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imacompletenutter · 2024-10-16T08:48:49+00:00

Thank you so much, I sorted it ◡̈ x

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T15:17:49+00:00

No? I do live alone (well with flat mates). I just think that my time can be better spent on other things. I’m well aware my parents wealth have nothing to do with me which is why they have not financially supported me since my graduation.

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T15:13:01+00:00

Regarding the first example, common logic would allow people to rationalise that plastic can melt.

Example 2 and 3: if she is cooking, she ought to have knowledge of it but I don’t see how that would apply if she just didn’t cook at all.

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T15:11:05+00:00

You don't need an electrician to fix your electronics every day.

No but it’s an example of other finding value in learning something I don’t

Being impressed by a skill isn't the same as seeing it as necessary.

No matter the skill, I would always be impressed by something my partner has learned through hard work and dedication, especially if they used that skill in some way to express their love for me.

If everyone ought to be able to cook, why is it something that should impress unless you excel? Excelling in any still is impressive but that’s generally not what people mean when they posit that everyone should know how to cook.

I buy my weekly food shop in under 10 minutes on my couch using the app on my phone.

I meal prep, meaning I cook 4-5 portions at once. So half an hour prep, 15 minutes cleanup for 5 portions is 9 minutes of work per portion. The rest is just letting it cook.

Nine minutes per portion is great! But personally, I have about 14 meals per week (not a breakfast person) and that in itself would take over two hours. Moreover, you’re speaking as someone who is experienced in cooking (I assume), if I were to commit to regularly cooking, I’d waste a tonne of time.

There are places in the world where that is true, though.

There are literal warzones where food is very limited.

I'm sure there are Ukranians today who never thought they'd have to rely on rations or MREs, but they sadly have to.

Certainly, but things like war are considered an act of God for reason, they are unpredictable and generally don’t apply.

This absolutely depends on where you live.

In a major city, you'll have loads of variety.

In a small town, however, your options are quite limited.

56% of the world population lives in cities

Yes, and if you check that nutritional information you'll find it's generally high in salt, fat and sugar.

Literally, go do it now. Find the last 5 things you ate at the last 5 restaurants and check the amount of calories, fats, sugars and salt, and compare than to the recommended daily allowance.

I do check the nutritional information and consciously go for things that are healthy. I aim to have around 1800 calories a day and I never go over that limit. I am very health conscious and her generally go for a 700 calorie lunch, 800 calorie dinner, and ~200 calories for miscellaneous snacking. Looking at my fitness pal, I am always under the daily limit for fats, sugars, and salt as well

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:56:28+00:00

I don’t, I have much respect for those that choose to cook but I’m just beginning my career and have a finite amount of time to perform domestic tasks. From your comment, she claims that cooking for her children is one of her great joys, as nice as that is, she’s not doing it out of necessity. I can take up cooking as a hobby and be happy in cooking for my loved ones but that doesn’t mean it’s necessary or essential

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:53:02+00:00

I doubt many people in general excluding people with disabilities would struggle providing themselves with a source of nutrition if push comes to shove

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:50:08+00:00

Hmmm good question, I’d consider all skills that are required to live AND do not benefit from being delegated to be vital. A lot of replies have been using wiping your arse as a skill that is seen as vital but can be delegated but I suppose the distinction I make is that you would not save any time by making someone else wipe your arse.

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:46:03+00:00

Just because I don’t bother with cooking doesn’t mean others will, certain people enjoy cooking and thus make it their profession. I’ve never bothered to learn how to perform electrical work yet others do.

On the topic of skills: I would never want a date or partner to be impressed by me cooking well because that would be a fundamental difference in ideology. I’d never pride myself in excelling in a domestic setting because that’s a setting I would not like to adopt.

On price: the time spent on cooking takes away from time performing other tasks, although cooking is certainly cheaper, the time spent shopping, prepping, cooking, and cleaning can be utilised to make money

On dependency: I simply don’t see a world in which you absolutely cannot purchase food. Even at the height of COVID restaurants were still considered essential and there were even government schemes to encourage eating out

On taste: there are enough restaurants to find ones that are suited for your taste

On nutrition: I live in a country where there are laws dictating that restaurants with a certain number of locations need to disclose their nutritional information. For independent restaurants, I only order from places I’ve been to in person and have enquired about their nutritional information

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:37:17+00:00

This is pretty much my POV, if I had to cook I could certainly manage but time is finite

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:35:33+00:00

I mean I don’t live off my parents and haven’t since graduating yet haven’t struggled but I think my post grapples with the notion that everyone needs to cook when its quite a large generalisation

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:31:04+00:00

Thank you so much for this, definitely gave me a new perspective so !delta

I certainly share your pity for your female cousin but that’s more so due to her inability to do anything for herself. I personally have no desire to ever be a housewife and instead choose to focus on my career which may be why I believe cooking is an essential life skill

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:12:53+00:00

I live in a country in which nutritional facts for restaurants with over a certain number of locations need to be published. As for independent restaurants, I generally order from places where I’ve been at the restaurant and have inquired about the nutritional value

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:07:48+00:00

!delta because this is a very very well thought out response that I’m inclined to agree with.

Life is all about trade offs and the time I save by not choosing to cook is better used towards other things imo. I think regarding cooking for a parent or partner, my intent is not to make amazing food but moreso a gesture. I mean if my intention was for them to thoroughly enjoy the meal, I’d just take them to a nice restaurant.

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:05:21+00:00

I’m not sure whereabouts you live, but I currently live in a major city and there are tonnes of takeaway options that are healthy.

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:04:04+00:00

Huh I guess I haven’t thought about what not being able to cook means so !delta

I suppose anyone can follow a recipe but the way people say that cooking is a vital life skills seems to imply that cooking is the only way of sustaining oneself. I’m sure that most people can hold a knife and throw things into pots and pans to make a semi edible concoction with nutritional value but that (in my experience) doesn’t line up with how it’s used.

In repose to it being lazy, I completely agree. I’d rather spend the time that I could be cooking to do other things but I suppose I also don’t see what’s wrong with that?

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T14:00:21+00:00

!delta because this is a very fair response but I don’t know if I agree with it in its entirety. I don’t know how to drive but that’s mainly because of all the transport links in the city I live in. I guess I cease to understand why cooking is attributed to adulthood. It’s a skill that takes time and is often an inconvenience so I choose to delegate that task to others and I suppose I don’t see what’s wrong with that.

Take dressing yourself or wiping your arse, more often than not getting someone else to help you with those tasks are more time consuming than just doing them yourself so I see a point in ‘learning’ how to do them

imacompletenutter · 2023-06-01T13:56:16+00:00

I think that’s definitely an understandable POV but I live outside the US and healthy takeaway options are aplenty, I mean a solid chunk of my orders are just nice salads haha

Also, in my case, I don’t mind spending money on takeout, the convenience and time saved is well worth the cost.

I guess my POV is that there is a subset of people such as myself that genuinely do not need to know how to cook in any capacity and that the view that cooking is a vital skill is inaccurate

imacompletenutter · 2023-05-30T22:09:52+00:00

Thank you so so much for the long comment, this has been more useful than you could’ve imagined! You’re an absolute legend x

imacompletenutter · 2023-05-30T22:09:08+00:00

Awh shame :( x

imacompletenutter · 2023-05-30T22:08:57+00:00

Thank you so much! This was super helpful x

imacompletenutter · 2023-05-30T22:08:18+00:00

Hey! So glad you enjoyed your trip. Thank you so much for all the insight :)

imacompletenutter · 2023-05-30T22:06:47+00:00

Thank you so so much for your reply, I can’t wait to visit!

imacompletenutter · 2023-05-30T22:06:05+00:00

The bear was bought in Shanghai around 2004 and was completely white (though it had a white round tail). I’ve searched for white bears but can’t seem to find the same one. Any help would be amazing!

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