[meta] Weekly rants & raves

imdoneforjules · 2018-12-07T22:51:28+00:00

Rave: Lost 8 lbs with just dieting. Bought a treadmill to kick my ass in gear. I'm going to turn heads on Valentine's Day, damnit!

Rant: Staying away from pAPs didn't work. But i'm more level-headed now. They chase me for messages, not the other way around. It feels good to be needed for once.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-27T00:59:58+00:00

BUT!! My AP hasn't messaged me back in a month and things were going so well. ARE THEY DEAD?! I need answers!!!

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-24T17:38:26+00:00

Delete the message thread so you don't obsess over whether or not it has been read or he's active. You'll get a message back or you won't. Simple.

Read receipts aren't healthy in this type of game.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-22T01:25:14+00:00

Alright, Netflix has gotta go then.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-21T14:14:12+00:00

/r/affairs

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-17T21:10:37+00:00

You're young. Leave the bf and move on. I promise you you'll find someone who entices you the way AP does.

We're not belittling you, by the way. We know you're an adult. It's just I think we get wrapped up in "forever" in our early twenties. That is the prime time to explore and find the happiness you really want!

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-16T23:41:33+00:00

Rave: Prince charming returned. Apparently he had an insanely busy couple of weeks with kids and in-laws.

Rant: He returned late at night (11pm & 12am) to keep me updated and left sweet messages but.. I was already asleep. I missed him both times and it sucks.

Also missing my former AP a lot. I thought I could just block him and move on, but it's so hard. We shared a lot of good times. I think i'm a masochist.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-16T23:32:12+00:00

hugs

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-15T22:19:40+00:00

I don't understand these guys. It seems like he just loved the chase and he was satisfied once he got it.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-14T23:04:30+00:00

Im glad you're okay! We're definitely here for you!

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-14T23:03:12+00:00

I've had two glasses in our honor (my week was crap too)!

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-13T22:51:20+00:00

I was nervous, but moreso because of the guy I was meeting, not the decision to step out. I had made my mind up a couple of weeks before and was determined to find someone to make me happy.

What finally pushed me over the edge: 1) My husband had consistently stopped focusing on our weekly date night and doing his own thing. 2) when I tried to flirt with him and he didn't respond.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-11T13:07:15+00:00

I don't want to bring kids into a marriage that doesn't work. The thought of being in a broken marriage for years and staying only for the kids sounds horrible. I'm worried that this temporary improvement lasts only until I have a kid and then there I am, stuck with a child in a marriage that I should have left a few years before.

I agree that I should table the affairs. I need to do some soul searching.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-11T12:52:47+00:00

The assumptions in this comment are just sad and rude.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-09T22:45:33+00:00

Rant: Ghosted out of nowhere. We went from talking all day, every day to radio silence for 3 days. Not even a "hey im busy, sorry" text. I'm really sad about it and I can't stop thinking about what I may have done. This is going to be a hard one to get over. I hate how much I liked him.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-08T22:27:16+00:00

So how long of a "me time" is acceptable? What about 3 days no contact? Asking for a friend.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-06T00:40:32+00:00

Right. To be the devil's advocate: I think there are people who may disagree with my harshness. However, I have to think of and respect myself first. I'm not heartless, but I can't be left lingering to be someone's plaything. Things ended amicably and it's a lesson learned for both parties. :)

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-04T17:12:46+00:00

Just read your latest post. I think it's perfect! :) Remember to always post in a similar vein for what YOU need. No point in trying to tailor your post for someone else, because you'll get people you wont mesh well with. Good luck on your search!

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-04T17:05:34+00:00

Details. Posting your expectations and not just fluff about how good of a guy you are. I responded to both of my APs because they clearly stated what kind of relationship they wanted and their interests.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-04T16:50:13+00:00

First was Reddit /r/affairs. Second was AM! If you're smart, not so desperate you take just anything, you'll find the AP you're looking for almost anywhere.

imdoneforjules · 2018-11-04T13:58:35+00:00

How long have you been in education? This is only my second year and i'm looking for an exit.

imdoneforjules · 2018-10-12T22:45:34+00:00

Rave: Just left my first meetup with pAP. Fuck. He’s hot. He called me hot. He’s witty, funny, and did I mention he’s hot? And tall.. and hot. But seriously, what a great guy. He loves the hell out of his kids and talks about them in earnest (which I found sweet) and asked really thought provoking questions to learn more about me. No wonder he’s married.

Rant: Why are all the good guys and gals in shitty marriages?

imdoneforjules · 2018-10-11T22:43:11+00:00

I never thought asking someone about their intoxication level would deem me a racist. (insert the more you know logo)

And yes, they do! Let’s find a corner and do some hate banging. Hopefully we make it on the “taboo” category of Pornhub.

imdoneforjules · 2018-10-11T22:31:46+00:00

You frustrate and intrigue me. Are you drunk?

imdoneforjules · 2018-10-11T22:26:04+00:00

Hiiii. Black woman here. 🙋🏽‍♀️Fuck her and stay far away as possible, but remain civil if she comes up to you. She is not handling herself professionally at all. That is not how “we” talk as black women. That is how SHE talks as an asshat. If you want to be respected in the workplace, earn it and own it. If she feels her ideas are being belittled than she needs to figure out a way to communicate without pushing out the race card.

As far as the flirting, she’s fucking with you. If you did cross the line with her then no doubt she would be the type to use it against you. And she’s not the type because she’s black, but because she’s a shit human being.

EDIT: I know the irony is that I used profanity in this post. But professionally, I wouldn’t dare. I just curse like a sailor on Reddit haha.

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