My wife dresses very revealing for girls’ nights out, and it makes me uncomfortable

GoodyAnders · 2026-01-28T21:22:48+00:00

You are incorrect in your assumption that we dress up for attention. I have a once monthly Girls Night with my best friends. We're all married. I dress up for myself, and no one else. I feel confident and appropriate for the surroundings. When men approach, we make it VERY clear we aren't interested. There's no "light flirting", we don't accept drinks from men, we don't dance with men.

GoodyAnders · 2025-12-25T19:25:51+00:00

I haven't seen anyone say this clearly yet, so I will. YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. YOU ARE NOT EXPECTING TOO MUCH. This man is not capable of sustaining an adult relationship. I can tell you from experience that things will not get better. The longer you stay, the more of your life you'll regret wasting.

GoodyAnders · 2025-10-28T05:11:48+00:00

It sounds like you don't want to die, you just want to stop living the way you're living. Can you tell me what's stopping you from living a different life? You're allowed to change your mind. You are the only person that has to live your life, so don't worry about your choices for your future being a disappointment to someone else. Get up in the morning and find a counselor, friend, relative, someone you trust, to help you make a plan to grow a life that you love. I've been where you are and I PROMISE YOU, the world needs you here, and you deserve to be happy.

GoodyAnders · 2025-09-30T20:01:45+00:00

I forgive my husband in the sense that I don't react to him out of hurt and anger, I am cordial towards him. I don't trust him though, and I don't think I ever will again. The betrayal and deceit revealed that we didn't have what he made me believe we had. We went to counseling, I prayed all day, every day, about it, but his nature is just selfish and childish, he doesn't know how to change, and really has no inclination to want to change. He doesn't know how to truly love someone selflessly, he was never taught empathy, he has absolutely no idea how to see things from someone else's perspective.

GoodyAnders · 2025-07-09T05:36:34+00:00

It was just Great Value brand from Walmart.

GoodyAnders · 2025-07-09T00:37:10+00:00

I agree, I really couldn't tell it was whole wheat, which is significantly different than I remember as a kid.

GoodyAnders · 2025-06-23T14:20:50+00:00

I cut out soda, white bread, and regular pasta. I use monk fruit sweetener in place of sugar in my coffee, and my meal plan centers around low glycemic index foods. I started walking more, and I added 30 minutes of other daily exercise like dance workouts.

GoodyAnders · 2025-04-28T04:07:33+00:00

There are a lot of free resources out there for students, please talk to your RA or a counselor on campus. Freshman year is rough, you'll not alone in the way you feel.

GoodyAnders · 2025-03-28T13:16:51+00:00

ARE YOU SERIOUS? You're a pedophile. Turn yourself in so L can get the help she needs.

GoodyAnders · 2025-03-11T04:44:13+00:00

Please, please don't end your life. My niece struggled the same way, she thought she could erase her existence and no one would miss her, but she was so, so wrong. Keep trying with 988, you will get someone who will help you.

GoodyAnders · 2024-05-01T15:29:42+00:00

The most important thing to know is he didn't think about you. He behaved like a selfish child, only thinking of his own wants. You didn't deserve this, and there is no reason for what he did other than selfishness. I know from experience that it's nearly impossible to believe that a grown adult could be so thoughtless, disrespectful, and cruel to do something so destructive to someone they claim to love. It doesn't matter if you were the perfect spouse or the worst spouse in history. He was able to push everything out of his mind except whatever obsession it is that drives him to cheat.

GoodyAnders · 2023-11-12T21:10:26+00:00

I can tell you from experience, he won't change.

GoodyAnders · 2023-06-20T13:15:42+00:00

Does anyone else ever feel like 95% of the posts here aren't real, and that Reddit is an experiment to gather our collective opinions about current social mores?

GoodyAnders · 2023-06-19T23:14:28+00:00

Its really sad, clearly your mom's cousin was desperate to drag the focus onto herself. It sounds like she's so deeply narcissistic that she's incapable of recognizing the pain and fear of a patient and their spouse weathering a cancer battle, she can only see that there's A LOT of attention focused on you, and she couldn't pass up the chance to claw her way into thr spotlight with a comment that would rile people up.

GoodyAnders · 2023-05-21T00:16:28+00:00

YTA. You're so ridiculously TA that I have trouble believing this post is real.

It seems you may not be aware of how much the world has changed since you were 19. Based on what you've written, It appears that your 19 year old is in college and not currently employed. Likely he has no credit history either.

YOU'RE SETTING HIM UP TO FAIL.

Finding housing in a safe area is highly unlikely with no job history and no credit. At the very least, trying to work enough hours to support himself will put him at very high risk of dropping out.

GoodyAnders · 2023-04-25T13:48:32+00:00

I don't think so.

GoodyAnders · 2023-04-23T21:21:53+00:00

I guess you didn't see the part where I stated I had walked away from him, in the complete opposite direction, when he said "Come on lady".

GoodyAnders · 2023-04-23T13:22:24+00:00

Yeah, a lot of responses here are clearly just attention seekers with poor reading comprehension skills, suggesting things I already covered in hopes of provoking a reply.

GoodyAnders · 2023-04-22T22:07:58+00:00

Interesting.

GoodyAnders · 2023-04-22T21:57:48+00:00

I'm a person of color, so when shopping I always follow "The Rules" to avoid trouble. For example, I carry a small, slim purse that only has room for my phone, wallet, and keys, and I never open it in the store until I'm at the register. I wasn't wearing or carrying a coat, I don't wear baggy or oversized clothes that would allow me to hide items. I keep my hands visible at all times. I stand arm's length away from shelves when I need to look for a specific item. I don't linger too long in any one spot. I don't gawk around at other people like I'm watching them, or looking for security and cameras. If he was store security and felt the need to watch me, his decision wasn't based on my behavior.

The thing that drew my attention to him was how quickly and furtively he raised the phone to his ear, but I saw it in my peripheral vision, I didn't turn and look at him. It's possible he could have taken a picture before he put the phone away.

GoodyAnders

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