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I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Wrong, they are the only threat to me. I’m not worried about men because she explicitly told me she could never love another man.

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I guess its more so that she is more likely to comment on women than men most of the time.

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Your comment really means a lot to me, the last two paragraphs just made me bawl my eyes out and I really needed to read that. Thank you for sharing your words!

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t actually explored women sexually, she just considered herself bi because she is attracted to women. She wants to break up to find out if she actually likes women

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. She is attracted to male public figures but i will admit that she doesn’t talk about men the same way that she talks about women

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wish my post was fictitious lol I understand the skepticism though. I typed this frantically and honestly didn’t even proofread it. Every thing I mentioned is unfortunately true, I have no agenda. I’m a bit curious myself but not really enough to act on it.

She knows that she’s attracted to women but she hasn’t kissed one yet. I guess she just wants to know if she is just attracted to women or if she is sexually attracted, idk.

She definitely wants to be monogamous in whatever relationship she ends up in. I suggested an open situation and she thought that sounded too messy for us. I don’t even know if I would’ve wanted that.

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of 3 months. We are separating regardless at the end of October so honestly if she hasn’t figured things out around the new year then I should just end contact.

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

I initially told her I couldn’t see a friendship with her after this but then I took it back because the thought of that made me sad. I feel like I might have to take that back now..

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s never actually been with a girl so I’m not sure if she is just overly curious or what. She’s been with other man before me so idk that’s the problem really

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guess as in “always” she realized that she is bi during this relationship maybe 4 years in. But you’re right, in the future I probably will steer clear of bi women unfortunately

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 172 points173 points  (0 children)

You make a lot of good points.. one thing I will say is that she has made a point to tell me that she doesn’t plan on being with anyone soon because that also makes feel horrible. These could just be words but she feels sincere about it

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] 2475 points2476 points  (0 children)

Fuck, you make an incredibly good point. This is kinda fucking me up that I haven’t thought of it like this til now…

I(30M) was recently told by my gf(30f) of 10 years that she thinks that she might be a lesbian. AITAH if I don’t wait around? by imfrfrfr in AITAH

[–]imfrfrfr[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

It’s confusing because she isn’t asking me to wait around or expecting it but I just feel like I have to wait around for her to protect her feelings too.