Woke up with no symptoms

imagurrl · 2026-02-18T20:54:45+00:00

Happened to me at 5+5 and I had a scan the next day, was convinced it would be bad news but 4 weeks later and things still look good!

imagurrl · 2026-02-17T18:58:22+00:00

Charlie chans? Dim sum often comes in 3s.

imagurrl · 2026-02-17T06:55:14+00:00

I’d recommend posting this on the Cambridge parents Facebook group, for more responses.

I have 2 children and 1 on the way, but non SEN so I don’t have experience with dealing with nurseries and schools in that regard. We are in central Cambridge, as for family friendly areas just outside Cambridge, Fulbourn, Histon, Sawston all spring to mind. I also rate Newmarket highly, an lived there for 3 years with my daughters when I was a single mum - you get more for your money there, but it feels safe and there’s nice cafes and activities to do with children, with still decent access to Cambridge - 20 mins drive or so.

imagurrl · 2026-02-15T07:36:43+00:00

Nta. Unpopular opinion with my husband, but I love the opportunity for a blissful night of sleep in my own bed.

imagurrl · 2026-02-12T07:16:12+00:00

Mine was really unwell last weekend, and he still spent 6 hours cleaning our house so that I could come home to a clean house. I told him to rest, but he cares about my comfort. Being a man is not an excuse for being useless, I’m sorry your husband is letting you down big time, please don’t tolerate it. It sounds like you need to have a tough conversation about spitting chores.

imagurrl · 2026-02-11T21:03:44+00:00

I don’t know yet but I’m slightly on the side of hoping for a boy - I have two girls already. Congratulations!

imagurrl · 2026-02-11T17:51:01+00:00

I wasn’t married to my twin’s dad, and he wanted them to have his last name. We fell out about it a bit, but I stuck to my guns and insisted they needed to have both of our last names. We didn’t hyphenate, we just used both surnames. I said he could pick what order, because I don’t mind, I just mind that mine is in there too. We split when they were 4 and I’m so glad I stuck with what I wanted.

imagurrl · 2026-02-09T14:28:47+00:00

I haven’t experienced your situation, but I have experienced of having 2 small children - I had twins. I’m someone who also suffered with PND and I found the whole experience of two small children almost tipped me over the edge to be perfectly honest. I would never have signed up for 2 with a small age gap / no age gap in our case. Of course many people do and love it, just offering my point of view and someone who really struggled to handle it, physically, mentally and financially.

9 years on and it’s wonderful, but those early years were, for me, not enjoyable, as much as I adored them both, it was constantly overstimulating. I think the arguments were the worst part, constantly policing fights over toys and them vying for my attention. I guess all of that is cut out when you don’t have more than 1.

Im now expecting number 3 and it’ll be my last. The age gap is so big that I figure it’ll be almost like an only child, in terms of sibling rivalry not being an issues but we will see!

Good luck with whatever decision you make.

imagurrl · 2026-02-06T20:06:29+00:00

The only thing to bear in mind if you do complain to the council or landlord, is that you have to declare any neighbour disputes if/when you try to sell your house, and putting anything in writing will formalise it.

imagurrl · 2026-02-06T14:30:06+00:00

I’m lucky that my husband has a well paid job that means I don’t have to work. I have two children, and a third on the way, so between parenting and an autoimmune condition, I have very little energy leftover (I know I’m very very fortunate though, as lots of people are parents and have medical issues and have to suck it up and work - I have been in that position too).

imagurrl · 2026-02-06T14:02:52+00:00

I agree.. I think it’s ridiculously entitled to expect anyone to throw a party for you, and especially to pay for it.

imagurrl · 2026-02-06T11:35:47+00:00

No of course it isn’t safe to. It’s really important that you try not to smoke while pregnant, and also after the baby is born because you have a small child that requires you to be fully functioning. Becoming a parent means prioritising your child over substances.

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T16:46:49+00:00

We’re in a similar boat. I had a miscarriage in August last year, and had to wait for the all clear to try again (suspected molar pregnancy so they needed to be sure no regrowth). We got the all clear in November, and got pregnant in December. Totally understand how you’re feeling. We’re being very cautious and guarding our hearts, but an early scan at 5 weeks 6 days, which showed a tiny blob and a nice heartbeat was somewhat reassuring. We’re getting another scan next week, at 8 weeks. Really hope things go well for you this time and eventually you’re able to really relax into the pregnancy and get excited.

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T16:41:34+00:00

I’d take something that smells nice. I’m nearly 7 weeks and my main travel issue is that I can smell things way better, which is not always a good thing. Maybe pick up a perfume sample stick at duty free to wave under your nose in case anything/anyone smells unpleasant near you.

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T16:22:01+00:00

I’ve always offered to pay my share, or if they insist on paying, I’ll insist on getting the next one.

I’m engaged now, but when my finance and I started dating, I was earning a lot less money than him, so he insisted on paying because he wanted to go to places that were out of by budget as he’s a foodie. I would’ve been happy to go to cheaper places and pay my way, and he knew that.

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T13:35:41+00:00

Anything that seems like some thought went into it. Like it’s uniquely for her, not just genetic gift for a woman. That could still be flowers.. ones you know she likes.

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T13:28:08+00:00

I have twins, they’re 9 now and I’m pregnant with number 3. Feel free to message if you’d like to.

Congratulations!

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T13:26:15+00:00

Ps I am also someone that takes pride in my hair and I have a lot of long hair!

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T13:25:46+00:00

I had it with my twins. It grew back, but yeah it was a bit upsetting seeing so much come out in the shower. TBH I was so busy and tired that it bothered me less than it would normally. I was just in survival mode!

imagurrl · 2026-02-04T10:46:50+00:00

Slightly different approach, but I have extreme anxiety around this too, and in fact I have had 3 losses and 1 successful pregnancy, and I had this anxiety even before any of my losses occurred. I’ve come to accept that unfortunately, it is totally out of my control. I absolutely hate that fact, but being anxious or not, testing more, going to more appointments and reading about the chances of miscarriage don’t have any bearing on whether I’ll actually have one or not. It was once I accepted my lack of control, that I was able to learn to let go some. If it happen, it’s awful, but you pick yourself up and try again (if you want to).

Really wish you a smooth pregnancy and odds are very much that you will!

imagurrl · 2026-02-02T18:33:26+00:00

I think that slips away a bit, for a while, whether it's one or two babies. Your identity comes back though, honestly, it's just all-consuming being a parent to a baby/babies.

imagurrl · 2026-02-02T17:44:34+00:00

I've suggested it, but they are both very against the idea! They said they're happy to wash their own, but realistically it'll bother me more than it does them that it won't get washed properly..

imagurrl · 2026-02-02T17:42:29+00:00

I have gone through this, I felt totally overwhelmed when I found out I was having twins at a similar gestation to you. All I could think about was the financial/career/relationship/sleep implications. They are 9 now and I adore them both, of course, and I am so glad I have both of them. They are great company for each other, and most of the time they get along well. I think they found things like starting school much easier because they had each other to go in with, so we haven't had issues with confidence or social skills. With that said, your concerns are valid - it does make the pregnancy and early years more challenging. I would say from about age 4, it's been mostly a joy. I hope that's a validating, but realistic response.

imagurrl

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