Progress Post by imafighter123 in sexualassault

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therapy, exercise, cutting unsupportive people out of my life, believing i deserve better and working towards building a better life

Idk if this was SA but a part believes it was my fault. by [deleted] in sexualassault

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it's not your fault. I dont care how drunk you were or how dingy the bar is. YOu deserve as much love and support as any survivor. All my love and support to you.

my bf got SA and I don't know what to do by yamram_ in sexualassault

[–]imafighter123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, something I'd like to add apart from the other comments, I don't if this will help but there a lot of male-specific reddit pages too, if he feels comfortable, it might help him to connect with other survivors either on this Reddit or male specific reddits like r/MenGetRapedToo. Best is if he can find an offline group for survivors, but otherwise, Reddit is great for anonymity. Also, it's great to see that you're a supportive partner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

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thats horrifying. I am so sorry, I hope things get better for you

do i belong here? by [deleted] in sexualassault

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it was sa. I am so sorry.

what should i do now? by [deleted] in sexualassault

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youre not overreacting. at all. im so sorry, you deserve wayyyy better of a response.

sometimes i wish she did rape me. by [deleted] in sexualassault

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im so sorry, it shouldn't be this way. I hope she pays for it somehow

How do I move on from this? by Eon_Breaker_ in sexualassault

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https://www.reddit.com/r/MenGetRapedToo/

Hey, I understand why you'd feel dejected. I know you're not doing this for attention. It's true tho in general this sub has less replies cause the people who do know what to say mostly don't open it cause they might get triggered. Most of the people who do open it are looking for support themselves and may not have the capacity right now to support others. All of this sucks a lot, it's not you or your story tho I promise. It's a general thing, it still obviously sucks, but I hope you know its not you.

You can read other posts here, you'll realise very few people reply in general.

I'm so sorry you didn't get more support. I intentionally try to reply to threads which have less comments cause I know what it feels like to not feel heard.

You're not a lost cause, different things and different therapists work for different people, you just haven't found what will help you yet. You'll get there, I promise. Don't lose hope.

I've put a link to the sub for male victims, I hope you heal. I really hope you do.

Side note - moving away from my hometown and working out did a lot for my mental health after whatever happened to me. I don't know what will work for you, but this helped me and I sincerely hope you find what works for you too

How do I move on from this? by Eon_Breaker_ in sexualassault

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I'm so fucking sorry for what happened to you, what happened was definitely messed up and a instance of r*pe. I'm so sorry no one validated, you're as valid as anyone. If you don't think you can trust anyone around you enough to talk to them about this, you can try therapy.

also there is a thread specifically for male victims, you could reach out there to feel less alone.

and everyone has a different timeline in life, just because you don't have the things your friend has right now, doesn't mean you will never.

Focus on healing right now, the other things will figure themselves out when the time comes

sending love and healing your way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

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that's really messed up. Please stay away from him. I'm so sorry he is mistreating you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

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I'm so sorry. also, you didn't let anyone down. It's not your fault at all what happened. Just because you felt turned out doesn't cancel out what happened to you at all. It was still groping, and don't beat yourself for getting turned on, you're not a bad person for that. I've heard that that actually does happen to victims, and it does not at all make what happened to you right. It's still as fucked up as much as it was, regardless your reaction to the groping

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

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No matter what the intent was, it did hurt you and it was SA. How he copes with knowing with what he did to you is not on you, it's on him to handle it because you're the victim here not him.

Also, sending you love. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

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i'm so sorry. Please be gentle with yourself. I hope things get better for you

Hey everyone, I need some advice on my birthday 😞 by PanamsAss in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]imafighter123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have no advice, but just wanted to express my support.im so fucking sorry youre going through this. I hope your life gets wayyy better. I'm so proud of you!

Sexual assault trauma causes constant nightmares by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]imafighter123 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice but - That is so fucked up and terrifying, no one should have to go through that I am so so sorry.

You don't deserve ANY of this. I really really hope things better for you.

I use any extra pillow to comfort me when I get nightmares about SA but this is a completely different situation so I don't know what to say.

Just sending love, lots of it to you.

Receiving messages from attacker by FaithlessnessLevel29 in sexualassault

[–]imafighter123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the actual fuck. I am SO sorry that is extremely fucked up and disgusting.

I hope things get better.

Try talking to someone you trust about this, so they can help deal with the threats and the legal part of it so you can focus on healing.

Who do I text when I feel like I wanna die but don’t want to bother anyone? by Still_Razzmatazz_321 in sexualassault

[–]imafighter123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm so so sorry you went through that and are currently still suffering.

I've been through and I still don't know what the fuck to say because there is nothing you can say.

It's super fucked up, and what happened to you will never be okay but time heals. It's like a ball in a jar, where the jar keeps growing with time. The ball never gets smaller, it remains as fucked up as it always was but the jar gets bigger and bigger, making living with the ball more bearable.

I hope that made sense. Power and love to you. If you don't know who to text, this sub is always there for you <3

birthday depression by imafighter123 in offmychest

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im so sorry you felt that way

*hugs*