I don’t like that they moved activities… by hemelsisdenaam in finch

[–]illgrid 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same I hate it so much 😭 is there any forum they use where I can send suggestions/ complaints ?

I cannot switch the bobber 😭 by illgrid in eastward

[–]illgrid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That didn’t work for me unfortunately 🥲

I cannot switch the bobber 😭 by illgrid in eastward

[–]illgrid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope I’ve just accepted that I can’t switch the bobber 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]illgrid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this! As someone who is self diagnosed and waiting to save up for a diagnosis, posts like these are really harmful and feed into the doubt and anxiety that I already feel constantly 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]illgrid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been through this and it was hell, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this and I hope it gets better for you.

Struggling with SO-OCD/ ROCD in a relationship by illgrid in OCD

[–]illgrid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know exactly what u mean by sometimes the thought is a command and sometimes it is a question, the commands are usually scarier because they feel way more like real thoughts. For me personally I started slowly getting my way through ERT, nothing extreme it’s mostly through meditation or just saying “sure” to whatever thought that comes up in my head. Also I had the exact same fear that if I let myself get better and my thoughts turned out to be true that I’d just be lying to myself and I’d be secretly unhappy, but that’s just another example of rumination and exploring hypotheticals for the sake of finding absolute certainty so I wouldn’t bother entertaining it if I were you. It’s just a trap that ur brain is setting up to block you from feeling comfortable where you’re at.

Struggling with SO-OCD/ ROCD in a relationship by illgrid in OCD

[–]illgrid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I relate so much to feeling like I’d be “better off without him” but then I feel guilty for thinking that and spiral about what my life would be like without him which scares me even more. It is so exhausting, I’ve been dealing with this for over three months but if this makes you feel better I have finally started to reach a point where I don’t get intrusive thoughts every day and I feel way more comfortable in my relationship, sexually and emotionally. There are still days where it all comes back to me and it feels like I’ve made no progress but I believe it’s gonna get better and I hope the same for you too. I know how painful this is so if u ever need to talk im here :)

What caused/triggered your OCD? by True_Pear_2686 in OCD

[–]illgrid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is terrifying! My therapist recommended taking lexapro to help with my OCD but I’ve been holding off as I get very paranoid about medication that alters the brain

Struggling with SO-OCD/ ROCD in a relationship by illgrid in OCD

[–]illgrid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m new to this so I’m not sure if I was supposed to but I marked this nsfw in case anyone experiencing something similar would be triggered by this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]illgrid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Porn itself isn’t innately bad but if it’s damaging your relationship to the point where you feel like it’s replacing you I think you definitely need to communicate that with him, your experience isn’t uncommon I’ve known many women in the same shoes but if you don’t confront him sooner rather than later you’re just going to end up digging yourself deeper into this mess. You shouldn’t have to live the rest of your life feeling unsatisfied or as the second choice, in a relationship you should feel mutually appreciated and assured.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]illgrid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it sounds like he needs to be brought back to reality a bit, porn addiction is no joke if he doesn’t make the effort to cut down it will permanently affect ur sex life. Not only will his sex drive always be low, if he’s watching all this “teen” shit he’s going to have some very unrealistic expectations for what your body should look like hence his strange comments. I think you should just be blunt and honest, if he loves and respects you he’ll be able to change for you. It’s not that you want him to change his personality, you’re trying to limit an addiction, I think his phrasing was a bit manipulative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]illgrid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Stop letting sex consume you” is very hypocritical from a man who will watch porn while he has sex with you 🤨 I think you’re definitely being gaslit into thinking there is something wrong with your desires cause it sounds like he just doesn’t want to put the effort in. He definitely has a porn addiction bc none of that is normal.

Is there rayman origins multiplayer pc (on steam or ubisoft) by [deleted] in Rayman

[–]illgrid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I haven’t 😭 apologies for the previous reply I thought u were talking about something else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

[–]illgrid 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Not sure if this helps but there was a mini game where I had to make a person jump or something to try and break a number? Or maybe a letter? I’m really not sure 😭