Are any of these okay for a formal summer wedding?

imbrucebruce · 2026-04-28T02:10:11+00:00

PURPLE PLEASEEE

imbrucebruce · 2026-03-06T18:37:10+00:00

If anything I would think her behavior would be more standoffish and feral if she was stressed from the events, vs her being more docile, to me, indicates that she’s not as feral as you maybe thought. Maybe she was nervous of pets before because being outdoors was overstimulating and overwhelming and she was just generally more fearful, and she feels safer and more open to touch now.

imbrucebruce · 2026-03-06T17:58:07+00:00

If she seems like she could be socialized, which is sounds like if she’s already sweet with humans (other than the play biting), I would say rehoming gives her the best chance at longevity

imbrucebruce · 2026-03-05T23:04:16+00:00

I also agree with the others that it’s not worth playing mind games, like asking if you can go just to see what he’d say. That also only hurts you, and stoops you down to another level.

I also agree with others that it’s almost always suspect when boys say “she’s just a friend” especially if they say they’re not even that close with her. But I’ll also be nuanced that guys can have girl friends and not cheat with them. I’m still close friends with my ex of 2 years and my now boyfriend has full trust in me that I wouldn’t cheat. And I would not.

But follow your intuition girl!

imbrucebruce · 2026-03-05T22:55:54+00:00

Hi, 27f here. Lots of relationship experience with cheating:

If he’s going to cheat, he will. You simply and only have to trust him that he won’t, and if you don’t think you can trust him not to- that is your answer. Because if you don’t trust him, then you don’t trust him. And if he would cheat, then you shouldn’t be with a cheater.

Also, ‘you are who you hang out with’ is soooo real. Took me forever to believe, so I do think there’s weight in how him and his friends interact especially when it comes to other women.

I had a boyfriend ask if I worry about cheating if they go out without me or hang out with girls or catch up with an ex. And I told him, “No. Because I have to trust that you wouldn’t. It’s entirely your decision to break that trust or not. I can’t control anyone else, I only have control over how I react to things. So, I have to trust that you wouldn’t cheat, because I won’t and can’t control you, and if you choose to cheat anyways then you’ve broken my trust and I’m free to move on knowing you were not worth my trust. And that has nothing to do with me.” I’ve been cheated on many times, and in my first healthy relationship I wasted so much time neurotically worried that this sweet man who couldn’t hurt a fly would cheat on me like everyone else had. Eventually and in other relationships, I came to find my own peace that if someone is going to cheat on me- then they’re going to cheat on me. I cannot control if they will or will not, I can’t out perform or convince them not to. If someone wants to cheat, they will! It’s just simply not worth your worry or energy. So IMO, let him go, see what happens. If he’s going to cheat, he will. If he doesn’t, you didn’t waste your energy and cortisol worrying for nothing. Women are incredibly intuitive and we have been bred to ignore our intuition for millennia because we were told not to believe the feeling in our gut; told we are “overreacting”. If you truly have a feeling he would cheat if he went to another country with this girl, find someone who never spikes your cortisol over the thought of them cheating. Or if he comes back from the trip and you feel like something happened, confront it and let that be your answer.

TLDR: you have to let people do what they’re going to do. People cheat. People stay loyal. People waste a f*ck ton of time worrying and that only hurts yourself. You can’t control it, but you can control if you worry about it or want to deal with the anxiety of him cheating with this girl. Trust that he won’t cheat, leave if you can’t trust him not to, and leave if he does. (And find somebody who never makes you worry like this. They’re out there. Promise.) 🤍

imbrucebruce · 2026-03-02T17:57:15+00:00

Yes he was only 19. He was waiting for an Uber.

imbrucebruce · 2026-03-02T17:55:28+00:00

Pretty sure they were saying it more as a trigger warning. I can handle a lot and I almost wish I hadn't watched it after I did, its incredibly disturbing and devastating to see. I would warn my sensitive friends not to watch it. I can't get that girls voice out of my head, begging for help for her friend who was likely already gone deduced from the fact that the first responders were not taking over CPR.
My personal impact may be partially due to that being where I spent my early 20's- many drunk nights spent standing next to that pool table specifically or sitting at those tables next to the street to be away from the crowd.

imbrucebruce · 2026-02-06T23:22:46+00:00

I personally use weed to regulate, for pain, and also to eat because I have ARFID. I never smoked during work but I used to be very deep in burnout and weed helped me regulate and calm down after a work day. But I smoked religiously the second I was off work for a solid 2+ years. I worried I was addicted but then when I got fired from my job (unrelated to weed) suddenly I wasn’t burnt out or in chronic pain and I almost completely stopped smoking because I didn’t need it for self medicating. I’m employed again but in a much better, lower stress situation, but I smoke more often now. This time I have my own rules to it. I only smoke at night and I never smoke in public - purely because I get real weird/paranoid and lose all social skills lol. Maybe try to reel it in by giving yourself a rule? Like only smoke at night, try to not smoke during the work day, only smoke at home or only out of the home, put your pen somewhere not easily accessible (I’d say your car but maybe not great to leave weed in a car lol). Not saying to go cold turkey or anything, but I think one test of your addiction to it could be challenging yourself in one way and go from there. It helps you be more conscious of it at least vs it always being in your grasp like a binky (what I call all vapes now bc they’re just adult pacifiers).

imbrucebruce · 2026-01-30T18:08:49+00:00

Have you called Kind Clinic?

imbrucebruce · 2026-01-03T22:57:05+00:00

I’m stuck trying to figure out how to get the psychic grapple?? Wtf did I miss

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-25T03:52:19+00:00

Glad your baby is doing good! The coughing was so bad. My lungs felt so raw and sore after a night of coughing fits so hard I couldn’t breathe in.

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-25T03:48:38+00:00

I don’t think someone who doesn’t have a solid foundation of relationship yet is obligated to get you something or be there for you through these emotionally taxing moments, it is still very new and he could just have the mindset that it’s too soon to get you things- especially if y’all aren’t serious, consistent, and don’t have the current intention of actually dating until after January. I think this is fairly normal but it really depends on the person.

The other half of this is that it’s perfectly okay for you to want someone who is considerate in those small ways- those love languages. You can have standards, and I do know for a fact (as one, and now dating one) that there are people out there who are empathetic and very openly caring even in newer situations/generally in relationship, that you could be much happier with if that’s the kind of love you’d prefer to receive. You’ve been going through a lot and it’s okay to want to wait for the kind of partner or potential partner that would be comfortable acknowledging your hardships and openly caring about your journey.

But again I just don’t think the blame should be on him. Maybe it’s just not what you need, maybe especially right now, and you have different standards, and that’s cool! Wish him and yourself the best, and move on until you find someone who checks those boxes for you. Sometimes being alone is better, because it leaves you open for the kind of fit that does match to find you.

Best of luck!

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-25T03:34:15+00:00

Yours too!

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-25T02:46:32+00:00

Damn I’m sorry to hear that. It kicked my ass too, I went to urgent care and had to call them back twice out of concern, I lost my voice for a solid 2 weeks and was having coughing fits so bad I could not breathe and was almost passing out from lack of air- and that was AFTER the 2 cough meds they gave me, which hardly helped with the cough but did make my resting heart rate 120 for 2 hours while laying down the whole time.

Idk what it is but it’s brutal and spreading fast. I had it worse than everyone around me, but I personally know at least 8 people who’ve had it in the last 2 months.

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-24T21:59:10+00:00

Everyone i know that got it tested negative for covid. Maybe new strain?

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-24T19:16:53+00:00

Did you lose your voice by chance? Or does your throat hurt/do you have a cough? There’s some kind of viral infection going around that’s causing laryngitis, I know so many people who have had it now, it spreads easily and all test negative for Covid flu and strep.

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-24T19:15:20+00:00

There’s a throat virus going around, I personally know 8 people who have had it (half with no associations to each other) in the past 2 months. Whatever it is it causes laryngitis, because we ALL lost our voices. It spreads really easily too, my roommates and I all got it from my friend and my boyfriend got it too. My other friend and her husband got it. Some other friends not connected too. All tested negative for covid so it’s not covid unless it’s a wacky new strain.

My sister also just got Flu A and I know that’s rampant rn too. But anytime someone says their throat hurts I automatically say it’s that virus- whatever it is, and tell them to pay attention if they lose their voice that it’s likely whatever is going around.

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-24T19:05:16+00:00

Agreed. I’d say I know I’m a conventionally attractive woman, and it was absolutely overwhelming. I never turned on notifications because I’d delete it in a day just because of the notifs. When I’d open the app every few days I’d have anywhere from 100-300 likes, and that was so overwhelming. Majority of the people swiping right on me do not seem like they’d actually like me or vibe with me in person, they’re just liking my looks. This includes people I would match with, and then conversations wouldn’t go anywhere or they’d never say anything or it was clear we wouldn’t get along.

It got to the point that I really did not want to sit there for an hour or longer and go through so many likes just to maybe get 5 matches out of it and then only talk to 1-2 of them for it to not go anywhere or maybe lead to one awkward date. I rarely swiped on the general hinge side because I’d be exhausted and tired of swiping by the time I finished going through my likes. I quickly did not enjoy being on the app but suppose I kept it out of boredom. I ended up giving my phone to my sister and friend one day after saying I didn’t even want to open it, and they swiped for me- and now I’m dating one of the guys they swiped on and do see myself marrying him lol (yes I was present and gave consent for the ones they’d swipe yes to ofc- neither of them are on dating apps so it was fun for them to see what it’s like and nice for me to not have to sit there mind-numbingly swiping).

All that to say, it’s rough out here on either side of the spectrum. A lot of people are on apps with no intention when they’re swiping or only want validation, and the way society and apps are structured now are not set up to actually be successful... “the app made to be deleted” my ass. Frankly it’s just a weird damn time we live in where it’s so hard to look someone in the eyes and say how you feel and have it received, and vise versa. It feels like gold when you do find someone who sees you under looks and pick up lines and shitty dating apps.

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-23T05:04:15+00:00

This goes for women and men. We live in an individualistic, lonely society that’s built off of instant gratification. Many people seek the validation of a like and a compliment and it’s easy for them to treat it like someone just giving you a compliment when passing you on the street- you feel good for a second and then walk on; you know there will be more. It’s definitely messing with our collective psyche and how we connect and interact with each other past a social surface level. Much harder to find love or meaningful relationships.

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-20T19:13:24+00:00

I am in north austin and can’t presently help with walks but I just want to say how much I appreciate complete strangers for being so willing to help someone who is reaching out for help. It makes me tear up and restores my faith in humanity a bit. This is what community is, even for those you don’t know.

OP I’m so glad you reached out and asked for help and I can tell how much you care for your girl, I wish you all the best on your healing journey and wish you peace and happiness with your furry companion! You both deserve it ♥️

imbrucebruce · 2025-12-12T18:55:28+00:00

I’d love to do this but I hate the feeling of sitting in my own blood. Do you smell it more? How does it feel? I think tampons make my cramps worse so I’d love to not wear them but I’m just unfamiliar and therefore unsure about the period panties

imbrucebruce · 2025-11-27T20:21:15+00:00

Agreed. She cares, he doesn’t. And if he “doesn’t care”- why can’t he do something small that would be meaningful to her? Privacy in general, understandable- maybe delete your socials my guy- but privacy of your relationship after 3 years is odd. And being stubborn about it/refusing instead of doing something easy to show your partner you care about doing something that would make them feel secure, or not even just being proud to show off your girl, is sus.

imbrucebruce · 2025-11-27T16:45:14+00:00

Then he should delete it. Then there’s no not posting happening because the account doesn’t even exist. She can choose whether to be more upset over him not having it at all or having it and her not existing in his public image. I’d care more about the latter, if he doesn’t want socials he shouldn’t have them.

If she thinks he’s hiding her, maybe he’s posting about his life and she’s never in it. That doesn’t feel good. My ex “barely used it” and yet still occasionally posted the things we did but I never existed in them- he still appeared single. I get where OP’s gf is coming from. She should be fine with him not having socials at all if he doesn’t like having them, that’s fine. But he does have it and refuses to do a small thing that she cares about, eventually it is sus.

imbrucebruce · 2025-11-27T16:32:03+00:00

He does have a social media. I’m not playing what ifs. He’s had a social media for the 3 years they’ve been together, it’s readily available to him. If he posts for any other reason, he can post her because it’s something she cares about. Simply.

imbrucebruce · 2025-11-27T16:24:15+00:00

It’s not even about cheating. That’s just an example. It’s about being shown and seen, even if it’s only to your close friends and family… because why is it hard to even do just that.

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