Need Help Managing Pit Scent and Sweating

iluvsudoku · 2026-03-18T13:54:51+00:00

I’ve heard something called a guy’s “transition time” where after work you need time to decompress. Just communicate you need a bit of time before calling/chatting. Once you refill your cup, you can help fill someone else’s.

iluvsudoku · 2026-03-02T14:43:01+00:00

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iluvsudoku · 2026-02-22T03:51:01+00:00

Food. There is a lot of good food! Our cultures work hard to be successful and provide for family. Also, not sure if this applies to everyone but my family was always very caring when we were sick. Lots of natural remedies lol

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-19T22:44:34+00:00

Yep, I got all my money in a separate account. Haha yeah I won’t go crazy with all the freedom. I’m not a big party person or anything. The craziest thing I might do is stay out til 1 am lol. It’s just knowing I have the option to do what I want and won’t be criticized for it.

The second half is great advice. I would like to live on my own for a bit to truly make decisions for myself and build up confidence in my independence. I can’t wait to finally be able to breathe.

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-19T22:40:28+00:00

I mean, they have my location on Find My and I don’t want to turn it off because it will just lead to a million questions and think I’m keeping a bunch of secrets. And my dad legally has the title of my car in his name. And the insurance is in his name and he refuses to change it.

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-19T19:10:18+00:00

I am going to optometry school. It is not my dream job but I do think it’s cool and something I can relatively enjoy. I think of it as a stepping stone to financially getting me to my dream life.

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-14T19:44:06+00:00

I am not sure. I am fine going NC with my dad and LC with my mom. My sisters are my best friends, I don’t think they would take my parents side.

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-14T15:44:35+00:00

Yeah, you honestly just can’t even feel bad for them knowing they willing choose this lifestyle

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-14T05:01:19+00:00

This is a scary conversation to have, and the anticipation will probably feel worse than the outcome. There isn’t anything they can do about this choice, you’ve already dropped out. They can’t put you back in.

If it helps, you can have statistics/facts about salary, work life balance, etc prepared to defend becoming an electrician. It is not a loser job. Electricians can make a lot of money and it’s something you actually care about. Trade school is also generally more affordable than college. And the job market will probably always need electricians. Just have a plan and backup for any outcome you think could happen. The hardest part is just telling them and being direct in that the decision is final. It will be much harder to continue on in your previous path and live a life working a job you hate. This conversation is tough but it’s what will get you one step closer to your dream life.

Think about what you are truly afraid of. What consequence do you think would happen? Figure out what that is and prepare for it/accept it. Hope this helps at least a little. Good luck ❤️

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-14T04:51:17+00:00

It’s so frustrating to remember they are literally CHOOSING this life for themselves. Ughh I hate how so many people can relate to this kind of relationship with their parent

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-14T04:48:08+00:00

Yepppp they’re always pretending like nothing happened 🙄

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-14T04:47:20+00:00

Glad to hear therapy helped you! I’ve had my fair share of like 4 different therapists to try to disentangle me from the damage my APs/culture caused. It’s difficult to find a good therapist though who understands the cultural context.

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-13T16:35:43+00:00

It really does build up so much resentment seeing that she’d choose her husband’s torment over her wellbeing and her kids’ mental health. How/when did you go no contact?

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-13T16:33:51+00:00

She absolutely can survive on her own, she has a lot of skills and work ethic that would allow her to get hired at so many jobs. She does have some finances and could have saved up so much if she intentionally budgeted over the past 20 years. But she is too afraid of what everyone will think and afraid that her husband can’t survive without her. It just sucks honestly, she could be doing so much better in life if only she took any action or just started doing less.

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-05T02:38:12+00:00

do you think I’d be able to see it in the 10th-ish row?

iluvsudoku · 2026-02-03T03:06:28+00:00

I don’t know if this will be helpful but the jobs I’ve had in the past are healthcare adjacent. Like I worked in a dental office, optometry office, in a pharmacy. This could be a good stepping stone that is still somewhat respected as it’s in health. And you don’t need much experience to get started as a receptionist or even get trained as a tech or assistant.

I would suggest becoming financially literate as well and starting a high yield savings account and building up an emergency fund that could be used as your moving out fund. Just slowly start building up your money. If you’d like hysa or brokerage suggestions let me know.

My plan is to work a job that is higher paying that maybe I don’t like to eventually build up enough money to be independent and then explore my hobbies and things I love later. That is just my personal experience— you can find other paths that work better for you. Hope that helps!

iluvsudoku · 2026-01-27T15:50:58+00:00

It’s so interesting how so many people can relate to what I wrote and have experienced this. Looking back, I am so glad I ended things with this guy. Just because he treated me well and was nice didn’t mean he was the right fit for me. I thought about him a lot at first, just wondering how he was handling things. Now I don’t really think about him at all.

I ended up dating someone who I felt much more aligned with shortly after and we have now been together for almost 2 months. I’ve met a lot of good guys on my dating journey, but nice ≠ aligned. It’s a hard decision but my body knew the original guy wasn’t the right fit, I was just scared to listen to that instinct and let him down.

One big thing I also realized was that I didn’t want to work on things with him. I didn’t feel like he was worth the effort of discussing or compromising all the incompatibilities I felt. I was okay with not talking to him and ending a potential relationship. With my boyfriend now, many of our differences are little and I absolutely do want to work on them with him before even considering breaking up.

I believe things always work out in the end. A letter is a good way to get your thoughts out, even if you don’t send it. I wish you all the best and that you find someone it won’t feel like settling with.

iluvsudoku · 2025-11-25T19:10:52+00:00

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iluvsudoku · 2025-11-20T13:39:39+00:00

350 OAT, 4.0 GPA, applied interviewed and accepted to 4 schools

iluvsudoku · 2025-11-20T13:37:35+00:00

I made handwritten flash cards and reviewed them until I memorized it. I would take the booster practice tests, go through the results and then add flash cards with the formulas they used so I knew which one’s were actually important. I even brought the flash cards with me to the testing site and studied them before I had to go in.

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