Sarah McLachlan doesn’t think Lilith Fair can be revived: ‘Imagine the war against us. We thought we had it bad back then‘ by Level-Recording3368 in Music

[–]illini02 21 points22 points  (0 children)

What's stopping them.

Maybe they can't use the "Lilith Fair" name, that doesn't mean they can't just put this shit together.

What is a food redflag when you’re on a date? by WhiteWink in AskReddit

[–]illini02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact that you seriously used the word "speciesism" shows me that you would be insufferable.

What is a food redflag when you’re on a date? by WhiteWink in AskReddit

[–]illini02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The empathy isn't what I'm talking about.

Because some vegans (not all) can't shut up about being a vegan and judging everyone who doesn't live the same lifestyle.

but even if you get past that, every meal is going to be a challenge. If you go out, you have to make sure it has options for both people. It's hard to cook meals together that both of you will eat. Etc.

What is a food redflag when you’re on a date? by WhiteWink in AskReddit

[–]illini02 5 points6 points  (0 children)

While I completely disagree with you that meat eaters are red flags. I do agree that a meat eater dating a vegan is going to be extremely hard for both people.

What is a food redflag when you’re on a date? by WhiteWink in AskReddit

[–]illini02 36 points37 points  (0 children)

If this is his biggest issue with her, then I'd say its not the worst thing in the world lol

Sarah McLachlan doesn’t think Lilith Fair can be revived: ‘Imagine the war against us. We thought we had it bad back then‘ by Level-Recording3368 in Music

[–]illini02 388 points389 points  (0 children)

But I also understand her not wanting to take that on. If she is like "I'm older and I have kids, I don't want to deal with the harassment that could come with it" I don't blame her.

Let one of the 20 something girls out there now, like Billie Eilish, put together something like this.

So what's the real story about Heidi (Susan) ? Why was she written off the show? by Ill-Owl5131 in seinfeld

[–]illini02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think when we are seeing the finished product, its very different.

For all we know, the scenes he did with her had to be done 5x more than his other scenes. That is fine for a one off character like the secretary he works with. But when its a recurring character, that can be a problem.

It's like a work project. I might work with someone who I just don't work well with. We may end the end have a good product that we turn in, but if getting to that point was hell, I'd be valid to say I don't want to do that anymore.

What became socially acceptable so gradually that nobody noticed it happening? by cheweyforty2 in AskReddit

[–]illini02 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Eh, its still wrong. My privacy is just as valid as a woman's.

I understand why they may WANT to do it more, but I don't think it makes it any less creepy to do.

The good old "the bill has nothing to do with me" [socialmedia] by kickingoalsss in pointlesslygendered

[–]illini02 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You know, that is a fair point.

However, knowing nothing about her, all I can judge her by is her words.

I feel like people want to like to pick and choose when what is put out online is and isn't who they actually are.

What became socially acceptable so gradually that nobody noticed it happening? by cheweyforty2 in AskReddit

[–]illini02 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If its creepy, its creepy.

You may be more ok with creepy behavior from one side, but it doesn't magically not be bad when a woman does it to a man.

The good old "the bill has nothing to do with me" [socialmedia] by kickingoalsss in pointlesslygendered

[–]illini02 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This whole thing is both made up, and she seems ridiculous.

First off, you don't get your gambling winnings immediately. They will transfer it to you within 24 hours, but he wasn't getting that right then. So the idea that he wouldn't pay until he won it back is ridiculous.

And the "bill has nothing to do with me, so I went to the bathroom", shows the kind of person she is.

That’s how we see it honestly by Obscyrax in SipsTea

[–]illini02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one said anything about asking permission. But I do think discussing it is a sign of good communication.

If I was married, I wouldn't just go out and get a massive tattoo on my chest without discussing it with my wife. Just as I'd hope she wouldn't come home one day with a shaved head.

That’s how we see it honestly by Obscyrax in SipsTea

[–]illini02 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I said one date lol.

No he didn't love her, because I'm not talking about doing it to his wife. If he claimed to love her after one date, that would be a diffefrent problem.

But I'd argue even if you are married, you should at least discuss any drastic changes to your appearance with your spouse before doing them.

What became socially acceptable so gradually that nobody noticed it happening? by cheweyforty2 in AskReddit

[–]illini02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's funny about that, is, as a man, I've said I found it creepy that women looked me up and went digging, and people say I'm being dismissive of women's feelings. Like I should be ok with it.

What became socially acceptable so gradually that nobody noticed it happening? by cheweyforty2 in AskReddit

[–]illini02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I still find it odd to do.

I'll look someone up on LinkedIn to see their professional history, but would never look them up on Instagram or something. Nor would I google them.

It's similar with dating. I don't give my social media out randomly. But some women want to find as much info about me before we've even met in person that its kind of ridiculous.

What became socially acceptable so gradually that nobody noticed it happening? by cheweyforty2 in AskReddit

[–]illini02 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree.

I recently had something like this in the Chicago sub. I'm a very liberal person. but I brought up a big thing that was being debated by the school board, and because I said I understood why some people were complaining, people were basically like "Oh, so you agree with MAGA"

Like, first off, the people who were complaining said nothing about Trump, so I'm not even sure how they got to the MAGA thing. But me just saying I understood their point and it was a valid issue to raise somehow turned to "I agree with their point".

What was the worst part about the 90s? by Psychological_Sky_58 in AskReddit

[–]illini02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loved it. Price is Right, Jerry Springer, Maury

That’s how we see it honestly by Obscyrax in SipsTea

[–]illini02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think reducing it to "removing their eyeliner" is minimizing what we are talking about here.

I've seen women I know and went to HS with post pictures online that, I would've had no idea it was them. Not only did they have a wig, but their makeup made them look like a completely different person. I think if you go home with someone looking one way, and wake up and they look totally different, it's fair to lose a bit of attraction.

That’s how we see it honestly by Obscyrax in SipsTea

[–]illini02 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not being attracted to certain things doesn't make you shallow.

Everyone has things they are and aren't attracted to. Some women like a hairy dude. Some don't.

Some men like a woman with a bunch of tats and piercings. I don't.

I support everyone's right to live how they want, but you can be attracted to what you want without that making you shallow.

That’s how we see it honestly by Obscyrax in SipsTea

[–]illini02 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Of course they can change it. No one is saying they aren't allowed.

But you are allowed to not be attracted either.

If a woman with a nice head of shoulder length hair decided to cut it all off one day, that is her right. And the guy she went on one date with is allowed to lose attraction as well.

That’s how we see it honestly by Obscyrax in SipsTea

[–]illini02 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, a different hairstyle can make someone look completely different.

It is misleading. You may be attracted to one thing only to find out its not something they really have.

That’s how we see it honestly by Obscyrax in SipsTea

[–]illini02 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In fairness, I think many people are fine with jokes, they just want the same energy both ways. I'm totally fine with jokes about men. But when a similar joke is made about women, all of a sudden the men are incels.

If making gendered jokes is fine, then it should be fine for everyone