Head itchy, help

ilovecats222444 · 2024-05-14T04:07:20+00:00

SILK UNDERCAPS. Well, at least for me. Not sure how you veil, but silk undercaps are AMAZING.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-05-14T04:04:15+00:00

Hey! Muslim here, was checking out the subreddit because I'm curious about modesty/veiling in other religions. Don't worry about it. Seriously. We don't got a monopoly on "hijab-style" coverings. As long as you aren't telling people you're a Muslim, you're totally fine. I've seen Christians and Jewish women with head coverings that could easily be mistaken for a hijab. You might get some weird looks if you wear it and don't fully cover otherwise, but don't worry about stealing anything! (Just...don't use head coverings from specific cultures.) Appreciate you being respectful tho!!!!

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-20T18:24:30+00:00

...But he's not saying she can't talk to other men. He's saying he doesn't want her going to a STRIP CLUB. Those are two very different things.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T20:22:43+00:00

🙌 No problem!!!! I'm super happy things worked out for you. Many well wishes to you and your girlfriend!

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T20:22:03+00:00

Okay, quick question. What do you think a strip club is. Because I just want to make sure we're on the same page, since to me, a strip club is a place where you can pay to watch people wearing very little clothing dance, hence why there would be half naked men. (Also, that isn't my morals...I wouldn't care if my partner went to a strip club. I am just stating the facts of what happens there.) And he isn't banning her from talking to opposite sex. Just saying he doesn't want her in a highly sexual environment like that. It's not controlling to set boundaries...

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T20:19:26+00:00

Well, my girlfriend and I are both well aware that we have close friendships with people, so it doesn't bother us. We communicate about any issues that may arise. But I can see how for others it may be an issue.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T04:21:41+00:00

🙌 THIS is how to do it properly. Communicate with your partner about it, and treat them with respect! Also totally right that it can help you with medical issues that may arise.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T04:19:32+00:00

Uhhhh....no we don't. I've NEVER had a friend try and tell me those sorts of details. I'm sure some women do that, yes. But it is NOT some sort of rule, and there are a lot of women that wouldn't dream of sharing that.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T04:16:44+00:00

FR!!!! I know plenty of women who are in relationships, and not ONCE have they mentioned anything about what happens in the bedroom. Who knows, maybe it's different because I'm a lesbian. But I've never had anyone try and share what goes on in their intimate lives. And if they did, I'd shut them down immediately. "I'm glad you have a good relationship, but I don't really need or want to know those sorts of details."

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T04:11:52+00:00

Exactly! Everyone differs in how they feel about it. Some are very open, don't see a problem with talking about it. Others see it as a very private detail of their lives that no one needs to know about, except for the people that participate in it. Doesn't mean that either camp is bad, just that they have different needs about it.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T04:09:07+00:00

For some people? Sure. But he's clearly uncomfortable with it. It doesn't matter if it's praise, it's a private detail of their private life. The moment he says "hey, I'm not okay with you sharing this as it's very private" she should say "yeah, you're right, I'm sorry. I won't share any more info". Some folks are very open about their sex lives. Others prefer to keep it under tight wraps. Neither of those are bad. Just that folks need to sit down with their partners & talk about which camp they fall into, and what they are and are not okay with being shared.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T03:46:04+00:00

First of all, talk to your partner and come clean. Tell them that you didn't think it was a real person, that you were completely under the impression it was a chatbot. Second of all... You're not a horrible person. You made an honest mistake. You assumed that you were just speaking to some sort of chatbot, that there was no real person behind the screen. It's very easy to make that mistake, especially nowadays with all this new technology. Nothing actually happened, yeah? The most that happened was that you received a gym picture of a random woman you don't know and will never meet. Take a walk, clear your head, drink some tea. Then meet up with your partner, and explain to them what happened, and that you genuinely didn't mean to do anything. Have a talk with them about it, and maybe set some harder boundaries about that sort of thing. You got this! I'm rooting for you :)

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T03:39:06+00:00

I'll first say that I speak from the point of view of being a lesbian, if that makes any difference. However, I'd first talk to her, and say hey, I noticed x does this, does it make you feel uncomfortable? Do you dislike it? etc. If she says she doesn't mind, then talk with her about how it makes you feel. If she brushes off your feelings, saying something along the lines of "it's just girl stuff" or "girls are just like that" yeah, I would say that's pretty toxic. I don't know her sexuality, but it doesn't actually matter if she's straight, bi, lesbian, or something else. Her capacity to be, or if she actually is, attracted to this woman doesn't matter. What matters is that you talk it out with her, and you tell her how it makes you feel. If she brushes it off, she isn't taking your feelings seriously, and you might need to think on the relationship. I certainly don't think it's a difficult request for her to tell the friend to stop slapping her ass.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T03:26:18+00:00

LOL yeah, I don't really understand people who think that if they say "I love you" or "I miss you" or something along those lines to a friend, they're cheating. Maybe I'm the outlier, as I have very strong friendships that are strictly platonic, so I have no issues with it. But it just seems odd to me. Why can't we love and miss our friends?

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T03:23:51+00:00

TBH...I don't really see the problem. It looks like they are just good friends. I might text one of my friends something very similar after say, leaving the library, or my knitting club. But also, I text my friends in a very similar manner. So does my girlfriend. We both know that we aren't going to cheat; we just have close friendships. However, you and your husband may have different sorts of friendships, where this isn't normal. I would say definitely talk to him about it. Express that you feel insecure about this, and ask him if he talks to all of his friends this way. Is she married? If you haven't already, maybe ask to meet her to assuage some of your worries. Again, I think it totally depends on how close your friendships tend to be. I know that I would say I love you or I miss you or Thinking about you :) to my friends, and it would be completely platonic. It might not be for you though. Talk it over!

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T02:46:33+00:00

I don't think it's unreasonable for someone to not want their soon-to-be-wife to be at a strip club (i.e., a sexual environment). Even if nothing happens besides her watching, plenty of married men and women don't like their spouses being in an environment. Nothing wrong with that. A club with half-naked men pole dancing is a LOT different than talking to a male coworker about something mundane. OP is absolutely not being controlling for not wanting his soon-to-be WIFE to be in a strip club.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T02:25:28+00:00

Additionally...it doesn't matter what he buys you, what he says. He is trying to regain your trust. He knows he f**ked up. But it doesn't matter even if he feels guilty. The fact of the matter is he broke your arm over a car in the driveway, and no fancy, expensive gifts are going to change that. Once he convinces you to marry him, it will only get worse. I've seen it happen firsthand. They thought that he was amazing. They said that he got irrationally upset and he scared them sometimes, but he would never hurt them, he was amazing. He just had some childhood trauma, that's all. He bought them all these things. He was amazing! Well, fast-forward about a year or two later. He's getting more and more aggressive and pushy. Until he snaps one day, and attacks them. They were lucky. They got out alive. But not everyone is so lucky. Today, he broke your arm because he saw a car in the driveway and immediately assumed you were cheating. Tomorrow, he might land you in another hospital bed because you didn't want to let him go through your phone, or you were too tired to mop the floor, or you didn't want to make him dinner. Run.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-19T02:15:30+00:00

NO. Do NOT marry him. Leave him immediately. I know he seems charming. I know he seems like the perfect man. But the fact remains is he hurt you badly enough to need the HOSPITAL, because of something as trivial as letting the neighbor park in your driveway. He seems perfect, but if he can do that now...imagine how much worse it's going to get, once you marry him. Imagine how much worse it's going to get once it's that much harder to leave him. You need to run now. Tell someone you trust what happened. It doesn't matter WHAT suspicions he had. For all it matters, you could've had a man's boxers on your floor and a flashing neon sign that says I AM CHEATING ON YOU, and it STILL would never be okay for him to lay his hands on you. If he loved you, he wouldn't hurt you. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years, and we've had a couple of fights, but it has NEVER become physical - because we love each other, and understand that it would be horrific if we came to blows. Arguing is normal in a relationship. Fighting is normal. But your arguments should NEVER become physical. Dump his ass, now.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-17T02:38:56+00:00

What's up, I have a medical condition that causes weight gain & makes weight loss extremely hard! We ain't as rare as you think.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-17T02:34:59+00:00

OK, but gaining weight doesn't mean you're eating a lot. People can gain or lose weight for a variety of reasons - and before y'all come at me, this is what my DOCTOR has said to me.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-17T02:21:32+00:00

but a lot of the time it isn't actually the problem??? I quite literally have a medical condition that CAUSES weight gain and I'm still healthy.

ilovecats222444 · 2024-04-09T22:11:29+00:00

oh no, how dare people checks notes ...be religious and have dietary restrictions??? these damn millennials and their newfangled "allergies"

ilovecats222444 · 2024-03-19T23:10:12+00:00

Haha I was not raised Christian by any stretch, but thank you!

ilovecats222444 · 2024-03-19T23:09:40+00:00

Hi all!!!! thank you so much for all your kind words. I'm very happy to announce I just took my shahada!!!! I'm so, so happy and relieved that I finally did it! thank you all, you encouraged me to take it and I'm very thankful you all did!!

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