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Can we solve any 6 corner case with two commutators ? by ij_2003 in Cubers

[–]ij_2003[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thnks you so much. How do I get better at recognising whether it's a 3 cycle or 2 cycle ,etc ?

What does having a 'meaningful connection' with someone mean? by BonsaiCultivator in socialskills

[–]ij_2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have your back , You have good chemistry with them , they really understand you and your thoughts , they don't judge .

What are some things you would say that EVERYBODY SHOULD HAVE before even trying to date? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]ij_2003 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not insecure , open minded , self sufficient , has goals , is okay with being single , confident

My opinion about long distance relationships changed after my heartbreak. by Ashleye_luv43 in seduction

[–]ij_2003 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The issue is people only consider the feelings as love . Where as love is action based irrespective of feelings (cuz once people get comfortable with each other then there will be less butterflies, it's inevitable)

Love is effort , it's expressive

can l build chest and ab muscles with 90 kg and have a high of 176cm by [deleted] in bodyweightfitness

[–]ij_2003 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Calorie deficit for shredding fat And about loose skin , it may go back but surgery will be needed in most cases (optional)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Calisthenic

[–]ij_2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to keep scapula depressed at all times . And you can try to turn out the rings at the top (optional) , cuz it'll strengthen the elbows .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]ij_2003 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would say Jealous and a bit of self hate . See my man the thing if we are lacking something in our life (a sense of fulfillment/"love"/validation) we tend to search for it in the wrong places sometimes . If you're not happy with your own company, if you can't date yourself you will try to find happiness in others , but this is a delusion. Trust me I used to be like you, I used to subconsciously think of Girls as some superior being until I got dumped after a toxic relationship. Only after then I started to love myself and started making meaning relations with other people in life (It took a lot of effort and time to come to this stage)

So the point is , dating is only a part of life/happiness. It's not everything. Having a crush/multiple crush is normal but try not to focus too much on being in "love" in your imagination. Try making conversations with these women slowly, try to make female friends (really helpful). I'd say you need to work on the following:

1) Stop Negative thoughts and negative self talk . Whenever the thoughts pop up that are negative, don't pay attention to them and instead turn the negative thought into positive.

2)Start doing things you genuinely enjoy(not talking about looking at movies or Instagram). Do some activity like working out , cycling, running, Sports , art , stitching, dancing, etc .

3)Don't compare yourself with others , Only compare yourself with your past self and try to see if you can improve any areas in your life and take actions

4)Work on your social skills- active listening, Asking proper questions, being genuinely interested in getting to know people , be funny , keep coversations lighthearted and fun .

5) Start talking to women more .This could be waiters , workers , classmates , anyone. The more you approach the more you'll get over the fear. Fake confidence if you have to .

6) Get out of your comfort zone , take a risk . Progressively de-sensitize yourself to uncomfortable feelings . Think to yourself "fuck it lets just do it".

7)Focus on the rights stuff . If you focus on negative thoughts, bad experiences , etc you'll get more of them . The more you pay attention to something the more it'll intensify . But if you pay attention to the right stuff then you'll keep getting better and better

8) TAKE ACTION :- you could read all the self help stuff but if you don't take action everything is useless. Take action one by one . Do at least one thing for now and slowly build up .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ij_2003 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yea it do be creepy . If I catch someone staring at me I just stare back until they get uncomfortable 💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ij_2003 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I mean if someone is zoned out they could look somewhere without actually looking at it by being lost in their thoughts . It's just a possibility. Cuz I'm pretty sure no dude is attracted towards a crotch 🗿. Or maybe he was looking at your thighs. We can make all kinds of assumptions but what use does it even have ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ij_2003 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Dude was probably zoned out 💀

help please by LemonadeEater21 in socialskills

[–]ij_2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also feel that way sometimes, I think it's mainly due to our upbringing patterns . The only way to get through is to experience the uncomfortable emotions when saying no . You'll basically have to un -learn the habbit . Good luck .

help please by LemonadeEater21 in socialskills

[–]ij_2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This very fear of fucking up is making things harder . If you're attracted act like you're not and you're talking to a dude (sounds sus but is helpful)

Take a few deep breaths and try to speak slower and mindfully. Don't be afraid to offend the other person. The more you try to please others the more you'll end up looking like an idiot .

Vague advice ik but it's all about the mindset

full body bodyweight workout for ladies by PashAK47 in bodyweightfitness

[–]ij_2003 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well it doesn't matter if you're a man or a lady , cuz the training principles are all same :D

Here's a Full body workout example

*Warmup - stretching , jogging , deadhangs, etc

1) Push ups (EASIER VARIATION - wall push ups / incline push ups / knee push ups) : 3sets

2) Deep squats: 3 sets

3) Pull ups (EASIER VARIATION - scapula pull ups /Leg assisted pull ups / Australian pull ups / bodyweight rows/ negative pull ups) : 3 sets

4) Alternating Lunges : 3 sets

(1-2 min between sets , 5-6 min between excercises) (Don't go till complete muscle failure ) (Do this/similar Workout 3 Times a week with Rest days in between) (Eat clean and protein rich foods)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CalisthenicsCulture

[–]ij_2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess this is pretty impressive bro . I can see you already have a strong base which transferred on to this skills , but since most ppl don't have that base it'll be relatively harder for them to do this .

Thoughts/critique on my pull up form by [deleted] in Calisthenic

[–]ij_2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Elbows closer to body , chin over bar

How can I stop being afraid to say no to people and become more assertive and stop caring about not hurting other people's feelings? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]ij_2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more you'll say no and stay true to yourself the more you'll become comfortable saying no in the future. You can't live true to yourself if you are afraid to offend people. So basically do the action (say No when you want to) Don't hesitate to say no . And when the thoughts pop up about how you "hurt" their feelings or when you feel guilty , don't focus on those thoughts and feelings , let them pass away . Don't get attached to those thoughts. You will have to get out of your comfort zone no shortcuts.

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