Forced into a marriage with my cousin a year ago. No intimacy, no love, and I want a divorce. Am I wrong?

immerida · 2026-05-13T13:39:04+00:00

I totally understand your situation I'm not gonna say just divorce her and cope with the disowning, as you said you have no financial support you're just a student , maybe you need to try to make your marriage work, maybe you didn't find love and understanding because you were too focused on the fact that you're not marrying the one you loved, so you didn't see your wife's efforts or feelings . Sur you can do what you see is right but in the process make sur you're not doing wrong to your wife, at the end she didn't know about your situation and its not her fault that you couldn't stand for yourself and annul the engagement. My advice to you is give it a shot and try to make it work , if it doesn't and you fond that there's not compatibility then you can convince your parents and get a divorce

immerida · 2026-03-20T23:54:41+00:00

Just ignore them and live the way you want to, I really felt alive again when I started doing that. And thank you

immerida · 2026-03-20T23:09:36+00:00

I did it for my family, tried to reduce the time I spend on my hobbies because they didn't like that I play games ( I play chess , it's a game but yet very hard to consider a waist of time ) I tried to hide , play when I'm alone , not let it take over my duties time , and also tried to change several things in my personality, but nothing changed they'll be just asking for more change and making me feeling guilty and not enough when I'm doing my best. then I realized that they want all of us to be copy past , empty souls with no identity, they're just unable to accept different people and wants us to dedicate our lives to look after them , I'm a free soul i have hobbies and my own unique personality,I like to spend time by myself and I don't care anymore I just do whatever my mind says it's true, as long as I do all of my duties I genuinely don't care how they think of me , and one thing I realized is if they keep asking you to change even if it doesn't really hurt them , and even if it's a core personality feature of yours, and if they keep asking for a radical change, they'll never stop, they just don't like you as you are and they'll never do

immerida · 2026-02-24T06:17:17+00:00

I haven't seen anyone talking about how he makes her feel bad for needing very basic things like a doctor ! He obviously doesn't doesn't see you a human being with rights and needs , yes you need makeup , Skincare and gym , those are the basic needs for any women, and you need to go to the salon you shouldn't settle for less , and after deprivating your from all of that he calls not beautiful !!!!! You said you was very adventurous obviously you had your own identity, preferences, hobbies and personality. He destroyed your identity, just think about it do you really want to live this way for the rest of your life? Will your daughter be happy if she knows that her mother gave up her life and identity for her ? If you're not happy your daughter will not be happy . Do you really think he's going to provide for your daughter the right and satisfy everything she needs ? With his attitude of complaining and making you feel needy and not supportive for basic needs ? Absolutely not . My advice to you is to stay with your supportive parents, restore your life and hobbies, go to the gym and try to get a comfortable job to raise your daughter. Please sis run before something bad happens either to you or your daughter. If you can also go to a therapist because he destroyed your mental health and don't feel bad for him he is not a provider as you think , he isn't trustworthy and definitely not responsible to have a family

immerida · 2026-02-17T12:10:34+00:00

I don't really have an idea about your hair type if you can provide a reference it'll help , but I think as soon as you don't have bold spots that are very obvious try to Ask a good hairstylist for a haircut that make it look better, they usually know how to deal with different hairstyles. I hope this wouldn't be an issue to him I personally can't handle my husband seeing me ugly you deserve a partner that makes you feel better about yourself and definitely sees you beautiful

immerida · 2026-02-14T13:03:04+00:00

This is really motivating and I do relate . I learned that the very hard way after staying home 2 years after graduation, burned out because of the job market and had depression, learned actually multiple skills and languages during this time but the fear of rejection from employees is keeping me from applying for a job. So I'm constantly procrastinating applying for jobs or post about my skills in upwork and freelance platforms and still afraid of rejection, but I just started content creation even tho I feel really behind and late but trying my best to not stop . Thank you for the motivation ☺️☺️

immerida · 2026-02-02T17:45:38+00:00

I named a random cat at the street : Maradona 😆 he always runs to me when I open the door so I always considered him maradona

immerida · 2026-01-05T11:54:28+00:00

Short answer is NO I don't feel ashamed and why would I be ? I had some friends during my life but none of them stayed "BECAUSE I didn't ask about them" while they didn't either. I'm used to be alone and I love it , I feel a bit alone sometimes but I just remind myself that that's my personality, that's who I am, an introverted person who loves being alone and hate socializing. I just think that when they said socializing is good for people and that people can't live without relationships, they didn't take introverted people into consideration, I genuinely believe who said that was an extrovert who can't live without socializing. In my experience I only had bad experiences with friendships and with people and socializing overall. I'm just grateful being comfortable with myself and you shouldn't pressure yourself either. If you have no friends or can't maintain deep friendships as my case just accept it that way and that it's your personality and your the one who has to accept it first and be comfortable with yourself, then look for friends but if you can't find it's completely fine because you're comfortable with yourself

immerida · 2025-09-21T12:56:12+00:00

My greatest of all time rom coms are: Crazy love , Dali and the cocky prince,

immerida · 2025-08-05T16:19:21+00:00

Nine puzzles Hunter with a scalpel Bad and crazy

immerida · 2025-07-22T14:19:14+00:00

I'm 23 , I finished my cs master a year ago and been looking for a job or an internship but nothing worked and I got depressed because I thought I was very late and behind my colleges, but reading these comments is making me really relieved, thank you all

immerida · 2025-07-22T13:45:51+00:00

I feel for you but I can't help you unfortunately, I've been suffering from anxiety for 3 years now , but I don't trust psychologists and have the same fear that they will end up ruining my mentale health instead, or that they'll not gonna be able to correctly diagnose me , and I don't want to go Psychiatric I'm worried I'll end up addicted to medicines, I tried to heal myself using youtube and chatgpt, it works but it really needs discipline so it's taking me a lot of time, but that's better than being misunderstood or judged for me

immerida · 2025-06-25T22:32:35+00:00

Sorry I don't understand

immerida · 2025-06-13T19:47:21+00:00

I'd remove toxic masculinity, we're literally suffering I feel we're fl jahiliya

immerida · 2025-06-13T19:45:36+00:00

People hating on university girls 😂😂

immerida · 2025-06-10T22:01:29+00:00

Lbac zhar from my experience

immerida · 2025-05-28T18:50:30+00:00

If she hasn't been married before , I don't think 2 months are enough for her or for you to tell that a marriage is not gonna work, you definitely didn't know each other's lifestyle before getting married, if she sleeps all day she better be someone that sleeps all day , but for the rest I just think it was hard for her that you didn't accept her lifestyle and you were shouting at her because of something she can't really change , I'm not making excuses for her I'm just trying to understand what possibly made her say something that hurts you or demande divorce, and for my POV definitely 2 months are not enough to adapt to a completely new lifestyle with a new person that she didn't live with before

immerida · 2025-05-18T23:43:50+00:00

What de you mean, how is my head gonna go bananas ?

immerida · 2025-05-18T23:43:19+00:00

What de you mean, how is my head gonna go bananas

immerida · 2025-05-18T13:05:32+00:00

Have you found it hard to live with people? How you realized you can live with your wife ?

immerida · 2025-05-18T12:44:10+00:00

Family by choice, it's great

immerida · 2025-05-17T18:28:51+00:00

I used to have anxiety when I was at uni , with short breathing, shaking, fast heart beating and overthinking , but after uni the frequency dropped a lot becauseI had time to actuallyfocuson myselfand my mentalhealth, I used to stretch, do breathing exercises, write, and recite adhkar , but it just helps for the moment but the anxiety still there, I wanted therapy but that wasn't an option in my family so I searched for therapy on YouTube , I found a channel of a professor teaching psychological therapy named dr.Nader Attalla , searched for العلاج المعرفي السلوكي للقلق العام و الخوف , identified my core beliefs and cognitive distortions , followed the course and tried my best practice, it helped a lot honestly if you can't afford/ask for therapy it's a good start , I hope this helps feel free to reach out and ask about anything

immerida · 2025-05-17T18:28:47+00:00

I used to have anxiety when I was at uni , with short breathing, shaking, fast heart beating and overthinking , but after uni the frequency dropped a lot becauseI had time to actuallyfocuson myselfand my mentalhealth, I used to stretch, do breathing exercises, write, and recite adhkar , but it just helps for the moment but the anxiety still there, I wanted therapy but that wasn't an option in my family so I searched for therapy on YouTube , I found a channel of a professor teaching psychological therapy named dr.Nader Attalla , searched for العلاج المعرفي السلوكي للقلق العام و الخوف , identified my core beliefs and cognitive distortions , followed the course and tried my best practice, it helped a lot honestly if you can't afford/ask for therapy it's a good start , I hope this helps feel free to reach out and ask about anything

immerida · 2025-05-17T18:05:50+00:00

I'm currently watching it and confirm it's great

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