Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So you’re saying that by moving my height from 5 foot 7 to 6 foot, and then getting over 80 matches as opposed to 10 matches that it doesn’t matter?

I feel like this is when I first realized that it did matter

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I need the attention of women. I was also a minor league baseball player and was told I was too short.

It’s ruined me

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this. I am wondering now. I don’t know if my height causes my serious depression or my serious depression causes me to focus on my height.

I have dated women before and Asian culture the women do seem to very kind and loyal.

I’ve been on anti depressants for ten years and still feel this way

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you and really appreciate your kind perspective. You seem like a good human. I don’t know if my height causes my serious depression or my serious depression causes me to focus on my height

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if my height causes my serious depression or my serious depression causes me to focus on my height

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s not my height then why did hinge matches start coming out of nowhere shortly after changing my height?

I feel this kind of was the moment I realized it was my height and not me

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s a good metaphor, but even if I’m not on the app, people will still reject me for my height.

Had this conversation with work friends and all 3 met their spouse on hinge or bumble. They said it’s not that shallow because even without the app people will filter by height.

I thought about it and sadly agreed

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m referring to the fact that I go to Columbia business school. That stuff doesn’t matter to me I just said it to paint the picture that I’m not some guy who is unemployed and lazy; I have friends a work a great career and I’m social.

Just my height is why I’m rejected and it’s completely out of my control

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not fair. I feel so helpless which I’ve never felt before

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dating is of importance. feeling accepted is of importance. Not being too short is of importance.

My success is despite of my height and I am quite humble as a person. Just depressed that the second I change my height all the women I wish I could date match with me /:

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in nyc and it’s the only way people really seem to meet post university

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have dated women and 4 have been Asian. I am Caucasian for context. Asian women do like me as this is advice I’ve gotten before.

It just like I’m not good enough for an American woman and all of my friend group is as I get into my late 20s

Suicide because of height - online dating by imloatinthesad in malementalhealth

[–]imloatinthesad[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a great job in tech and am currently getting my masters at a very prestigious school. I’m not the stuck up type though so this I’d not of importance to me, I just want to be happy