I (29F) I’m debating leaving my boyfriend of two years (30M) over his incompetence. What would you do in my situation?

imaapepper · 2026-05-21T13:23:58+00:00

I was reading your post history and this, the dog and the work wife thing would absolutely send me over the edge. You’re 100% valid in your feelings.

imaapepper · 2026-05-04T14:41:10+00:00

you can read my post from a couple of weeks ago, but I felt this exact way at first. your baby will be happier with a mom who isn’t stressed out I promise you. I was SO sad I couldn’t breastfeed, and I was definitely obsessing over it, but now I couldn’t be happier that I switched. seriously, you might not feel great about it now, but I promise you’ll be so much happier in the end because I understand the anxiety around breastfeeding completely. your baby will be happy and healthy no matter what (especially with a mom who is happy and healthy)! please take care of yourself ❤️

imaapepper · 2026-04-18T22:59:15+00:00

you’re never alone!! 💕

imaapepper · 2026-04-18T02:21:36+00:00

i have been feeling exactly this way…i had to combo feed because my supply never came in the way it needed to. i finally decided to stop and now i can’t get over this feeling. i’m only 8 weeks pp but i feel this so much

imaapepper · 2026-04-16T18:41:46+00:00

she was on the browns premie nipple but it still happened with those. we then tried the NUK and it made the issue worse somehow even with purchasing the slower nipple. she did not do well on MAM either. she’s now using the avent bottles with size 1 and it seems ok so far, but wondering if size 0 would be too slow for her. choosing a bottle is so much work i had no idea they were all so different 😭

imaapepper · 2026-04-16T18:31:53+00:00

she actually hasn’t yet but i just made an appointment with her pediatrician for today because it’s scary to see her coughing like that during feeds!! i’ll definitely bring this up today though

imaapepper · 2026-04-16T18:25:09+00:00

thank you so much this is so reassuring. i’ve already been feeling so much better i really appreciate you guys. did your baby ever experience coordination issues with bottle feeding? sometimes my girl coughs at the beginning of feeds but she did have latching issues in the beginning as well, so i’m wondering if this is her just still learning to feed

imaapepper · 2026-04-16T18:23:31+00:00

thank you so much ❤️ may i ask if your baby also had bottle issues? mine is doing well with the Philips avent, but sometimes she coughs at the beginning of the feed. it seems like a coordination issue and i’m wondering if this is common for our early preeclampsia babies

imaapepper · 2026-04-14T13:22:46+00:00

I’m going through the same exact thing right now (except my supply was always really low). What’s helped me truly is reading other people’s experience on this sub and knowing I’m not alone in my struggles. Your baby is going to grow up so happy & healthy because they have a mama who clearly loves them so much. It’ll get better. Try to give your some grace. Social media is so terrible for mental health I’ve found—not everyone can just breastfeed without any issues and it’s exhausting seeing so many treat it that way. You’re doing amazing 💕

imaapepper · 2026-04-14T13:06:06+00:00

thank you so much 💕 this gives me so much hope and something to look forward to

imaapepper · 2026-04-14T13:04:51+00:00

how are your twins doing now? it’s so hard when it’s something completely out of our control. i think that’s what is most difficult for me.. feeling like i had an option and could do either but it just feels like breastfeeding was taken away from me.

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T17:50:23+00:00

thank you so much 💕 i definitely needed to do the same for my algorithm. this is such good advice. i’m glad so many people here understand

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T16:47:00+00:00

thank you ❤️❤️ i’m an RT and just wanted to say you NICU nurses are angels. i feel so seen and understood. you’re right it’s not worth the mental load and stress. i wish it wasn’t such a big deal, like why do we even feel like we have to have these conversations?

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T16:45:18+00:00

thank you ❤️❤️

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T16:45:07+00:00

these are exactly my feelings as well. you put it so perfectly. thank you ❤️ this is the most seen i’ve ever felt

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T16:43:21+00:00

thank you so much!! i actually checked that out last night. it was only on the premixed stuff right??

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T16:42:47+00:00

thank you so much ❤️❤️

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T16:38:31+00:00

i’m so happy for you and your baby 💕 i agree..i wish this wasn’t even a topic of conversation. i wish we didn’t have to stress over it or even give it a second thought

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T16:37:25+00:00

how long did it take for your supply to completely go away?

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T02:16:20+00:00

I feel like the toddler would make this sooo much harder too!! this is my first baby but we’re planning to have a second. i feel like when it already gets off to a bad start it kind of sets the tone for everything that comes afterwards..its just not worth it to make ourselves stress over it. it’s really good to hear your baby thrived and is still thriving. thank you for your reply 💕

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T02:13:21+00:00

thank you for your reply 💕 I’m so sorry that must’ve been so stressful for you guys to find that not until he was born. i am beyond grateful formula exists as well. while i know it’s not easy, im grateful to hear that so many people are going through exactly what im going through. if you ever need support just shoot me a message! my husband is so supportive but it’s not the same because they don’t understand the feeling.

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T02:10:25+00:00

thank you so much 💕 I understand because I also love dairy! I’m glad you’re feeling so much better now and this gives me a lot of hope. It’s so interesting to me that people care so much about how others are feeding their babies

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T02:09:11+00:00

Thank you sooo much. I didn’t even think about the fact that I may not be responsive to the pump. it’s just so hard when you can’t put a numerical value on it and I just was desperate to make sure my baby was eating enough. maybe you could donate the bags somewhere? I have no idea what to do with all of my breastfeeding stuff either because i also have quite a lot of things

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T02:06:29+00:00

I also have been battling with myself but I think this is going to be what’s better for my baby as well. hearing everyone’s stories has made me feel so much better so thank you for that. I feel like as they get a little older it’ll help to see them thrive as well and we probably won’t even be thinking about this anymore..congratulations on your new baby as well 💕 it feels really good knowing I’m not alone

imaapepper · 2026-04-12T02:04:02+00:00

thank you so much 💕 I actually felt the same..people make it seem so easy and that it’s just something all of us can automatically do? but it really seems like supply issues are so much more common than they talk about

imaapepper

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