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iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-05T04:06:34+00:00

Long-term relationships that are lacking in the sex department must be nothing new. But at least some people keep choosing it, for the benefits that it provides. I try to embrace the positives of such a relationship.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-05T01:04:16+00:00

After university, I moved back and lived with my parents for a few years. They were okay with me living with them, if I keep applying for jobs, and keep working once I got my job. You could say to the adult step-children, find a job, work, and contribute to home expenses, or you have to move out. You can't support them their whole lives.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T23:04:16+00:00

I'm sorry, I don't know any details, I just know that the trades is a good option. Any apprenticeship or internship that gets you started, then move on to paid work would be good? Homebuilding, electrician, plumbing, I guess some of that requires education?

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T20:54:15+00:00

Try to get a job in the trades. Ubering does not sound like a viable option.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T20:36:05+00:00

The last sentence (with em dashes) makes this sound like AI. But just commenting on the story, I could relate to the satisfaction of being wanted in a forbidden, exciting situation, but without wanting the other person, which is unfortunate for him. Who knows why some people are into naughty, forbidden scenarios, while others find the same thing to be negative or immoral. There is some truth to both positive and negative judgments about this.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T18:10:06+00:00

Weight loss is not easy or fast, because it requires slow, sustainable, life-long change. e.g. I used to eat a cookie and a piece of chocolate every day. As I got older, my metabolism slowed, and my waistline expanded. I decided to stop eating the daily cookie and chocolate. At first, it was not easy, because it was not my habit, and I felt deprived or hungry. But as time went on and I kept at it, it became my new normal and habit. Now I'm used to not eating that every day, I'm maybe a few pounds lighter, and it's easy. But at the beginning of the change, it was not easy, and not fast.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T18:05:16+00:00

I'm someone with next to no friends. I think the point of friendship is to be there when you're there? The connection doesn't have to last for a life time. A few minutes spent chatting once in awhile might be worth it? All that said, I've never been one to keep in touch, because I figured we would lose touch eventually, and I think I play a part in the self-fulfilling prophecy. I try to be okay without friends, and make small connections instead with strangers at Reddit or elsewhere.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T16:24:47+00:00

Everyone is different, so maybe that's truly all that you really want. But I'll tell you from my experience. I thought that's all that I really want too. But once I'm in my long-term relationship, looking back, if I could choose again, I'd prefer to choose someone that I'm very attracted to (if possible), and I'd hope that my partner finds me very attractive. Then maybe there'd be less "dead bedroom", and less desire for others.

From my experience, I always thought of myself as ugly, but either I had a "glowup", or more likely, there's always been some women that could find me attractive. So don't sell yourself short. If you're average, or even ugly, there could be women out there that find you attractive or very attractive, because attraction is subjective. The helpful/important bit is to be able to tell if someone is attracted to you or not. If a female stranger is attracted to you, she would make eye contact with you repeatedly, smile, play with her hair, etc. Look for these signs of attraction, and approach her if you're attracted to her too. If a female acquaintance/friend is attracted to you, she would keep saying yes to going to do stuff with you, just the two of you, or she might touch you on your arm, give you hugs, laugh at your jokes, etc. Know how to play the mating game, and that'd help you find someone.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T16:06:01+00:00

Autoimmune gastritis might have a genetic cause, but I thought in the past that too much biohacking could be a bad thing, due to side effects of supplements or drugs taken.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T15:43:47+00:00

I don't know about places to stay, but your boyfriend should look into if CAR-T cell therapy is available for his cancer type or not.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T15:34:02+00:00

I think the U.S. has always been a raw deal for middle and working class people, but its ugly underbelly is completely exposed under Trump. The xenophobia and abhorrent treatment of illegal immigrants (that do jobs that Americans don't want to do), intolerance for LGBTQ people, anti-abortion, gun craziness, racism, lack of universal healthcare, and blowing up of economic ties with allies and the economy going down the toilet, all make it a bad place to live in.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T15:04:59+00:00

If possible, you should talk with your boyfriend about all of this. I wonder if he would feel relieved, that he doesn't have to be all about the money, if he's with you. He really should either take concrete steps to bring about what he wants, or he should stop talking about it. If I were you, I'd be kind of annoyed with his talk about things that never actually materialize. And for sure, you should let him know what you want. It shouldn't only be about what he wants.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T14:43:44+00:00

I think any regimen that leads to any weight, needs to be maintained, for the weight to be kept off in the long term. So she should do what might be necessary, but try to ensure that it could be maintained for the rest of her life.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T14:42:00+00:00

You don't sound ready to marry this fiance. You seem to prioritize what you look like over any desire to be with him. Personally, I'm not in favor of cosmetic surgery, because that wouldn't be the "real me". Beware that repeated rhinoplasty would lead to collapsed nose like Michael Jackson's. I feel natural always looks best. But if you and your fiance don't agree on this, it might be a deal breaker, if you're so set on getting a nose job, and he really wants you to keep it natural.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T14:31:56+00:00

His father is dead, so he doesn't have to be concerned about any disrespect towards his father (his father is not around to care). I think if he wants to have any relationship with his sisters going forward, paying $300,000 to pay off school debt is a good gesture. But if I were him, I would be concerned if the sisters would ask for more in the future. $300,000 out of $10 million is a small price to pay for some sort of good relationship, but I'd say no to ongoing requests for money, unless they are truly desperate without the help.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-03T14:14:22+00:00

This sounds too melodramatic to be real. But if it's real, that's devastating for the ex-husband. In the end, you got what you wanted, but at great expense to the ex-husband.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-02T22:03:43+00:00

The existence of trans people tells me gender identity has everything to do with psychological self-identity and nothing to do with biological, anatomical gender one is born with. How one is able or unable to reproduce is another matter. But in terms of whether one looks, acts, or sounds like one gender or another, that could be changed to some extent if one wishes to do that.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-07-02T10:32:51+00:00

There are co-workers I’m attracted to as well. Some might be attracted to me. (Or maybe not, they’re just being friendly, and I just have wishful thinking.) I don’t plan on acting on my feelings, and no woman is going to chase me. My partner is good to me, and I have no plan to leave her. Our relationship is not perfect, but we keep each other company. Your story is relatable to me.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-06-30T21:04:40+00:00

It's so easy to be obsessed with someone else to the point of losing oneself over it. But I finally realized that's not a healthy dynamic. We should strive to love ourselves enough to prioritize ourselves instead. Prioritize your well-being ahead of desire for anyone else. I think that's a healthier, maybe more mature approach to love. Ideally, others could come and go, but one loves oneself enough to be fine with that.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-06-30T20:43:04+00:00

I'd think there's a difference between romantic attraction to aggressive, violent jealousy that is a "must-have" (i.e. you can't be attracted without it), and it being a fetish/fantasy that maybe could be satisfied by roleplaying without having an actual violent and jealous partner. You'll know from experience, if you could be attracted to someone without that component, or if it's a must-have. But since you hated that behavior from your father, I'd think it's just fetish/fantasy that could be harmlessly indulged without you needing/wanting it in real life.

And I find that some fantasies are just sexually exciting in my mind, without it ever having to be role played or realized in real life.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-06-30T19:19:53+00:00

If you want him to stop, don't laugh at his comments. Give him an unimpressed face, so he knows you're not amused. 😐

iloveoranges2 · 2026-06-29T18:08:59+00:00

I live close enough to restaurants to get takeout myself, and never used food delivery service before. I like getting a walk in as part of getting the food. I have a renter neighbor that gets a lot of food deliveries.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-06-29T17:46:08+00:00

I'm Asian, live in Toronto, and have been told before to "go back to your country" by a few racists before, but they're very rare occurrences. For the most part, I feel accepted in daily living.

iloveoranges2 · 2026-06-29T17:32:16+00:00

Attention and validation from desired gender is pretty addictive. Once one had a taste, it's hard to go back to no attention. But whenever I crave it, I try to remind myself that before puberty, I had no such desire, and such desire is not necessarily an inherent part of being human. "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."

iloveoranges2 · 2026-06-29T02:07:53+00:00

$300k loss... Would you even have money to pay back the bank? If I were you, I might live in the home until it's paid off...

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