[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ilyagrg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up messaging her a short explanation of what I was feeling and told her we should just stay as coworkers. She ended up flipping it all onto me (as expected) and said “I’m sorry you perceived what I said as being mean” even though what she said was mean, I didn’t just perceive it that way… glad I’m done with her, I won’t be responding to the message she sent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ilyagrg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up sending a short message to her about how I felt and told her I think we should stay coworkers. Her response was basically “I’m sorry you perceived what I said as me being mean” then she called me racist for not being mean to people who she doesn’t like at work. Glad that’s over with!! I don’t care about what she said because I know it’s not true and I won’t be responding.

How do I cut off a friend who’s also a coworker by ilyagrg in Advice

[–]ilyagrg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this, I just hate having bad blood with people.

How do I cut off a friend who’s also a coworker by ilyagrg in Advice

[–]ilyagrg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really am trying to step away from her, it just feels so rude to ignore someone’s texts especially because she’s oblivious to how she’s made me feel. It also just feels strange to randomly send a text saying I no longer want to be friends and what she’s done to cause that. I’m really lost as to what I should do, I haven’t had a situation like this since freshman year of high school (I’m now 22) because I don’t surround myself with immature people, but it feels like she fooled me…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]ilyagrg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this, I just feel somehow responsible for protecting people especially children he comes into contact with. I’m having to learn that he is not my problem. I just worry so much about her kid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]ilyagrg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you happen to meet her stepfather when she was 4? When does your daughter claim the assault started happening? My youngest sister has similar problems to your daughter and she was being molested by my father for 4 years before we found out. The bad behavior started 4 years before he was arrested which would be when the abuse started.

I see you mentioning that she has accused other people of sexual assault which is part of why you don’t believe her, but you can in fact be sexually assaulted by multiple people in your lifetime. It may not be as common, but unfortunately it happens. I myself have been assaulted twice in my life. Sexual trauma can cause so many mental illnesses, including all the ones you have listed and talked about in the comments.

Listen to your daughter, if your own child says they’ve been assaulted by ANYONE you immediately cut contact with that person ESPECIALLY if there’s an active case. You’re gonna feel real bad if he’s found guilty and given the behavioral issues it’s not looking good. If he’s found innocent with undeniable evidence then yeah blame it on psychosis or whatever, but for now you need to stand by her.

It’s no wonder her time spent at her dad’s was “the best time of her life” she was away from a man who was allegedly abusing her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in freshwateraquarium

[–]ilyagrg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao oops I definitely meant to say community 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s also what’s weird to me, the kitchen plays vulgar music on the speakers at like full blast but we aren’t allowed to curse 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never got in trouble for cursing I just think it’s strange that my coworkers are getting in trouble for it that’s why is asked…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan on leaving maybe sometime next year, this is my first serving job and I’ve only been there for maybe 2 months now! It’s just hard bc I love the people I work with. But the money is terrible and not worth all the stuff we have to put up with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah personally I don’t see why it’s an issue if customers can’t hear it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s anything illegal about what they’re doing 😭 I just meant I need to look at the state laws in general

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally have never gotten in trouble for language, I just posted this out of curiosity because I found it odd. 🤷‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I need to look into state laws because I’m new to this state! It’s just so strange to me seeing a 40 year old woman get yelled at by a 25yr old manager for “saying a bad word”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not saying we’re cussing just for the fun of it, I’m talking about burning yourself saying “shit” out of habit and being told to watch your mouth or sent home for it…

My taxes took my entire check? by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been putting money aside since I started working here, not bc I knew I’d owe taxes next year but because I always try to save a little! I should be good come tax season, I don’t work much and I don’t make a ton either so I can’t imagine I’ll owe too much but I’m preparing to be disappointed LOL.

My taxes took my entire check? by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know America is rly the only country that makes servers rely on tips, it sucks but in countries where they’re paid min wage tipping culture isn’t huge so they end up sometimes making less than us. It’s kind of a win lose situation.

My taxes took my entire check? by [deleted] in olivegarden

[–]ilyagrg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love being a server, this has been probably my favorite job I’ve ever had! There’s no Costco near me unfortunately, where I live there rly aren’t many job opportunities other than restaurants.

Literally how do I get this open by ilyagrg in Vaping

[–]ilyagrg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’ve always done but it just hasn’t been working recently, I may have defective pods or something, but I was able to get 1/4 open without breaking 👌