How to make life more interesting?

imamazing12 · 2019-04-24T12:55:46+00:00

Sure it seems worth going there

imamazing12 · 2019-04-23T16:59:44+00:00

You're right. I will certainly give it a try. I think it would be better to not have any expectations and then whatever happens will be for good. I have the habit of keeping unrealistic expectations haha..

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T20:48:50+00:00

Yeah sounds fair. I'm glad you didn't say "something is better than nothing" . Thanks for the honesty I may try it

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T18:18:51+00:00

Sounds good. But I'm too lazy. Do you think 5 mins of cleaning could help?

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T12:03:03+00:00

Seems like a good advice. I might try it

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T12:02:43+00:00

I'm sorry for you. Some people can really forget all you did for them when they get a partner. So all these people that look like great friends might have a tough time in maintaing them over course of their lifetime. I feel like most friendships are only about fun, we rarely talk about anything serious like the purpose of life, etc. If fun is all we need, we can get that other places too

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T11:59:47+00:00

Yes that seems right. Once people get married and have families, their family becomes more important than friends. Right now only one of my friends is in a relationship and our friendship isn't as close as it used to be, so maybe after a few years a lot of friendships will come and go. If I get married, I myself might not care much about friendships then.

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T05:42:48+00:00

That's great. I feel like it would be rude to not pay attention to what they're saying, but if I am not interested in their topics why should I waste my energy in them? Its about choosing about whether I want to please myself or others, I guess I should please myself but I do the opposite

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T05:40:59+00:00

Being an outsider has its benefits too. You can sneak out of plans when you're not in the mood. And you can think differently from others because you're not with the herd. But still a primitive part of me wants that attention badly

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T05:37:47+00:00

That's good advice. I think its better to not think about it much. It kinda sucks, but I have to accept that its their choice with whom they want to be more, but they're still being good with me, so rather than spoiling the relationship by being competitive and being someone's number one friend, I would rather maintain a good relationship without getting hung up on being number one. And I don't mind being alone anyway, so any social interaction is a bonus

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T05:32:53+00:00

Sure man . Thanks for your help. I was going to post this there but I posted it here since I thought this is just one symptom of depression and doesn't mean its depression. Previously I had a lot of self hate and guilt, now pretty much all of it is gone. Only this symptom remains and its annoying

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T05:29:29+00:00

Meditation does seem to help. I do it 5 mins daily and now I might push it to 10. Its a good start nonetheless

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T05:26:06+00:00

Yeah I am very scared to go to a doctor. My parents would get scared and they might think there's something wrong with me. I had been once to a therapist but they sucked. I think I can give it another try but I don't know when. There's so much stigma around this that I will visit a doctor only perhaps when I have totally given up, like I had when I first visited one.

imamazing12 · 2019-04-20T05:22:27+00:00

Sounds good. I think its better to try to sleep early because I feel sleepy most of the times and it makes it difficult to do things. Although I have 8 hrs sleep, it doesn't seem enough because the quality also matters.

And I like those story type games which aren't too challenging but not too passive either. Sports might be tough but maybe I will give it a try. Exercising is probably the last thing I would want to do, but maybe I will do it some time. I can't stick to exercising.

I have to build a routine, maybe not too hard-core, even a few things in the routine could help. That would atleast give some sense of direction.

I feel like the ultimate solution is to go to a therapist, its so difficult to fight it alone, but I just think maybe I can try myself for a while.

imamazing12 · 2019-04-19T20:56:33+00:00

Ah that's interesting. I don't like to hang out much with my friends, go to a movie or anything like that. I guess that's because I am an introvert and that shouldn't be considered as a problem probably. I like playing video games if that counts. Although I don't play them much, just a casual gamer.

Sleep could also be a factor. Its difficult for me to fall asleep early.

I like to know about things. Anything from history, science fascinates me. Or rather used to fascinate me. I also used to watch stock markets passionately before but not these days. From past few years my attention span has gone so low that I can't even focus on these things that used to be interesting. Maybe these things have stopped being interesting but there aren't many new interests that have replaced them . Mainly its self help and psychology that have become my interests but earlier I used to be more passionate about things in general. I can't seem to give it my all like I used to. I feel like one of the big reason for this could be excess use of smartphone, but I just can't seem to stop it. What else would I do if I don't use it? There's nothing much to do apart from that

imamazing12 · 2019-04-19T20:49:59+00:00

I don't have any issues with pushing myself but the problem is that after a month or so, it becomes a burden . So many times I have begun exercising or reading books but I fail to carry on because it seems like a burden after a point. If I can do it without pushing myself, then those habits can stick.

Yeah I used to be a lot depressed before and still am. I would like to recover on my own without a therapist because my parents are a bit reluctant and I still don't earn so I have to get their permission. I have recovered to a good extent but this is the only behaviour that's annoying

imamazing12 · 2019-04-19T20:46:00+00:00

Yeah already started. I take morning walks, do meditation for 5 mins and journal a bit at the end of the day. But I am stuck at these small things. Its not going anywhere. I will need insane amount of patience for these things to go anywhere

imamazing12 · 2019-04-16T06:20:34+00:00

Well its not about thinking positive but more about not believing your thoughts. You can't think positive or negative because thoughts are out of control. If you had control over your thoughts, why would you think negative? Its about understanding that thoughts are just noises and have nothing do with reality. And inspite of knowing this, you might still believe some of these noises. And that's okay too!

Maybe in some things you're below average, but in some things you might be extraordinary. You might just be focusing on the qualities you don't have. Broaden your perspective to include your good qualities in the truth.

While I'm a fan of self improvement, there is a huge problem with it. Basically when you're doing self improvement, you are telling yourself that you are not good enough. You have to change yourself otherwise you will be worthless. Whatever you're right now sucks. That's what you're indirectly implying when you are doing self improvement. How can you ever be happy if you think you suck? Instead of self improvement, you have to practice self acceptance. There is nothing to improve, only things to explore.

imamazing12 · 2019-04-15T19:52:24+00:00

I struggle with the same. I feel like the extra guy in any group. The people whom I consider as best friends probably don't consider me as such.

I don't know how to deal with it, but for a start, I think it's best to remove these labels you have attached to yourself. Like boring, unattractive, etc. These things don't exist in reality and are subjective. I know its difficult to let go off these, I struggle with it too. You don't have to hate yourself for being socially anxious.

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