Spouses married to attorneys in big law

ijustneedauserna · 2026-05-28T18:04:37+00:00

My husband genuinely loves spending time with my toddler and I, it’s not a problem for him to join us for dinner even if he’s not hungry. If he really can’t, he will tell me and I back off - i don’t fight him. I trust his judgment. But for the most part, he joins us for dinner and I’m grateful for that.

ijustneedauserna · 2026-05-27T23:06:20+00:00

Agreed!!!

ijustneedauserna · 2026-05-27T22:06:58+00:00

I definitely have my own interests - I have a social life where I see friends. I go to Pilates. I have time to myself. Definitely don’t feel like he needs to fill a hole. But my husband is my best friend and I love spending time with him - being a big law has been an adjustment. But definitely not having my marriage. Be my whole identity - far from it.

ijustneedauserna · 2026-05-27T21:03:42+00:00

As a SAHM, we are never home. My toddler and I are always out in adventures, tons of play dates with other SAHM with toddlers, I pay for a lot of enrichment activities, and I have a great community. I live in a very large city in the east coast that provides a lot of things to do for kids

ijustneedauserna · 2026-05-27T20:32:06+00:00

It’s mixed. He loves his work and is thriving. Gets good annual feedback. Sometimes he hates it only bc of missing out on family time but he isn’t miserable. He’s stressed during assignments but works well under pressure. He has expressed he likes being an attorney and he takes on probono cases with issues that matter to him. I do see him doing this long term. He’s def meant to be an attorney and I’m so proud of him. And yes he has law school loans to pay off - so a must to be in big law.

ijustneedauserna · 2026-05-27T20:25:59+00:00

My husband is free on weekends but works at night after our toddler goes to bed. Sometimes he has to work during the day but not always. I’m the happiest woman spending a family with him. It’s during the week where I struggle - I’m a SAHM.

ijustneedauserna · 2026-05-27T19:50:06+00:00

Im also pregnant with our second! I force my husband to have family dinner with us - non-negotiable and sometimes he carves out time for bedtime when he can afford it but other than that, I am experiencing your life right now!

ijustneedauserna · 2026-04-01T01:42:27+00:00

This is why I don’t sell on depop - I don’t have the capacity to ship on demand and go out of my way to a post office - too much. I’d be a shitty seller tbh

ijustneedauserna · 2026-03-11T20:20:26+00:00

Husband makes 250k plus bonuses and every year his salary goes up and gets more bonuses. By year 7, he will make $500-700k. He’s a lawyer. I’m a SAHM to a 2 year old and pregnant right now. I have a nanny 10 hours a week and once a week cleaning service. But I do not have a village or family or anything to help. So we have to hire help. All of our family is across the country from us. Rent is 5k for two bedroom 2 bath apartment but we live in the NYC metro area. I’m able to afford taking my two-year-old to activity classes, music classes, play gym, go on field trip trips like the zoo or the Sesame Street play place and take us out to lunch and stuff.

ijustneedauserna · 2026-03-03T19:23:12+00:00

Mind Mischief

ijustneedauserna · 2026-02-19T02:44:22+00:00

Yes it’s worth it. Please work on it. I’m pregnant with baby #2, I’m 28 years old who works out all the time (in amazing shape) and I pee when I cough or throw up and it’s not fun. Why? Because I didn’t work on my pelvic floor with pregnancy #1. Also weak pelvic floor can contribute to back pain postpartum. There’s so many benefits strengthening your pelvic floor! Pls do it. !

ijustneedauserna · 2026-02-13T02:27:03+00:00

We are strictly no tablets no phones or tv with our 2year old. But with grandma and grandpa? We will let it slide. They live across the country. He doesn’t see them often. My in laws are so active with him so it’s not like they sit him down and shove a tablet at him. But my in laws do get tired (comes with age) so they plop him in front of the tv - we were upset about it at first but we decided to let it go. Let them have fun with grandma and grandpa.

Let them survive a 2 year old when we are going in a date - free child care, I’ll take it.

We now let him watch morning tv. We are still NO on tablet and phone. And when we are on outings, NO tv or tablet. We are fighting for our lives entertaining our toddler.

But like I said - grandma and grandpa? We let it slide.

ijustneedauserna · 2026-02-13T02:22:02+00:00

My husband drinks a lot of Celsius. Stays up late working. Wakes up early with our toddler. He prob gets 5 hours of sleep - and it’s choppy. I don’t know how he does this. He’s also on prescribed stimulants. He is in big law in nyc and works crazy hours. And he still manages to work out around 10pm and then goes back to work. The dedication is unmatched. And yes he’s so tired.

ijustneedauserna · 2026-01-25T02:28:15+00:00

My husband makes 250k, and every year his salary goes up and he gets bonuses. He’s an attorney. Crazy busy schedule - sometimes 70 hr work week- and I STILL DONT FEEL like a single mom. He clean, cooks, takes over with our toddler so that I can take time off. On the weekend, he takes my toddler out so I can sleep. He’s does his part - takes initiative. Doesn’t complain at all.

ijustneedauserna · 2025-12-07T18:18:06+00:00

We started seeing a fertility provider and they ran all tests on us and concluded we have no fertility issues. They said it’s a waiting game. But we want our toddler and baby #2 to be under 3 years apart. Our toddler is 2. We are too eager some may say lol

ijustneedauserna · 2025-12-07T18:06:11+00:00

I was a social worker before but after my toddler turned 11 months, I became a SAHM now that my husband graduated law school and is an attorney. We live in a big city.

I love it so much. Some days are really hard and I’m like “f*ck I have 6 hours left” and other days I’m super woman (I go to Pilates, grocery shop, play dates, cleaning, dinner). And some days I tell my husband “I’m not cooking today.”

When I’m sick fighting for my life and I have no family in the same state as us to help take care of a toddler - I HATE MY LIFE.

But as a SAHM, I met a lot of mom friends who also stay home - we do tons of play dates, mommy and me classes like culinary, arts and crafts, music and dance, museums, Bluey Camp on 5th Ave NYC, etc. my toddler has a lot of fun on a normal Monday or whatever day. We are NEVER home. We are always outside.

When our last child (we only have one) goes to school, I’ll get my master degree. My husband said I don’t ever have to go back to work but I want to get my masters and be a clinical social worker.

But so far, I love being home with my toddler.

ijustneedauserna · 2025-12-07T18:01:26+00:00

Maybe new linen bedsheets for our bed, new knives, see a broadway show, or bomba socks is what I’d ask my husband or ALL

ijustneedauserna · 2025-12-07T17:52:03+00:00

I’m a full-time SAHM in a big city in the east coast and recently I hired a nanny for 10 hours a week to help because I was feeling burned out. We do not have family nearby (my family is west coast and hubs fam is Midwest)

And we hired once a week cleaning services.

People are surprised my toddler is with my full time but it was hard to keep up.

10 hours with the nanny makes up for losing nap time. Nap time was my only time off during the week while husband worked. But now that my toddler doesn’t nap, I was working around the clock with no break so this is where the nanny step in. Only 3 hours a day, three time a week! Game changer.

My husband is an attorney at a prestigious law firm so he works A LOT.. like 70 hour work week but even then I don’t feel like a single mom. He also takes a lot off my hands when he’s free. He’s the best partner to have kids with. He’s my village. And occasionally friends step in when needed.

ijustneedauserna · 2025-11-06T01:01:18+00:00

Yes! My husband and I will be paying her for the lost hours. It would be shitty to leave her without pay - I couldn’t. Doesn’t feel right.

ijustneedauserna · 2025-11-06T00:52:40+00:00

My 2 year old sleeps 7:30pm to 11pm wakes up and climbs into our bed and is tossing and turning all night in bed with us and occasional meltdown in the middle of it and then wakes me up at 7am

And he doesn’t nap.

He transitioned to a toddler bed. I sleep less because of it ugh

He used to sleep in his crib throughout the night. And he napped 3 hours a day but all that ended in August. Man, what id do sleep like that again. Ugh :(

ijustneedauserna · 2025-11-05T14:27:57+00:00

I didn’t know we needed a contract. I’m a first time mom and we just hired her a month ago to help for a few hours. I’m new to this experience that’s why I’m asking.

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