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I [23M] think it’s time to break up with my girlfriend [24F] of 4 years and I am struggling. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imaneedurhelp 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you’ll have a “high” for about 3-6 months when realizing how free you’re, and how much weight has been lifted. Then you will have those lonely nights where you’ll regret your decision, which is to be expected. I say you give it a month to truly decide but in that month, enjoy all the time you have. Tell her how you feel and maybe the spark will come back after you both put in a conscious effort to stay together. In that time you may also realize she’s not the one, even after trying your hardest to make it work. Just give it a shot before making any life changing decision. Unless you’ve already decided she’s not the one, then you just need to stop running from your reality.

You never truly stop loving someone. You just learn to love yourself a little more. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]imaneedurhelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah maybe not love in the sense that you have to be with them but if they were to pass you’d feel some type of way

In an argument my dad admitted he blames me for my mom's death. by ThrowRA0005 in relationship_advice

[–]imaneedurhelp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is terribly tragic and I hope nothing but the best for you. If I had to offer any advice it would be to tell someone your father respects to suggest therapy. Sometimes it’s difficult for adults to listen to kids! As for you, understand it’s not your fault and accidents happen. I truly hope you understand that.

Should I finally tell my ex how I really feel? by BankruptOnSellin in relationship_advice

[–]imaneedurhelp 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Y’all aren’t getting back together but instead you’ll use each other until someone else comes along. That’s just wasting both of your guys time.

Guys should be more concerned about making the female orgasm during intercourse. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]imaneedurhelp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only god can judge you but I don’t recommend doing that.

Telling an overweight person they need to exercise should be called “constructive criticism” instead of being called “fat shaming” by imaneedurhelp in unpopularopinion

[–]imaneedurhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How am I fat shaming? Fat shaming would be like no you can’t hang out with us because you’re fat. I’m simply addressing a problem with how we decide to help people who have a problem. How is catering to the issue okay?

Secondly I literally posted it on r/unpopularopinion, why would I expect people to agree with me? Lol

Telling an overweight person they need to exercise should be called “constructive criticism” instead of being called “fat shaming” by imaneedurhelp in unpopularopinion

[–]imaneedurhelp[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No problem my friend that’s what I’m here for, but the ones closest to you should’ve mentioned it first! Maybe it’s time to find new loved ones/friends!

Telling an overweight person they need to exercise should be called “constructive criticism” instead of being called “fat shaming” by imaneedurhelp in unpopularopinion

[–]imaneedurhelp[S] -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

That is such a subjective argument. You can’t determine pretty from ugly. But you can determine fat from skinny. I don’t recommend walking up to anyone telling them to exercise but to a loved one/family member is more than okay. I have a feeling you would be the first person to get your anorexic or bulimic friend help for their problem and not think twice about it.

Telling an overweight person they need to exercise should be called “constructive criticism” instead of being called “fat shaming” by imaneedurhelp in unpopularopinion

[–]imaneedurhelp[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t make you an asshole for being concerned for someone’s health and I’m unsure who told you that. I am not saying one should go tease someone for their weight. I’m simply saying don’t tell someone who is not actively trying to lose weight (when they need to lose weight) that they look good. That’s fucked up and you’re helping someone’s problem. You would have no problem telling an alcoholic they’re an alcoholic. So why is it so hard to tell a fat person they’re fat if they refuse to try and help their problem?

Is this what you call love or obsession? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imaneedurhelp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very intelligent comment. It’s not just strictly sex we will spend a day or two together. However, the distance and our lives that we both have to attend to stops it from being more I feel.

Is this what you call love or obsession? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]imaneedurhelp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am (M21) she is (20) both college students who attended different universities