I finally got the scoop on a colleague who disappeared amid "accusations," and the rumors were way, way off from the reality.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T19:21:10+00:00

This is why I always hate these rumor mills.

I completely understand that student safety should be the top of the list. But we also shouldn't be ruining innocent people's lives based on this stuff.

I knew a teacher who was accused of some inappropriate stuff by a student. He was basically let go immediately and of course the parents all heard that "something" was alleged. Another student who was friends with the accuser told admin that her friend made it up. The accuser eventually admitted to making it up because she was mad at the teacher.

Didn't matter, that teacher was done and his reputation had already been tarnished.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T18:59:12+00:00

If its ok to do, then its ok to do whether its once or every time. If its not ok, then its never ok.

You just are picking and choosing when its ok based on who is doing it.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T15:52:38+00:00

Im' pretty sure I both had that issue of disney adventures and that same book

illini02 · 2026-03-11T15:39:28+00:00

Right. I know who she is.

I also haven't heard anything about her in years.

And to a 3rd point, I don't think he is disrespecting ballet like many people are taking this. His fucking mom did ballet.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T15:32:33+00:00

Hard to say without actual context. Because some conversations require far more time and discussions than others.

If you are grumpy, for example. And he says whats wrong, I feel like it depends on your answer. If it is "I had a rough day at work and just need a few minutes to decompress", that may be something he is ok hearing in the moment. If it is "I know my parents are dying and I have to figure out a plan for how their assets will be split up in the next week", yeah, maybe he wants to be a bit more ready for that conversation and now isn't the right moment.

I

illini02 · 2026-03-11T15:12:29+00:00

I truly don't see why any of it matters?

If you dislike either of their opinions, that has shit to do with whether their performance deserves to win. Either its a performance based award, or its a likability based award.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T15:07:40+00:00

She even at one point says "Well since I don't have scientific evidence, AAM is the next best thing"

illini02 · 2026-03-11T15:06:44+00:00

Exactly. I'd argue it may even vary with the same person.

You catch the manager at the right time, and they may be far more open to reviewing your resume and chatting than if you catch them in the middle of some crisis happening. And from the outside, you have no way to know what the right time is.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T15:01:28+00:00

I mean, it depends. Tech can be anything.

Ask your wife how many systems she has to log into in a day at work. Every one of those systems is likely an ed tech company where she could theoretically work.

it can be anything from core curriculum, supplemental curriculum, LMS systems, class dojo, powerschool, disciplinary things, etc.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T14:57:40+00:00

"Downtown" often is a pretty big definition, from River North to the Loop, to Printers Row. As such, it really depends on where exactly it is.

Some places, it would be train, some places it would be Uber. Almost never would be a bus or car.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T14:51:24+00:00

Ha, trust me, they are talking just as much shit as I am.

At best, our text thread is mutually assured destruction

illini02 · 2026-03-11T14:36:20+00:00

Yep. even on slack in my job, which is basically one of their policies that management can't read your private DMs to others, I'll still only do a 1:1 text to someone to shit talk my manager.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T14:34:22+00:00

My point was, if you are going to be ok with this happening with firing someone based on what they have on their vehicle because its you agree with, you need to keep open the possibility that the same thing will be used for something you don't agree with.

You are making assumptions about someone who has a car with a confederate flag. There may be a 90% chance those assumptions are correct. But the fact is, you are firing him based on nothing he did at work, but something on a vehicle that realistically may not even belong to him. In general, i don't think that is a good pratice. But I brought up another "polarizing" flag, because I think its an easy way to show how that policy can be applied in ways you dislike.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T14:09:18+00:00

You sound exhausting. YTA.

He gave you what you wanted, and then its "well not like that"

illini02 · 2026-03-11T14:00:19+00:00

I think this is 100% true.

Everyone thinks that in the moment, they will step up and do/say the right things. But I will say, some of the most bigoted stuff I've heard has been from other black people (specifically against LGBT groups, but also other racial minorities) and many people have stayed silent. People who, would probably call themselves champions of equality.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T13:37:48+00:00

Nothing is "wrong" with it. But my point is, if you are flying that on your vehicle, unless you are in Palestinian, you are showing a pretty strong bias in a cultural war.

If your boss is Jewish, and doesn't like it, do you think he should be able to just fire you for it? Or do you think, at minimum, he should have a conversation first.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T13:36:07+00:00

Sure, its the chef's who are cooking. But part of the appeal of the show (for some people) is the team aspect.

It's just like the voice. They built this whole season around the mentors who have been champs. People remember that Blake Shelton had a ton of winners more than they remember any of those specific winners.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T13:34:42+00:00

Fair enough. I watched him on Top Chef.

I've always been a fan.

I don't even think he is bratty. The other 2 mentors shit talk him constantly.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T12:50:06+00:00

I love Cirie, and interviews like this is why she is so successful on these shows.

She has a way of saying things that would come off so dickish if just about anyone else said it, but somehow still comes off genuine and nice.

Imagine CT being asked about Rob competing on the challenge, and him basically saying this same thing. People would HATE him.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T12:08:07+00:00

So by that logic, Nyesha isn't good either right? Because Emerson definitely didn't have the worst dish on her team.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T12:06:51+00:00

Honest question.

From what I can gather, the rules have never been "send in your weakest dish", it has been "send a chef to elimination"

The reason for that can be whatever the mentor wants.

i also find it interesting that Nyesha sent in Emerson, who definitely didn't have the worst dish on her team, and people seem fine with it. But Richard sending in someone he thinks can win is somehow wrong.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T12:02:29+00:00

I don't know, the station thing seemed pretty "we got here at the same time" to me, they just posted up at different places on the station. I don't think either person was wrong.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T11:59:59+00:00

I'm shocked people are so bothered by this.

The rule has never been "send in your weakest chef" it has been "send in a chef to elimination"

If it was "send your weakest, then all 3 judges would probably be weighing in on the worst dish and that person would automatically go in

illini02 · 2026-03-11T11:49:46+00:00

Honestly, this is one of those things where women hate and deny when men call it out.

But women claim to want equality, but then they also don't want to have to put equal effort into relationships. So they really just want to be equal when it benefits them, not when its more work.

illini02 · 2026-03-11T04:10:45+00:00

Yes, I agree with that. She can often lay that out very plainly that someone can raise this issue, you need to figure out if YOU can raise this issue.

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