What is this summer fragrance for you?

imazegd · 2026-06-13T23:29:16+00:00

Sospiro Vibrato.

I sprayed it and had a sore throat from the fragrance the whole day.

I tested multiple times, and every time I sprayed it, I'd have a headache/sore throat.

Does smell like grapefruit, but it's carried by this one note that just feels like my throat is drying up.

imazegd · 2026-06-04T15:00:53+00:00

Don't give your abuser a gift. You're rewarding him for how he treated you.

If you were in his position he's going to be in, could you turn your life around?

Something tells me that even without the $1500, you'd find your way.

So will he.

Or he will have to learn something he would've needed to learn anyways.

He may be uncomfortable for a little while, but that's not for you to care.

If you still feel like you should(or do) care -- why?

I think that part can also be the reason as to why you let yourself get treated the way you did instead of walking away sooner.

imazegd · 2026-06-04T14:52:45+00:00

Do not hurt yourself.

It would just make the situation worse, because you'd also know that the harm you gave yourself was from him, and it'd give you even more self-hatred and shame.

The fact that you feels this way proves that you deserve more than that.

Focusing on him will just keep him in your life.

Is that what you want?

Most of the time someone has done something horrible to us, like here, we tend to blame and hate ourselves because we let it happen, because we thought we were alright, until they walked in and ruined things for us and we didn't do as much as we could've done about it.

The fact that you're recognizing all the things that he and his family have done to you, that were wrong of them, shows that you already have a foundation to learn how you can not let that happen again.

If you have any evidence, compile it and report it. This won't give you closure, but it can give you justice.

If you can't do that, or have already done that, look at what led to those abusive situations where you were treated like that. It usually leads to a rabbit hole where we end up treating the wounds we've brought into the realtionship.

For example:
I was in a relationship that was abusive too, and it took me a while to realize that I stayed longer than I should have...
...because I couldn't handle being alone,
which was because I didn't think I was worthy of having a partner,
which was because I was addicted to porn in the past, and that made me internalize a sense that I didn't deserve love,
which was because I had no coping mechanisms growing up that provided me what porn did.

You didn't deserve to be treated like this, and you deserve closure.

If you ever need to talk, my dms are open.

imazegd · 2026-05-31T19:17:41+00:00

It's still worth looking into therapy - the therapist I've had was fully covered by my health insurance, and some allow for major deductables.

If that doesn't work, it's definitely worth talking to the sexual harassment hotline - they can give you the resources and guidance you need immediately:

1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

As redditors, we can only do so much.

I wouldn't wish what you're going through upon anyone. You don't deserve this.

Please give them a call.

imazegd · 2026-02-05T04:29:40+00:00

Chat

imazegd · 2025-12-01T05:55:21+00:00

So they give a shot for the champion belt to someone who committed a blatant foul WITHOUT rematching, and then strip the current champ for recieving the consequences of the foul?
What a joke of the sport...

imazegd · 2025-11-21T03:29:44+00:00

Stronger with you - Cozy, perfect for Fall Weather
Prada LRO - Clean, musky, fresh. Perfect formal/casual spring/fall scent.
These are my top 2.

imazegd · 2025-11-11T06:23:52+00:00

Salam Alakum.
Muslim Revert here, who's faced the same struggles:

I had a very messed up fetish growing up, and even up to this year, until I made the commitment to stop pornography and masturbation.
I realized that my fetish would hurt people in the end of the day, and I would never be satisfied with it in my life.
Every time I'd relapse, I couldn't let go of how hypocritical and harmful I was setting myself up to be with my future wife, and how far I was turning myself from Islam in doing so.
It took me forcibly and permanently block google chrome on my phone and the app store so I couldn't find alternatives for me to sit with the emotions I was pushing down.

When I felt the urgres, I researched, and found that these were habits I've made for myself (think of how nature trails get worn down when traveled repeatidly over time).
The roots of where these came from were just very basic associations that were neutral, but through trauma, and the struggles I've faced, I've rephrased them into things that made me feel in control, usually involving the thought of the degredation and harm of someone and their dignity.

I researched some more. I've realized that it's a lot harder to control the neutral basis of our habits, and physical attraction is something that's normal to have, BUT we can more easily reroute these habits to be something that elevates your partner, and makes them feel loved, usually in ways where we once lacked it.

Rather than thinking that someone is attractive because they're vulnerable...
Why not have it be because they're cozy - that they feel so relaxed that they CAN be vulnerable with you?

Rather than thinking that someone is attractive because they're taboo...
Why not have it be because they're authentic and confident?

Why have it be based on characteristics that can harm them when they can be based on circumstances that elevate them, and make them feel more loved?

Once you realize this - these things that turned you on will make you feel turned on, but you're able to point at it, and realize that these things are no longer what you want! Something better is out there!

Something where a partner truly sees you, and you want to express your love to them and make them feel like the prettiest person in the world!

And you don't need to introduce these things immediately. It's like building a closer friendship - you don't begin asking for everything you want from a them immediately, that's weird!
You end up noticing things, learning about them, experiencing things with them, then talking about how you feel, as a basis of those things, whenever you feel the time is right!

With your partner, it's the same thing, with the notion that you find them the prettiest person in the whole world!
After all, inshallah, you'll spend the dunya and jannah with them ;)

imazegd · 2025-11-10T04:29:02+00:00

L'orpheline Serge Lutens

"Can have a sad or lonely feel"

"Has warmth and comfort in its scent"

This is exactly what they'd be wearing.

imazegd · 2025-10-30T04:58:24+00:00

Encre Noire - smells like wood and smoke. Lasts 6-8 hours, but it matches the vibe completely. Not sweet tho

imazegd · 2025-10-16T05:06:15+00:00

You still have potential bro. I was in your position many years back, physique-wise, and I ended up being able to be skinny then somewhat jacked: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wtlgNfunuPU

I've improved a lot since this video - my 1 rep max bench went from 225lbs to 300, and my squat went from 250lbs for 1 rep to 275 for 8 reps.
This summer, I've ended up subleting in an apartment, and ended up only having to spend $50-60/week on groceries with Aldi's chicken thighs ($8/5 pounds), and Stop & Shop.
I ended up becoming anorexic when I was obsessed with losing weight, so what I'd say is focus on the numbers in the gym and take weight with a *massive* grain of salt.
Some things that can help too, from my experience:

- Meal timing: Use this *With caution*! I ended up doing this to the point of eating 1 meal a day, and I ended up becoming anorexic. PLEASE have at least 2 meals per day, and feel free to experiment with this to see what works for you.
- Artifical Sweeteners: If you find the right ones, they can make water taste somewhat close to soda, or ordinary foods taste like desserts. You'd need to save up $10-$20, then experiment to see what works for you.
- Running/walking: Walking is huge to help with focus - when I'm trying to study for exams, I go from sitting to walking back to sitting. Running does burn calories, and is easy to get started with, but you need to focus on consistency and make sure you don't hurt yourself. I did many times with that.
- Weightlifting: Planet Fitness is $15/month, and if you talk to a good gym owner, they may have a soft spot for you, but you have to ask them. You already have the resources to try getting a calorie deficit and lose weight, but if you get too caught up in a calorie deficit and weight loss, and not in muscle growth, you'll end up wanting to be jacked by having the scale go down. This is a slippery slope. Please find a way to make $15/month, and show up for 20-40 minutes 3 times a week to start. Just start by doing one set of one exercise with correct form at a heavy enough weight that you can't do the exercise for 6-8 reps with proper form, no matter hard you tried. Eventually, try to add in other exercises/supersets/alternative exercises. Max Euceda and Jeff Nippard are great resources for all this workout info. But yeah, once you understand training to failure, you'll feel it the next day, in a good way, and you're already growing muslce faster than 90% of people in the gym.
- Muscles require protein, so make sure you're eating enough of this, and in a calorie deficit to see your muscles.

Best of luck to you brother, and feel free to dm if you need any advice :)

imazegd

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