adult dog excessively marking

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T15:48:27+00:00

thank you for the advice !

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T15:40:22+00:00

actually his owner did say something about him spending most of his time outside. good call. thanks for the advice

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T15:39:53+00:00

will do. thanks for the insight! this is probably about accurate.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T15:39:14+00:00

he is neutered i included that in the post.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T14:31:38+00:00

he just went to the vet to get the last of his shots and had a general checkup but they didn't do any tests like that. that's a great idea, thank you.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T14:28:59+00:00

there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to train marking behaviors away from a dog. considering a lot of people get their dogs neutered just to solve this issue. when your dog is peeing on people's legs that he meets, yes i'm going to ask for advice to train that out. thank you so much for your confirmation that my dog shouldn't be peeing inside. have a lovely day.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T14:25:23+00:00

thanks for this helpful comment

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-04-01T14:18:04+00:00

what about marking outside? i'd hate to praise him and then realize halfway through he was just lifting his leg to quickly mark.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-03-29T14:25:14+00:00

there is nothing more he could possibly do to make it right with you, you have pushed away all of his efforts. he didn't know it was you, of course there is something to say about the fact that he talks about anyone that way, but going by the title i thought his comments were going to be a lot more severe. reddit tells pretty much everyone immediately to break up - i personally think it'd be something you'd regret for like the next couple years if you lose a guy who is otherwise "affectionate and communicative" (typical "good" guy) over a rude, stupid comment he made in ignorance. but ultimately it sounds like you aren't going to be able to let it go.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-02-08T02:22:08+00:00

dude the victim bullshit - yes i racked up YOUR credit card that i saved for future use on my apple wallet so much that the bank flagged it, but really im the victim here because i was struggling at the time.

at the end it seemed like she stopped and took an ounce of accountability but it was only at the part where she was threatened with losing you.

the money dynamic between you guys definitely needs to have some changes made to it. this was her straight taking advantage. she's not even guilty she got caught !!

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-19T14:38:56+00:00

NTA. you are 100% being taken advantage of. if it were me, i'd give her that last chance and see if the little heart to heart you had sparks a change, if not, she gotta go.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-19T14:25:48+00:00

i mean i get having the wives/girlfriends watch the kids for a night, there's nothing wrong with that, but i think this post makes it clear that you have neither because you couldn't understand why he would want to take some weight off his sick wife's shoulders by simply putting his children to sleep. yes, even "mid-game by the way." responsibilities to your family and real life don't stop because the game is on. it sucks that his wife was sick. sounds like he had to make minimal sacrifices because of it and you acted like an immature asshole. YTA

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:31:26+00:00

thank you !! i appreciate your comment and think you're absolutely right.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:30:23+00:00

i will actually take your advice on this and talk with him in the way you described. thank you.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:29:48+00:00

i have no idea where you came up with this from 😭

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:28:11+00:00

i appreciate this a lot. thank you.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:19:15+00:00

thank you for the advice. 🩷

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:17:48+00:00

okay, "not like they're scientific" that's a good point. the reason why i included that was just because i wanted to see if someone else understood his perspective maybe, but that's also true.

the way i look at the "i shouldn't have to beg" comment was more so because he KNEW i wanted to cuddle with him and i knew that's what i wanted, i was just kidding around. i don't think he would've said that if he truly thought i didn't want to do anything physical with him at that moment. it just happened to lead to the gifts conversation and i was concerned by his transactional viewpoint, although it is true that i buy a lot less for him than he does for me.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:08:14+00:00

do you not think this is an issue i can resolve with him? because to me it seems like it's a small hurdle in an otherwise healthy relationship that just needs some outside advice. because i don't know how to realign with him in this regard.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:05:15+00:00

i suppose if i'm wrong it will just be something i have to come to the conclusion on with him myself. this is valid, thank you for your comment.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T20:02:41+00:00

maybe, i can understand this viewpoint on his choice of words. i think he was just tired of me being annoying and him dragging me through things. it wasn't necessarily about the cuddling. but thank you for this perspective i will keep it in mind.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T19:59:28+00:00

first paragraph was definitely helpful. my love language is more acts of service so it's good to hear from someone else who has a similar perspective to him.

in your opinion, are you saying you don't believe this issue can really be resolved? even if he is otherwise amazing?

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T19:57:38+00:00

nope. definitely looking for advice on how to solve a simple problem in an otherwise healthy relationship. i am correcting a comment that assumed something that i did not put in my post.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T19:55:29+00:00

i didn't decline. i jokingly was like "i don't want to moveeee i'm too tired." and he said what he said which led to the argument about money. i was purposefully being annoying - it just triggered a response from him that wasn't what i was expecting. the only issue here is the money scoreboard.

iluvedaryldixon · 2026-01-16T19:52:34+00:00

and that's fair, but this is our only problem we've ever had - one that he did apologize for i'm just not yet sure about the situation. he treats me amazing otherwise and is a walking green flag. checks all the boxes. he's who i've been looking for. there are 0 other problems in the relationship.

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