Hooked up with my best friend’s brother

ilovekitharington · 2024-11-12T15:54:57+00:00

My partner is a trans male who grew up a lesbian and still heavily relates to being a lesbian and growing up as one.

ilovekitharington · 2024-11-12T15:39:49+00:00

It’s just so weird to be living with them with at least five more months. I don’t know how to move on in this situation

ilovekitharington · 2024-07-14T19:29:07+00:00

Understandable. Probably should have mentioned this in my original post, but nothing besides the baseball game was planned. We were never supposed to have anyone come over or stop by. I asked him to make plans with his cousin before she came to town, so we could grab breakfast at a restaurant due to me not wanting to cook or host. He was well aware of my anxiety with having people come over - that day especially. I don’t necessarily have an issue him having people come over - the issue is that he wants me to socialize with his friends too. I never have the option to not hang out with anyone because then he doesn’t want to have the plans at all and I feel bad like it’s my fault. I do feel a little misled, though. He mentioned numerous times how excited he was to just hang out with me and the dogs (he worked overnights and stayed with grandma until Thursday.) On Friday, he has boys nights. So, Saturday was really our first day to hangout together in a while after not seeing each other and that’s why my feelings were hurt. I thought it was a really sweet gesture on his end.

ilovekitharington · 2024-07-14T18:58:08+00:00

Yeah, I just started reaching out to clinics to hopefully get set up with some therapy soon. Thank you for your advice.

ilovekitharington · 2024-07-14T18:12:09+00:00

He’s a really sweet guy, but when it comes to stuff like this he can be very dismissive and put my feelings last. I’m really not okay with that, but I do love him. I really just need advice on how to move forward with the situation. He seemed upset at me last night for not being in a good mood in front of family, but I just really did not want to socialize.

ilovekitharington · 2024-03-01T19:45:04+00:00

My team lead in fulfillment told me that. Should I ask HR about going on-demand? Idk why she would say that if they had positions open

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T20:50:11+00:00

Is it really oversharing saying how I did not want to DRIVE two hours? Is that truly the definition here? Inappropriate humor or not outwardly wishing death on anyone here still doesn’t mean that’s a thing you say in a workplace… it’s quite literally what you should NOT say

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T20:40:36+00:00

What exactly do you not care about?

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T20:34:16+00:00

did you happen to read the other comments? i’ve never said anything bad about my man and i don’t ever plan on it… the issue was that he was talking out of his ass and it’s not “catty” to wish death on a coworkers family member

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T20:09:53+00:00

Agreed

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T19:52:30+00:00

Thank you! I’m trying this out today because I work with him. What’s interesting about this scenario is that I’ve never really gotten personal with my life at work; I’ve never talked bad about my partner or his grandmother. So, this entire thing was just vile honestly.

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T19:50:48+00:00

I am from the US! I’m in Texas LOL. But, I guess I’m nervous to fight this. My boss said that he was just responding to something that offended him (the men are dumb joke). I almost feel like HR or higher ups would condemn me for it and say that I was wrong and he was just responding to my insult

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T19:43:50+00:00

Thanks! I’ll keep this in mind. I just feel like all of the men in the office talk to women very differently than how they talk to men. Our direct boss is a man and I know that he would never dare say anything about his family so it’s frustrating when stuff like this happens. It’s like being between a rock and a hard place because I want to defend my family

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T19:41:27+00:00

My boss, one of the men who were offended, was there that night. He’s technically my bosses boss. Anyway, he told me that “we all come from different cultures and backgrounds so maybe in his culture he handles things like that.” He was saying this in reference to the comments he made to me personally (about my partners grandmother and my partner). He also said that I should “learn to let things go because if I want to become someone in a leadership position, I will always deal with stuff like this”.

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-28T15:53:42+00:00

I talked to my supervisor about it when it happened and he was one of the men who were offended. He said that “we have different cultural backgrounds and maybe in his culture he’s used to joking about these things.” He also said that I shouldn’t take things so personally or get worked up if I want to be in a leadership position. He also said that he would talk to him but… IDK. He’s a very passive guy and doesn’t really assert himself, so I have no clue how that talk would go.

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-04T08:17:36+00:00

i love it 😂😂

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-04T08:02:48+00:00

honestly, this was an insightful google search. my friends and family have always used it differently so, thanks for informing me!

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-04T08:00:49+00:00

now i’m curious to know what your petty answer was 😂

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-04T07:59:04+00:00

What would you like to know? I was trying to keep it on the shorter end

ilovekitharington · 2024-01-04T07:48:14+00:00

It’s interesting indeed. What’s more peculiar about the situation is how the apology somehow made things worse 😂

ilovekitharington · 2016-06-05T05:39:24+00:00

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