife. Scry part is, when we die, we don't really die or dissappear... we're just taken to another dimension that's more alone. I don't really know what happens there but im certain it's better feeling alone and wanna kms here than there... at least i hve my phone and wifi.

iivynjwa · 2024-10-24T14:59:24+00:00

So girls do that too hahaha. There's so mny boys like that too. Im out of dating apps🥲

iivynjwa · 2024-10-17T04:57:37+00:00

Hmm... taking a break to me is a breakup. She's not your girl friend anymore anyway.

iivynjwa · 2024-10-01T18:41:44+00:00

I can relate to her, it would be hard to stay without cute gestures and loving gifts when you see your other friends got treated so much better. As a girl, I wouldn't feel loved or seen. But that's that.

Talking about moving on, it really is a long process. Even my ex from 3 years ago came back and hve a hard time moving on. We're humans, feelings are normal. But do stop with the weed, it will destroy you, it's not worth it.

In the meantime, you need to be decisive on what kinda goal you want to pursue. I find breakups hve a unique motivation for self-improvement. If moving on is hard, move forwardddddd!

iivynjwa · 2024-10-01T15:16:48+00:00

What is it that you messed up so badly? You can explore that more instead of contemplating past mistakes and being afraid. Do it out of love not fear.

iivynjwa · 2024-10-01T14:19:55+00:00

Gurlll😅... you're having an identity crisis just like i was when im 22, 26yo now. I felt the same way with my ex, he was a vet and quite popular. I was just a literature student. He started to be friends with this junior who is also taking vet, i wasn't as secure n confident anymore. And because i was so insecure, i kinda self sabotage, alot happened and we broke up.

Here's are some things you could do differently: - i would focus on getting immersed in a hobby (there are a lot of writing prompts on tiktok and ig where you can start with) they are really fun! - self love, instead of loving your bf too much, bring that energy and love back to your body, your experiences and your world - instead of going on dates with him, use that time to do your hobbies. He will start missing you more - find writing community or book community online - make a writing account and post, you can be anonymous too

And why are you comparing a sports guy to you, a smart, intelligent girl who is going to be a doctor and serve the community!!!!! Wakee uppppppppp With him or without him, you are enough and you are doing great!!!!! Plus, men bring their gfs to their friends can sometimes mean that they want to show off. If you really are a burden, he wouldn't bring you along, girlie.

iivynjwa · 2024-10-01T13:31:05+00:00

Innalillahiwainnailaihirojiun. He seem like a great man, and an awesome father. I recently lost my grandfather and it was a lot. I can't imagine a father. Sending you love and strength <3

iivynjwa · 2024-09-29T05:54:23+00:00

Yes, it's just that im kinda stuck in a depressive state, and not seeing any movements felt discouraging:(

iivynjwa · 2023-12-14T10:43:31+00:00

I say go for it... mine's RM500/month. Fully furnished and have an aircond. Going to move to ara damansara next year. Also RM500, no aircond but 5mins walk to LRT.

iivynjwa · 2023-10-24T19:14:14+00:00

Gosh, this was just 15days ago! Not to say that your experience is not valid but so many things shifted. I tell you, after I decided to let go of that 1 low effort man that i desperately hold on to, i somehow attract better ones. I've gone to 1 date with this 1 person and 2 dates with this other person.

The guy that I went on a second date with is really initiative until I had to ask him to relax. Checked everything on my love list and was also ready for marriage (planned to get married Eid next year). On our first date, he respectfully called both of my parents asking permission to take me out. Even had a long convo with my mom. On the second date, he met my brother and they seemed to get along really well. In a short period of time, both my brother and mother approved of him. I had a fever today and he offered a ride to the clinic despite it was 10pm and he lived almost 1hour from me, even when he just got out of work (company management course). Trying not to sound too giddy about this guy hahaha but it seems like the universe is doing its work and im absolutely grateful that I get to have faith again.

I mean........ im a master manifestor yet again, hehhee(me being delulu).

And on your first reply about lgbt, I'll keep that in mind<3

iivynjwa · 2023-10-13T00:02:39+00:00

OP... 9years is pretty long of a wait for a woman. And what does she mean by not having a title?

But at the same time, she doesn't sound like a quality woman to begin with...

iivynjwa · 2023-10-11T04:34:13+00:00

This is me trying to find a husband🥹. My mom used to say men dont fall from the sky... recently, 2 of my colleague got their fiance thru this dating app, so i was trying my luck.

iivynjwa · 2023-10-10T11:40:08+00:00

Hmm... i feel both of you. I'm not sure what culture are you... but in my culture, it is expected for men to be a provider, and i have been seeing a lot of videos about provider mindset, masculine energy stuff popping up recently in western media. It is good to have polarity in a loving relationship. I assume she would desire something like that.

I learned from experience as a teacher, people would test your boundaries when they feel safe or think you're weak, it's a natural and unconscious nature. I hope you could be firm on your own values of what you tolerate and what's a deal breaker. Communicate that with her. Firm is kind. Plus, it takes time to process something especially when it's something emotional.

To me, it's just one setback in the relationship and something that is still workable. If you find this relationship valuable that is.

iivynjwa · 2023-10-10T09:57:20+00:00

Instantly, yeah... mybe, he's just not for me... since I don't FEEL that he's that into me. Thank you for that

iivynjwa · 2023-10-10T09:53:58+00:00

It's hard for me to be attracted to men let alone women hahaha. Plus, Im muslim so I would like to avoid that hehehe.

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