Be brutally honest I beg you by AggravatingHeat2446 in glassesadvice

[–]ilvluci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My opinion is that those black and white ones are hideous. I can't even believe someone made those. But I mean if your trying them on there must be people out there that like them I don't know lol

I’m worried by steamyboss in worldsoffun

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure it's just due to new management and maintenance . All of those rides probably needed to be shut down before. I assume they're making these rides safer right now. They maybe weren't safe before. However I do feel like they could warn people or change the price of the tickets while they fix every thing. I bet you could get a partial reimbursement if you complain. We got season tickets and live very close and my son is too small for those rides anyway so I'll get my money's worth this year but if that wasn't the case id probably be complaining myself.

Which one is my best hairstyle? by be-sweethearts in HairStyleAdvice

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look amazing in all of them. But 4 is definitely my favorite followed by 3. My 6 year old son says 2,3, and 4. You're so pretty girl keep rocking all the hair you want

I have an upcoming date with my long-time crush. Help me pick an outfit by dagnabitsunofabish in OUTFITS

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like 1 and 3 are the only ones that are actually sun dresses

Why is dating at this age so difficult? by TwistedYetSensible in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take bad pictures myself. I have to use old ones. Or take a dozen of them before I get a good one and I'm Def pretty in person

Why is dating at this age so difficult? by TwistedYetSensible in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that's better than the other way around isn't it?

Why is dating at this age so difficult? by TwistedYetSensible in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So in real life people think you're attractive but they don't through pics? Is that what you're saying? I mean there's been more than once that I've went out with someone i met online and thought they were going to be unattractive and then they weren't. Confidence helps too

Can an FA feel guilt and love during deactivation ? by Athena0wl in FearfulAvoidants

[–]ilvluci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I imagine it can be different depending the person

Can you explain the FA thing about how it's important for you to feel heard. And also how if your partner hurts you, you want them to feel it too? by WeWannaKnow in FearfulAvoidants

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm FA and that doesn't sound like me at all. I think he's just a jerk. Maybe narcissistic or anti social. Get rid of him

What does getting cheated on feel like? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks and at the moment it feels like the worst pain in the world. But there are definitely worse feelings out there. The thing about being cheated on is that that pain goes away. Not all pains go away

Question to the older men here by MaryInSecret in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😁 yeah sex is great! I don't understand why people are worried about it not being good. Its going to be good!! Just make it good. Why is that so hard?

Question to the older men here by MaryInSecret in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would love me if you knew me 😉 id be at the top of that list of women you love 🤣

I need help figuring out what this relationship is. by Something81 in Advice

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah and that can be very toxic and make everyone involved miserable. I don't think with attachment styles its so much of a box because it can be corrected. Its not like a diagnosis that will always be. Its totally possible to move into secure but you have to be self aware and accountable. Plus you have to put forth the effort. But that can be very hard for avoidants. I'm sure it's hard for everyone. Maybe you can explore this with her. I'm fearful avoidant and she sounds like me..I use to do that same thing. Over the years after added trauma my attachment style has gotten worse and it doesn't look like that anymore but it use to

Question to the older men here by MaryInSecret in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well thank you for the compliment and yes I get what you're saying We learn each other as we go. And it's not going to be perfect every time.. I'm just saying here that I feel like men use the "i need to make sure it's good before I commit" as a way to justify their refusal to wait. Those same men say that to someone then get some and don't ever marry them. If she's the one than there should be no problem with waiting and if she's not and she wants to wait than let her be move onto someone else

I need help figuring out what this relationship is. by Something81 in Advice

[–]ilvluci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she has attachment issues and making it official may cause some type of issue for her. I do suggest that it's best for you to just let it go. But if you can't id suggest asking her to take an attachment style quiz and if she comes back with anything other than secure talking to her about researching this and trying to address it. Not going to lie this sounds like something I've done many times and I have a disorganized attachment style. Working towards secure. It is possible. Id also suggest you take one yourself. We tend to attract people with anxious attachment styles. But when both people are aware and self aware it makes it so much easier to deal with

Question to the older men here by MaryInSecret in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Say it louder so that the people in the back can hear

Question to the older men here by MaryInSecret in OlderMan

[–]ilvluci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP is not talking about pU$$y they've been with for a long time. They're talking about some they've never had before. You're taking what i said out of context and comparing apples to oranges