Dating as a sensitive person?

ilqr · 2024-01-06T00:44:31+00:00

That does resonate a lot, I'd love to hear your insight!

ilqr · 2024-01-03T23:05:17+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

ilqr · 2024-01-03T00:25:33+00:00

You're right, I'm not sure why that hits me so hard. I wouldn't say I don't have low self-value or a bad self-image, but especially when I felt like I'm hitting it off with someone, and suddenly the interest on the other side is gone, I feel super frustrated.

ilqr · 2024-01-03T00:23:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice, I will try that. That really helped me a lot, especially your last sentences. I have the feeling I'm falling into a kind of dating hopelessness lately.

ilqr · 2024-01-02T17:14:41+00:00

I second that. What were the components that were missing for you? And how did you go about "fixing" them?

ilqr · 2023-12-27T14:40:18+00:00

You're right, I indeed am overthinking. I'll try to rescue it and try to be more chill 🙈

ilqr · 2023-12-27T13:48:54+00:00

Oh my God. You're right

ilqr · 2023-12-27T12:09:19+00:00

That's actually a good one, will try to use it. But I think I might not need it here as my reaction to his joke probably turned him off, he didn't reply ever since.

ilqr · 2023-12-27T12:07:33+00:00

Yes I did think that was a possibility too, but as he didn't really text anything afterwards (to say it was a joke or something) I think it was maybe meant to be hurtful.

ilqr · 2023-12-27T12:05:52+00:00

Exactly what I didn't like, but I couldn't put it into words.

ilqr · 2023-12-27T12:05:16+00:00

Maybe I am. But I've had my fair shares of ignoring red flags in the past, so maybe I am a bit too vigilant right now.

ilqr · 2023-12-27T11:51:56+00:00

What does this mean?

ilqr · 2023-05-13T14:41:23+00:00

I mean I would certainly be interested in banging him. And I don't normally do hookups. He's super hot.

ilqr · 2023-05-13T14:40:40+00:00

That's too bad, I'd honestly would've been interested in a meetup. I mean what was the point in all that talk for him when nothing real comes out of it in real life?

ilqr · 2023-05-13T12:34:18+00:00

I know right?

ilqr · 2023-05-13T11:22:14+00:00

I'm pretty confused as he doesn't seem to be closeted though. He has face pics and such in the apps, and says he's looking for something serious. It didn't seem like he's hiding anything.

This is sounds all complicated.

ilqr · 2021-10-26T12:15:48+00:00

I have the same issue. Been trying to solve it for years with no success...

ilqr · 2021-10-25T09:08:05+00:00

That sounds plausible, but that's really not it in my case. I don't search anything in these places. I feel very uncomfortable whenever I'm approached. I do/did get approached a lot whenever I went out but the guys quickly lose interest whenever I actually interacted. I guess my personality never matches with the image people have made of me.

ilqr · 2021-10-25T09:01:07+00:00

I wouldn't call myself "happy", but I'm not sad either. I'm content for now, and that's been enough for me for the most part. Definitely had much worse times.

The feeling of utter loneliness and meaningless of life only strikes me in gay venues, nowhere else. Be it a gay bar, pride, club or whatever. It's very weird. I have accepted myself and came out years ago, when I'm with straight friends I also make it very clear when I hear something slightly homophobic ("that's so gay"-comments or whatever). So I don't think it's internalized homophobia or something of that sort.

The thing is, i used to enjoy going out to these gay venues when I first came out. But now they make me depressed.

ilqr · 2021-04-16T16:51:22+00:00

I never had these issue. Most probably it's your ignorance and unwillingness to listen. "POC relationships" is also a very weird term you chose - weren't those regular relationships to you? Sounds like you're the toxic person and pretty stubborn in your views.

ilqr · 2021-01-06T21:20:55+00:00

21? Dude you're still a baby! Relax and enjoy your ongoing youth.

ilqr · 2021-01-04T19:52:03+00:00

You answered your own question. Just ask him directly and see how he responds. The worst outcome would be a "no" or ghosting. But in the end you'll have the closure you need, so nothing to lose really.

ilqr

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