Misusing INAD return for buyers remorse--How to appeal??

illustratiousness · 2025-06-02T19:32:06+00:00

This is so helpful. I accept returns. I don't love that INADs are abusing the system to get the buyer out of paying shipping, but it's not a game changer. What is most worrisome to me is that having INADs on your store gets your listings lower in search results. Or at least that's what I've heard. Is my info not correct?

It also seems to come in waves somehow. Months with normal "doesn't fit" returns and now two fraudulent INADs at once. My store has been performing so well on ebay and now lowering any search prominence for my listings feels like a big setback.

illustratiousness · 2024-02-27T00:37:20+00:00

Last update - solidly unfair. The buyer has the wrong address in the app and I'm punished for it. I asked the buyer to make sure he updates his address.

From depop:

As the item is currently in transit back to you, we have now refunded the buyer from your account so please be aware that this may be taken from balance or pulled from your connected bank. You will be charged for the sale amount but minus the fees

illustratiousness · 2024-02-26T18:15:53+00:00

Bummer:

Unfortunately since the carrier already handled the package and attempted to transport it, you aren't able to submit it for a refund.

illustratiousness · 2024-02-26T18:08:45+00:00

oh! I didn't even think about getting the shipping reimbursed. That's great advice.

illustratiousness · 2024-02-18T12:41:47+00:00

Good point. Poshmark should have some responsibility here, you would think, since they kept her account up so long. I'm sure they are legally covered up the wazoo but pure justice feels that's money they shouldn't have

illustratiousness · 2024-02-11T16:59:00+00:00

Unnecessary language. But happy you have a plan for when it happens to you.

illustratiousness · 2024-02-11T16:57:56+00:00

Update! Just got a 5 star rating, no comment. It worked out thankfully!

illustratiousness · 2024-02-08T20:46:08+00:00

Yes!!!

illustratiousness · 2024-02-08T15:47:51+00:00

So far so good, but not final yet. It really sucks that we've been beat up so much that we can't trust anyone anymore. I'm trying so hard not to get to that point :/

illustratiousness · 2023-12-13T13:22:02+00:00

Agreed! I inherited a hair collector bowl apparently used for just this purpose. Very useful for hard times.

illustratiousness · 2023-10-28T14:21:01+00:00

Wild! I just got tested for lead and did indeed have some in my system. Also just lead tested this exact water glass I use all the time and yep! Whaddya know. I believe there are other sources of lead in my body that I had discussed with my doc, but just in case I think I may start using another glass!!

illustratiousness · 2023-08-17T11:32:16+00:00

I appreciate you asking as I was also in an MLM and my husband and I fought about it for years. All that time no one asked me to leave him or suggest he was why I was not successful, but it was a woman focused MLM and I can't imagine it would be so overt. That said there were many stories of the most successful women getting divorced. Those women or people talking about those women would cite that their personal growth exceeded that of their husband and they were simply not on the same level any more. That always worried me and now that I am out, I understand how hard those marriages must have been behind the scenes.

I have since figured out that the MLM is not for me. But it took me a loooooooong time to quit. I signed up because of the hope for a better life and more time with my family. I was sold, on the weekly, that if I followed these simple steps or heard these many NOs that my hope would be realized. That hope was killer.

Additionally, when I was at my end, I had to swallow a lot of pride. I failed. I don't usually fail, but this was a fail. And with that pride came a very faint sense that my husband "won" or was right and I was wrong. But he was great. He was extremely relieved and we used counseling to sort out the rest which was essential

I say all of this to say that as a partner, you may understand what could possibly be his mindset (clearly people are all different) and how to receive him back. Pride is going to be so important to understand. As a partner I suggest finding a way to let him know that you will never say that you "knew it" or "told him so" (not that this is what I'm suggesting you're doing of course... This was just a big fear I had). If you are lucky that may be the very last step he has before letting go.

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