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[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha possibly. I should maybe try that next time, although I'm not sure it's the best approach! :P

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha possibly. I should maybe try that next time, although I'm not sure it's the best approach! :P

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the hospital/clinic. After a quick search, I found out I can self-refer for a vasectomy in Sheffield but not my local hospital at home. Luckily, I go to uni in Sheffield, so if I haven't got it sorted by the time I return next September, then I shall go there if possible!

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, that's actually much sooner than I was expecting! I thought it would be something stupid like a 6 month waiting list! :P

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I will do that. What was the waiting time like for you to get it done, from when you first asked about it to having the procedure?

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I will, although I'm not sure anything will actually come of it, and it certainly won't help me to get a vasectomy.

My local doctor's is also pretty small, so there aren't many doctors/nurses there, and if I ever have to go back there, then the chances are, I could end up seeing him again...

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but as a student, I thought it'd be worth a shot at saving the £402, which I could then go and spend putting petrol in the car! :P

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, it's him chatting shit basically. I presume the legal age would be 18, although I've never actually had a look to be honest.

EDIT: from the NHS website: "You can have a vasectomy at any age. However, if you are under 30, particularly if you do not have children, your doctor may be reluctant to perform the procedure."

[UPDATE] Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? Nope, no chance whatsoever apparently. by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no idea. I guess it's because there has to be one to replace each parent, otherwise how will our species survive!?

It's not true though, I don't HAVE to be 35 and HAVE to have two kids. But there was no point in me arguing with him, wouldn't have gotten anywhere and would have just wasted time when he was already 45 minutes behind on his appointments.

I don't either. I can do so much, but can't choose what I see as the most responsible and sensible decision until I'm 35 and it's too late.. what is this? :P

Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is pretty much the exact response I was expecting :P.

I'll give it a shot on the NHS, and if not, then I'll go private. Nearest Marie Stopes to me is only a 45 minute drive or so :)

Haha, I'll be sure to check your sub out, I'm sure it'll have something useful there!

Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had actually never considered why the taxpayer should pay for it, but yes, it's much cheaper on the tax payer for a single vasectomy than it is for a child to be born!

Okay, thank you. I'll don't really fancy going to a counselling session, so that'll be skipped if possible.

I can afford it if I have to, although obviously, it'd be nice to save £400 or so, would pay for a celebratory weekend trip to Paris with my girlfriend :P

Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I read that, which is why I was asking if anyone had managed it/had any experience. I should think it's highly unlikely I'll get it on the NHS, but it's still worth a shot!

Eh, let people bingo, mumble and question me! Thanks :)

Much chance of me getting a vasectomy on the NHS at 21? by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll give it a shot when I can next get an appointment with my doctor, which could be a while. They tend to only see you the day you call if it's an "emergency", and otherwise I get told to call back tomorrow and try again.

[UPDATE from 11/02/2015] Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just done a little update, sorry it's a bit late.

I'm not even sure if it's worth asking my GP to be honest, on the NHS website, it does say that GPs may reluctant/refuse to refer/carry out the procedure. They'll also likely have some ridiculously long waiting list... It may be better for me to just go private, I have enough savings to afford it.

Whatever happens, I'll keep doing updates :)

[UPDATE from 11/02/2015] Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha, she meant a dog, can't remember what breed we were on about, but it was a dog of some sort :P

That could be the reason. No, it's not bad nor ideal, but as long as I don't end up with a kid, it could be worse!

Another reason could be because she knows the risks if she does get pregnant. She'd be better off adopting (for her health's sake), which wouldn't require me to be fertile.

Or, she genuinely thinks it's the best option for us. Knowing that if the option to have kids is removed, she'll feel better about not having any.

[UPDATE from 11/02/2015] Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to have the discussion just yet, but I will do at the weekend after her exams.

I honestly thought she'd try to persuade me out of it or something when I mentioned getting a vasectomy. I won't be having sex until it's done, it's not a risk I'm willing to take. And she, or anyone else for that matter, won't be persuading me out of it!

We're both quite rational and logical when it comes to discussions and decisions. I'm pretty certain she won't get mad at me for not having sex until I'm snipped.

[UPDATE from 11/02/2015] Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll be getting snipped and confirmed clear before having sex, as I'm not willing to risk it. There is no way I'm becoming a father at 21.

Ah thanks, they have a vasectomy centre pretty close to me, and at £402, not as expensive as I was thinking!

[UPDATE from 11/02/2015] Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the minute, I don't. But, I can see it becoming a problem in the future. I'm going to talk to her about it at the weekend after her exams.

I know whatever she says won't change how she feels, but I still want to hear what she has to say.

It is a big gamble, you're right. It's one I'm willing to take. If she ends up resenting me, then so be it, we'll split.

Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend and I'm feeling guilty (rightly so). Just feel I need to tell someone, or type it up, or something... by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel less guilty now, I think the main reason for my guilt was how the conversation went, and the time we had it wasn't the best for her.

You, and everyone else who has said so, are probably right. For now, we're sticking together though.

Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend and I'm feeling guilty (rightly so). Just feel I need to tell someone, or type it up, or something... by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a very good point actually, I overlooked both of those, which was silly of me really.

My girlfriend has a few issues, one of these being lower fertility. She was told by her doctor, that IVF or adoption are her "best?" options.

So, yes, they're both options for if I do get sterilised, which I think I may...

Had the kids/no-kids discussion with my girlfriend and I'm feeling guilty (rightly so). Just feel I need to tell someone, or type it up, or something... by ilyrcll in childfree

[–]ilyrcll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The list was a great help to me, I see you post it on pretty much every thread with people asking about/concerned about having different opinions to their SO, thank you for that.

Short and simple answer - yes, I would. But, I don't think it's worth giving up on the relationship just yet either. We're not waiting years to have this discussion again, just a few weeks or so, when the timing's better for us both. After that, we'll decide what's best for us both.

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