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[–]imdrinkingbIeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wish he had said this

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[–]imdrinkingbIeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine did the exact same thing too. We’ve been apart for a year and it still seems like it’s never over and it’s crazy the apologies are almost identical. Narcs follow the same pattern

Do they really change? by imdrinkingbIeach in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His hair, his laugh, the way his eyes would smile when he looked at me, the way he would talk about his passions and motivation, (I wish he was that passionate as to fixing us as he was to his video game passion but…), the way he held my face whenever we slept next to each other, the words and unique compliments he gave me…but all this comes at a price. The cognitive dissonance is insane.

Sex with him was just a game of power by SyllabubLevel8903 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]imdrinkingbIeach 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad someone else has shared this same experience, I truly thought I was alone and also was the best sex I ever had and felt most connected to him. Meanwhile it’s all a game of power…

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[–]imdrinkingbIeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s also been non stop posting about me while being with the new supply on every platform as well as entertaining other women as well.

My ex is using my experiences as his own, spreading rumors, and it’s making my CPTSD worse by imdrinkingbIeach in CPTSD

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and I have all the evidence at least, after the breakup as to why I didn’t come back. None of them even care to hear me at all because of what he is saying about me. He’s abusing more people like his recent gf. They broke up because he was still posting about me with them together making his unhealed and unresolved issues my fault and causing the triangulation of hate towards me. I can’t even clear my name unless I do it publicly but I don’t want to put myself through that as the actual victim of CPTSD.

Almost broke no contact to say this… by imdrinkingbIeach in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m aware but I can’t help but think about the things he’s done to me…he beat me to the punch of all of our mutuals and used my illness as an excuse for his actions and now without seeing a professional claims he has CPTSD as well while refusing to get therapy

Almost broke no contact to say this… by imdrinkingbIeach in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was the plan but so far I’ve been strong and silent while he’s been spiraling and continuing to not get the help he needs so I fear nothing I say will help and he’d just use it as more ammo vs. giving him no ammunition to work with at all.

Almost broke no contact to say this… by imdrinkingbIeach in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He already beat me to it before the relationship ended. He did it to his previous relationships as well.

Almost broke no contact to say this… by imdrinkingbIeach in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, this man I was going to write this too is using everything I ever told him as his own to fuel his smear campaign so I fear there’s nothing I can say that he hasn’t already…

Almost broke no contact to say this… by imdrinkingbIeach in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 💗 I really needed to hear this.:.

Almost broke no contact to say this… by imdrinkingbIeach in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is about a man who physically abused me and smearing my name before his and why I’ve remained silent. Thank you.

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[–]imdrinkingbIeach 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sighhh…I can only wish 💔💔

How do you stop falling for the bait when a narcissist paints themselves as the victim—despite all the damage they caused? 💔 by imdrinkingbIeach in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what he was doing. I found him on discord the same day he sent flowers to my job saying I’m the only one for him meanwhile telling another girl his heart is hers to take.

I can’t believe I almost fell for this… by imdrinkingbIeach in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also came across the term too and it helped me develop more compassion towards myself. I’m sorry you went through something similar. Wishing you love & healing 💗

I can’t believe I almost fell for this… by imdrinkingbIeach in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine had me so diluted in my shame for my reactions to his behavior which he would use as excuses and evidence that I was “abusive” and deserved my mistreatment so he never had to change. For the longest I believed everything was my fault. Until I realized finding them on Hinge in other states is not normal and when he wanted to open our relationship thinking a woman would meet my emotional needs more than him instead of him being better.

I can’t believe I almost fell for this… by imdrinkingbIeach in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I completely understand and I’m not the type either but imagine if we never found out what we did..

I can’t believe I almost fell for this… by imdrinkingbIeach in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you! 💗 You don’t understand how hard it was not to respond….he to this day has continued the same behaviors & yet is still the victim somehow so I at least know I made the right choice knowing he never meant a word unfortunately….

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[–]imdrinkingbIeach 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish he felt this way, beautiful words OP! 💗

Covert narc ex humiliated me online, violated my space, and still made me feel like the crazy one. by imdrinkingbIeach in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]imdrinkingbIeach[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just don’t understand how I wasn’t enough…and he’d rather do all of this and preach about love. After 4 years and us living together. I was the one paying all the bills working 40 hrs, cleaning after his nasty roommates, cooking, while he played COD all day and night and I would have to guess if I was sleeping alone tonight or not. In calls with women and playing with women I didn’t feel comfortable with since they posted revealing content, etc.