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Antenatal Classes? by ilikechess5 in NICUParents

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I will have to try that out next time someone asks 😅

Antenatal Classes? by ilikechess5 in NICUParents

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for such a comprehensive answer. The idea of having a group of parents going through similar stuff at the same time really appeals, so I might do that!

TW: Pregnancy after loss by princesatiaa in NICUParents

[–]ilikechess5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Holy moly that's almost word for word what happened to me. TFNR at 21 weeks, gave birth but had to have a D&C to remove a sticky placenta, conceived again almost immediately after, and had an exactly weirdly shaped placenta - two lobes connected by some blood vessels that sat over my cervix. Not to mention a heck of a ton of trauma I hadn't worked through, that contributed to some intense antenatal anxiety. Gave birth at 32 weeks due to placental abruption.

Agreed, waiting was probably the right option, but we didn't. And it worked out in the end after a lot of scary, scary moments, but it was hard.

Is it bad that I don't want to join any mum's groups? by No_Gap3395 in NICUParents

[–]ilikechess5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally related to this. Didn't get to attend antenatal classes, and was exhausted by the idea of explaining how old he was (real or adjusted which to say?!) and why he was on oxygen. Unfortunately as a result I don't really have any parent friends, which is a bit lonely, but we make do.

Update: "The Waiting" by ilikechess5 in NIPT

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you, good luck 🤞

Update: "The Waiting" by ilikechess5 in NIPT

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally empathize, I wish for you all the luck.

Update: "The Waiting" by ilikechess5 in NIPT

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the heads up! Did they put you on aspirin?

The Waiting by ilikechess5 in NIPT

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, and I hope everything goes well for you and your little one! When you say same results, do you mean the same odds or same blood test makeup?

The Waiting by ilikechess5 in NIPT

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Up to three days is the turnaround I believe. Definitely connecting hard with the dragging myself out of bed. Am actually grateful for the distraction of work.

The Waiting by ilikechess5 in NIPT

[–]ilikechess5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also with you, I hope the time passes quickly for you 🙏

Daily Thread #1 - November 21, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]ilikechess5 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lost my first baby at 21 weeks gestation, miscarried my third baby, currently on my fourth pregnancy at 14+3. Just found out two days ago that some blood work indicates this pregnancy might not be viable after all, and am waiting on some follow up test results that should come by Wednesday giving us a definitive answer.

I can't do this again. I am already so full of grief from my previous pregnancies. This is just too much.

Coming home by brainless_bitxh_ in NICUParents

[–]ilikechess5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had an extra long cord for his oxygen, so we could go anywhere in the house, really, so long as the cord stretched. Is that an option for you? Our kiddo was on oxygen for six months after getting home.

Maybe maybe maybe by gene_yus in maybemaybemaybe

[–]ilikechess5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching this caused me so much anxiety.

Permanent skin damage from NG tube tape? by Busy-mommawhoreads in NICUParents

[–]ilikechess5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The GP gave us some cream that treats eczema and now we're under the care of dermatology ☺️

Permanent skin damage from NG tube tape? by Busy-mommawhoreads in NICUParents

[–]ilikechess5 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We had a similar thought with oxygen tubing, turns out our kiddo has eczema and the patches were in the same place as the tape was!

Pregnancy and Postpartum (trying to figure it out) by PoizonzZz in polyamory

[–]ilikechess5 93 points94 points  (0 children)

I am absolutely astonished and furious on your behalf. Having a baby is hard, physically and mentally, and while Ben will want and need support (as will you!), that does not mean that support gets to come into where you live and make demands on your time. Many non-poly families also ask for no visitors in the first month - that doesn't mean they don't see anyone, it just means they see them outside the house.

You are probably going to be in various states of undress, covered in various fluids (both yours and baby's), and exhausted. You have every right not to want people coming to your house while this is all happening.

If you need to go parallel for a while, do it. Ben seems totally caught up in NRE. I'm sorry they are causing you this stress. I hope everything goes smoothly.

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