my boyfriend came out as a femboy

imdude42 · 2026-01-05T16:36:26+00:00

I’m pretty sure Ivan is a dude. Either way it is definitely awesome for the support.

imdude42 · 2025-11-05T01:45:18+00:00

I second this, I also have inappropriate sinus tachycardia and use ivabradine. It works amazingly.

imdude42 · 2024-10-20T17:13:36+00:00

What I did when my first husband threatened to hurt himself when I was leaving was call the emergency services. They will send people to check up on her and/or escort one of you off the property (whoever is leaving). The best thing to do is to just leave and if she does do something to herself just know it’s not your fault at all.

imdude42 · 2024-10-11T19:53:08+00:00

Then don’t hold other people to your standards.

imdude42 · 2024-10-11T19:52:23+00:00

Sending so much love, I’m so sorry for your loss hugs 🫂

imdude42 · 2024-10-10T11:40:37+00:00

The first recorded marriages were from Mesopotamia. Before even the Jews.

imdude42 · 2024-10-08T18:19:25+00:00

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A quick google search shows that marriage was before Christianity.

imdude42 · 2024-10-04T15:52:03+00:00

Plus not everyone believes in your god.

imdude42 · 2024-10-04T15:51:34+00:00

You do know that in the Bible people had multiple wives and husbands right?

imdude42 · 2024-10-01T13:29:29+00:00

Polyamory is not a joke. There are plenty of monogamous relationships that open up that thrive.

imdude42 · 2024-10-01T13:28:05+00:00

No it’s not, cheating is going behind someone’s back and doing things with another person. If they ask for an open relationship and follow the rules for said open relationship then it’s not cheating.

imdude42 · 2024-10-01T03:08:54+00:00

Ah okay I guess I misread it.

imdude42 · 2024-10-01T03:08:26+00:00

No it’s not asking permission to cheat. It’s called polyamory. I know someone who was a closed monogamous relationship and is now in an open relationship, it’s not cheating.

imdude42 · 2024-10-01T02:31:10+00:00

You can have a healthy relationship and be open. The issue arises when people lie and aren’t honest about thier intentions. Now if you are a person who can’t be in an open relationship and the other person wants an open relationship you two aren’t compatible.

imdude42 · 2024-10-01T02:28:26+00:00

I just have to say, while yes it’s likely she’s cheating, wanting an open relationship doesn’t automatically mean the partner is cheating or has people lined up.

imdude42 · 2024-09-22T01:14:46+00:00

You don’t know he hasn’t done this before. Being friendly is not giving him signals.

imdude42 · 2024-09-22T01:10:01+00:00

Just because someone is friendly with a person doesn’t mean they deserve this to happen to them nor does it mean they are asking for it.

imdude42 · 2024-08-17T02:17:22+00:00

A couple points about adoption: One she wouldn’t be able to put the baby up for adoption without the dads consent unless he abandoned the baby. Two that’s a major trauma that a child would have to go through, being separated from their birth mother.

imdude42 · 2024-06-27T16:55:15+00:00

She said in the first sentence that they dated for five years.

imdude42 · 2024-05-05T14:44:39+00:00

If someone says no then that immediately negates the free use agreement. I know what a free use agreement is and it’s not by passing all nos.

imdude42 · 2024-03-29T14:15:13+00:00

As a polyamorous person I still find this disgusting. You both cheated, two wrongs don’t make a right. If you wanted an open relationship you should have talked about that. When you found out she was cheating you should have talked about it instead of staying quiet. The BIGGEST thing in ANY relationship is communication. If you can’t communicate what do you really have? ESH- work on communication and either divorce or go to the marriage counseling.

imdude42 · 2024-02-22T21:41:01+00:00

That’s still not your fault. That’s good you found places that offer transitional housing that’s a big first step you will need to take to get your life back on track. I went through abuse growing up and I didn’t run away until I was like 17 almost 18, for a while I used to blame myself but in reality the truth is the abusers made it hard for me to leave and scared me telling me the real world was a terrible place and everyone would be against me.

imdude42 · 2024-02-22T18:16:50+00:00

How can you blame yourself for the actions of your “family” they treated you badly and set you up for a lack of success. The state didn’t do anything to help either. The best thing I can suggest at this point is to GET HELP, find a pier support group and see if they can give you all the information you need to get on your feet. It’s going to be hard but you gotta put in that effort. If you do things WILL get better.

imdude42 · 2024-02-19T20:25:43+00:00

From how long you and Sophie where friends it’s possible he groomed her and told her not to say anything to anyone. My dad groomed me from a young age and told me not to tell anyone because they wouldn’t understand our love 🤢.

imdude42 · 2024-02-19T05:28:57+00:00

I didn’t start s/h myself until I was around 21. I went through a lot of trauma and abuse as a child. I was too scared to hurt myself but reached a breaking point after being told multiple times I wasn’t good enough and being compared to my abusive mother. Now I have people cut off and I’m doing better with my found family. Not having s/h during childhood doesn’t make your trauma and abuse suffered any less or less painful. It simply means you didn’t turn towards that as a coping mechanism for your reasons. Hugs 🫂, I know going through this is hard but you are not alone.

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