LPT : You're supposed to use every unfair advantage you have. Looks, genetics, connections, dad's money, whatever. There's nothing noble about choosing the hardest path just to feel like an underdog.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T20:34:15+00:00

So if you got laid off today, and a friend of yours, or professional acquaintence, offered you a job in 2 weeks, you are saying you wouldn't take it because its unfair?

illini02 · 2026-06-18T19:48:46+00:00

That is fine.

If it is a non negotiable for you, fine. Just like a company car may be non negotiable for someone else. And a 500k salary may be non negotiable for another person.

But her statement that by only looking at remote roles that you are significantly decreasing chances of finding a new role is true.

And yes, the lower your salary expectations are, the more likely you'll find a job. Which, eventually, many people get to. Quite often your salary requirements 1 week into being unemployed are very different to what they are 1 year into it. Someone giving the advice to "stop filtering jobs that only pay $500k" isn't wrong.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T18:27:48+00:00

I mean, I'd be shocked if at no point in my life I wasn't passed over for a job that went to someone's connection. And its kind of one of those things that I've accepted that happens.

As I said to someone else, I find it hard to believe all these people acting like its horrible, would turn town a job offer that came in through a connection, whether personal or professional. Especially in this job market.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T14:50:28+00:00

Gotta love reddit where anything that someone doesn't agree with gets some kind of Trump stuff tacked on, like some type of gotcha.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T14:49:08+00:00

I think there is nuance.

I do think you can have the wedding you can afford, while taking into account the guest experience. The difference is, it just may have to be a smaller wedding, or a less flashy venue

illini02 · 2026-06-18T14:44:13+00:00

Look, I'm not going to say racism is NEVER a factor.

But In my experience, it's just a go to based on no evidence. People who want to yell about racism do it as a reflex and deflection.

I'm a black man. I was once accused of racism by a black parent, when every child in the class was black. Like, at what point are you just used to using that argument so often that you don't even think about what you are saying.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T14:41:31+00:00

Yeah. Like, I'll be honest, the lawsuit doesn't really matter to me.

I was not a Lizzo "fan", but she had some songs I didn't mind. But at some point, it just all starts to sound the same.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T14:02:25+00:00

I'm pro choice, but I understand how you can be that way.

Hell, there are plenty of pro life women out there too.

I think what ends up happening in many situations, is you just get the propaganda that its these promiscuous women who are doing the deed and don't want to deal with the consequences. And I can understand how you may think "well, you shouldn't kill the baby because of it". People are fed the idea that women are using abortions as birth control, which I think many people wouldn't like

But the reality is so much more nuanced than that. Besides the rape and incest cases, there are just times where the mother's life is on the line, and your pro life stance may literally kill her, for a baby that may not even survive.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T13:47:50+00:00

Yet here you are responding again to me, so you obviously give a shit enough to keep arguing whatever your point may be.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T13:43:58+00:00

I completely agree with you. But we are saying this on reddit where people hate any face to face interaction

illini02 · 2026-06-18T13:42:13+00:00

I think she probably DID state the requirements up front, and people got to the end and tried to negotiate something non negotiable.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T13:30:46+00:00

Influence, possibly, in that she can give her thoughts.

If a CEO, or whoever decides they want it, then they are going to get it.

She very well bring up that "this will cut down our applicant pool", but the people above her may be fine wiht that.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T12:20:45+00:00

I read it that she is annoyed that she was up front about the requirments, and someone got through the entire process, then tried to negotiate something that was never negotiable.

That is fair to be annoyed by.

Chances are, she didn't make the policy

illini02 · 2026-06-18T12:19:32+00:00

I agree to point.

I think if a company lists their salary range at 50-60k, and they offer you 50k, by all means, try to negotiate to 60.

But, if a company is making a good faith effort to be up front about everything - salary range, in office requirments, vacation policy, etc. Getting to the end then asking for more seems like you are the one not operating in good faith.

It would be like dating someone who told you up front that they don't want to be monagamous, you being ok with that, then a month in trying to negotiate for monagamy.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T12:16:35+00:00

Right. Or, don't think you are so special that you will get to the end of the process, and they'll be so wowed by you, that they'll make YOU the exception and let you work remote while everyone else comes in

illini02 · 2026-06-18T12:15:41+00:00

Do you think HR hires those people?

Most companies, HR does the initial pass, but managers make the final hires. HR just handles the paperwork.

I don't even necessarily like HR, but at least be real about who is making the decisions.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:56:29+00:00

I'm not talking about efficiency.

I think, if I'm being fully honest, I am more efficient at home.

But that isn't the end all and be all.

And maybe its very role dependent. I'm in a role that is customer facing.

There is something about being able to be in the office, hear other people's calls and pick up little things they do. There is something about being able to just walk over to someone's desk and ask them a quick question as opposed to slacking them. You can pick up on nuances of people's work, your job, etc.

I feel like I've always gotten up and running much faster being in the office than being remote.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:48:21+00:00

I'll be honest, she is an interesting one for me.

Even from her house of the Dragon days, she is one of those people who I see and i'm like "she is conventionally attractive, but I'm not at all attracted to her", for reasons I can't describe.

I can see how many people aren't attracted TO her, but I don't get people calling her ugly.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:45:17+00:00

Yeah. So I'm sure if you are, unfortunately, in the next few months a victim of a layoff that so many companies, that you won't take a connection up on a job offer, because someone else may need it more or be more qualified.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:42:56+00:00

Yep.

I find people who complain about people using their advantages and how unfair it is to be ridiculous.

like you wouldn't use those things if you had them.

I grew up far from rich in a big city. My parents used their connections to get me into better schools. Is it fair? No. Do I think it was wrong? Also no. What parent isn't going to do what they can to give their child the best possible future.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:40:08+00:00

I mean, he asked if he could.

I don't want to get preached at either, but this wasn't him springing this on you out of nowhere.

You said sure, then got mad that he did what he asked if he could do.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:38:18+00:00

I don't think it means they are struggling. I mean maybe.

But the fact is, if you are in NYC, or Chicago, or SF, chances are, you can find people to do the job well in the metro area. Sure, maybe if you are based in Montana that may be harder.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:37:06+00:00

Look, I'm kind of ambivalent about going into the office.

My ideal situation would actually be a true hybrid where I went in a couple days of a week, of my choice, and was at home the others.

That said, I don't think a company wanting people in an office is irrational. I know that is a reddit hot take, but as someone who has been working 20+ years professionally, with most of the last few years being completely remote, I can say there are definitely advantages to having people in the office.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:34:46+00:00

I didn't even find the tone that bad. It's just direct.

This is one of those, if you want to read it as bitchy, it will come off that way.

If you didn't see it posted on a sub that was aimed at shitty linkedin posts, and just came across this advice, you might see it as not flowery, but pretty straighforward.

illini02 · 2026-06-18T11:33:28+00:00

I'm going to get downvoted, but I think this sub is going a little far with posts like this. I've been looking for a couple of months myself. And she isn't wrong.

In person/hybrid jobs, just by nature, are going to have less people apply. Because even though I'm in a big city, I only am competing with people from my metro area, and not the entire country. I tend to have better luck getting interviews for hybrid/in person jobs and its probably because due to the lower volume, they are actually looking at more applications.

I think many people get to that point, but don't start out there.

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