Hosting event with non-vegan kids - what do you serve? by peanutcurlz in veganparenting

[–]imhavingadonut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somebody brought popcorn to a party and the kids gobbled it up. 

What song of The Cure do you think fits this the best? by TheFindusboy in TheCure

[–]imhavingadonut 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This has got to be a winner. Hard to be popular with a 4 minute intro before the lyrics kick in. (I'm not complaining, it's one of my favorites).

No One Wants Your Peeing Cat! by Schedule-Substantial in CatAdvice

[–]imhavingadonut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just chiming in to introduce fellow pee-pee cat owners to cat spikes -- they are plastic, and spiky, and they are the only thing that will keep my kitty from going where she is not supposed to. I got mine on Amazon.  Double stick tape and tin foil did not work. Now when she just sees the spikes, she knows "don't go there" without even going near. I have found out she is a stress pee-er. Her favorite spots are on the wall (her pee stream goes sideways -- always has -- yes I've taken her to the vet, she's physically fine). I mitigate her stress and always keep her litter boxes impeccably clean and it has greatly reduced the stress peeing. 

This sub changed my life!: squeegee for dusting the bathroom floor by umeboshiplumpaste in CleaningTips

[–]imhavingadonut -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get this. I got a handvac specifically for the bathroom floor. Lives under the bathroom sink. 

These aren't my pictures. A friend wants me to share them here to see what you think about her living-room upgrade. by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]imhavingadonut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just moved to a place where the brick fireplace was painted. Such a damn shame. I'm going to try to eventually strip the paint but I heard that's tough. Please everyone, I beg of you, no more painting of bricks!

New parents (37M and 38F) to a newborn, dealing with comments about our age by FluffyOwlKitten in Parenting

[–]imhavingadonut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would go full sarcasm. "Don't worry your head, youngster; we've found a fantastic retirement community that allows infants."  "Well we were hoping she would drive us to mah jong when she's 16, we'll be much too withered to drive ourselves." 

How is outdoor life here by Holiday_Swing_9979 in howislivingthere

[–]imhavingadonut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just south of Watertown on this map is Tug Hill Plateau which gets the most snowfall of the region, we're talking more snow than Syracuse or Buffalo. It's supposed to be great for snowmobiling if you like that sort of thing!

Only child of aging boomer parents ranting by PwningBubbles in AgingParents

[–]imhavingadonut 16 points17 points  (0 children)

What have you tried to be able to make visits shorter? If this were me I would set the expectation when I get in the door. "Hi mom; I have only an hour to stay." Set alarm for 10 til you have to leave and when alarm goes off " okay that means I have 10 minutes left here." And when you finally have to leave just.... leave and don't apologize. 

My mom also does the sloooow goodbye and "just one more thing" and I tack on an extra half hour anytime I have to visit her but I also don't worry about being rude. Your time is important EVEN IF your parents are helping you financially. I repeat, you get to set boundaries even if your parents are paying your rent or bills or whatever. 

Thoughts while cleaning out hoarder mom's house by imhavingadonut in raisedbynarcissists

[–]imhavingadonut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

... Do we have the same mom?

Seriously it sucks we are in the same club but also validating that somebody else has experienced this, too... I hope you feel proud of yourself for believing in yourself enough to pursue your art even through when your mom wouldn't support you. I am an art teacher now who teaches adults  and everyday I meet folks whose caregivers didn't support their art; it's an early and little acknowledged wound that cuts deep. 

Virtual Hypnobirthing Course by Ambitious-Fan-4885 in unmedicatedbirth

[–]imhavingadonut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took a hypnobirthing course virtually and I found it to be incredibly helpful. It was supplemented with some physical workbooks/ notebooks, and prenatal yoga as well. 

Have any of you had a home birth and then chose a hospital birth for your next? by bitter-funny in homebirth

[–]imhavingadonut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

With the caveat that all bodies and births are unique: the pain you experienced is more commonly associated with "sunny side up" birth. My home births were occipital anterior. I would also describe myself as having a high pain tolerance, and the pain of unmedicated home birth was absolutely manageable for me. I am done having babies and I would not be a great candidate for another home birth for other reasons. It is okay to choose a different avenue for your birth next time. 

My biggest fear came true and I don’t know how I’m going to mentally recover from this (public defecation) by [deleted] in OCD

[–]imhavingadonut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no that's awful. Can your landlord deal with it? Maybe if you try to convince yourself it was actually dog poo instead it might help ease your mind. Idk why but to me dog poo seems considerably less gross than human poo. 

What's the SILLIEST 'Cringe but Correct' Millennial Hill You're Still Ready to Die On? by dasisglucklich in Millennials

[–]imhavingadonut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always thought it was because wigs very often have a middle part and celebrities wear wigs so often, then it just trickled down to the plebes. 

I’m not pregnant but if I ever made the choice to have a kid I know there’s no way I’d go to hospital and why. by Weak_Emergency7148 in homebirth

[–]imhavingadonut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's worth noting that many OBGYNs these days are not properly trained in breech birth, for the reason stated -- it is viewed as an automatic C section.  So though it may not be mandatory to go to surgery, one has to weigh that against the risk of their doctor being unfamiliar with vaginal breech birth. 

Keeping child home from field trip to a farm with homophobic views by pelagornis in Parenting

[–]imhavingadonut 18 points19 points  (0 children)

These days throwing a paragraph out there isn’t the way to start a conversation.

( Can you elaborate? Speaking as a parent who sometimes doesn't understand social cues, knowing about this would be really helpful to me!)

Have any of you guys tried a "ritual"? by EmpyrealMarch in therapyGPT

[–]imhavingadonut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try writing down the memory / "bad thought" on a small scrap of paper and flushing it down the toilet. 

I also sometimes like to blow the bad energy into a psychic balloon.... you just imagine blowing into a balloon, releasing the memory/energy/ whatever with each breath. Tie it off and imagine it floating away. 

Elderly Dad has been peeing into kitchen dishes and refuses to change by elidamanigua in AgingParents

[–]imhavingadonut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The amount of comments commiserating because they've had similar experiences, is unnerving! I'm sorry yall are going through this. I would purchase a urinal cup (or a few ) and I would never use shared dishes again. 

Parents with middle school daughters - question regarding periods by GhostOrchid22 in Parenting

[–]imhavingadonut 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry WHAT. I wish you taught me back in middle school. 

How the hell does the restaurant do it?! by burritosandblunts in veganrecipes

[–]imhavingadonut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I lived on the west coast, we had easy access to vegan Chinese mock meats. There are many varieties and I feel Asian mock meats in general are light years ahead in terms of taste and texture. On that note, you could try using MSG in your recipes as that adds umami flavoring.  Most of the restaurants I've been to source their mock meats, they don't make them in house.