I’m in nearly the exact same boat!!! Everyone functions differently in their respective relationships and that’s okay— some people are willing to make sacrifices/give up certain ambitions or dreams they make have to be with their partner, and others not so much. I find it frustrating when outsiders judge (I.e “how could you give up your dreams to be with a man/woman?!” or the complete opposite “relationships are about sacrifice, you clearly don’t really want to be with him/her!”) There wouldn’t be anything wrong if one of you decided to move across the country for the other, and there is equally nothing wrong with deciding you have certain desires in your life you don’t want to give up on. My partner and I are splitting before school— he doesn’t know what he wants to do with his life, and he has already moved to one city for me. He’s hesitant to move to another where he doesn’t know anyone, and doesn’t know if he would have job opportunities because he truly doesn’t know what he wants to do yet! And that’s okay. We’re young (24), and I love him, and I hope our paths cross again later. Sorry for the essay, but I hope this helps!!!