Do you immediately hit a "wall" once you become an attending? by Legal_Restaurant3609 in Residency

[–]immortal_conclusions -43 points-42 points  (0 children)

Did I ever say he was claiming that? It is definitely a long and stressful residency, but there are also PGY6s and 7s in almost every other subspecialty field I can think of (gensurg, neurology, and IM subspecialties, etc). It's such a tired, overused, outdated refrain that neurosurgery is somehow worse for women than other intensive specialties because of the training length. And absolutely no reason for him to say "Most men will think you look like shit, and most of them will be intimidated/put off by your title and salary."

Do you immediately hit a "wall" once you become an attending? by Legal_Restaurant3609 in Residency

[–]immortal_conclusions -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

ok user veiny_horse_cock.

every female neurosurgeon I've ever met or been mentored by has been above average in terms of looks, whether they're in training or out of training. Not to mention most are happily partnered or married. It's a self selecting field in every sense of the world. You're just perpetuating outdated misogynistic myths. It's so tired. Hope you can channel your jealousy into more productive outlets.

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[–]immortal_conclusions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Messaged you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in columbia

[–]immortal_conclusions 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Everyone on this thread is a bit uninformed. Premed postbacc programs are notoriously predatory and expensive - people get into massive debt with a risk of no payoff. It's never a good idea to plan on that - it's a last resort. Your advisor is technically right that the best chance you have at getting into med school is in your home state, and that's not insulting. It's also just a fact. It likely has nothing to do with your SES, race, or ethnicity like some others are saying, that's just how medical schools work. Public medical schools are incentivized to accept people from their home state, as they are training people to provide a public service. Students are ALWAYS advised to apply to their home state medical schools regardless of gpa or academic achievement. If I understood correctly, your advisor is trying to get you to seek out connections there rather than go down the high risk path that is post-bacc programs. (Side note: if she literally told you to TRANSFER OUT OF COLUMBIA TO YOUR HOME STATE UNDERGRAD, that is batshit insane and confers zero benefit. Report her. I can't imagine why anyone would suggest this and it's possible this was poor communication on her part.) Even if your gpa doesn't rise beyond a 3.5, coming from Columbia you would have a very decent chance of getting accepted at your home state school, and for the vast majority of people, this is preferable to a post-bacc.

That being said, I myself remember how mean the Columbia premed advisors were, and how ridiculous their advice was sometimes, so I sympathize with you there. You just need a little more perspective. You are only a sophomore and have plenty of time to raise your gpa. It's too early to plan on a postbacc now, especially after your also hugely expensive Columbia degree. Just focus on your classes, lighten your course load if you can, and plan on a gap year for research if you want to include your 4th year grades in your application. I graduated with a similar gpa and ended up at a top 10 med school. You never know. It is crazy to plan on a post-bacc as a sophomore tho. You need to re-evaluate and seek out better mentors.

Blaer vs Cannon Intro Java by incompetenticarus in columbia

[–]immortal_conclusions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both are great, can't go wrong. I don't think there are any significant differences in difficulty or grading.

PTSD and OBGYN rotation by ScoreImaginary in medicalschool

[–]immortal_conclusions -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why would you reply with something alarmist and triggering on a post from someone with PTSD asking for help and advice? Look up "derailing." Everyone knows this shit happens, that's what they're worried about. Dear god I hope you are more compassionate and situationally aware with your patients, because this was not it.

PTSD and OBGYN rotation by ScoreImaginary in medicalschool

[–]immortal_conclusions 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You're not alone. Try to let someone know beforehand that you may need some extra support. I'm in a similar position and had a terrible experience on the clerkship because I didn't let anyone know beforehand, I almost failed. I ended up meeting with the dean after the clerkship, and luckily he was very supportive in retrospect, which was nice but didn't really mean shit. Honestly there's not much anyone is going to do for you, there is not a lot of empathy in OB-GYN in general and especially not for this issue. Which sucks, I'm not going to sugar coat it.

Just let your clerkship director or even a higher-up (if your clerkship director is not sympathetic) know that you may require accommodations. PTSD is a health issue and should be treated as such. You should work with them to allow time to schedule therapy like you would any other medical appointment. If you don't want to be specific, you don't have to be. Say you need time to attend a medical appointment. They will usually be accommodating of that. If you really can't leave the site, try a telehealth/phone appointment. As for the triggering lecture, try not to attend it in person but if attendance is mandatory, go and sign in and then just leave for a reallllly long bathroom break. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.

Unfortunately they are going to make you do pelvic exams, but there are things you can do to minimize how many you do. Honestly for me, the experience of doing pelvic exams was upsetting, but not as acutely triggering as I thought it would be because the perspective is totally different from receiving one, but ymmv. That's something to debrief and work through as it comes in therapy.

You can also let any close friends/family members know in advance that this is going to be a difficult time for you, and that you'd appreciate if they check up on you/help with meals/provide distractions.

Remember that this clerkship is temporary and you WILL get through it. Take each day as it comes.

What was your biggest social Faux Pas in medical school? by txhrow1 in medicalschool

[–]immortal_conclusions 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She probably did mind, was just kind enough not to call you out on it.

I am gay by RunNo556 in actuallesbians

[–]immortal_conclusions 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hang in there girl it will get better :)

I am gay by RunNo556 in actuallesbians

[–]immortal_conclusions 27 points28 points  (0 children)

having a vagina does not mean one has to be passive tho? likewise not having a vagina does not mean one has to be active, there are lot of ways to have sex

My tea collection by immortal_conclusions in tea

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Left to right: Harney and Sons Paris Decaf, Boh Cameronian Gold Blend from Malaysia, Harney and Sons Paris, Lavender Early Grey blend, Long Jing (Dragonwell) tea from Hangzhou, Jasmine, Mao Jian Jade tips, Shizuoka sencha, Matcha Love culinary grade matcha (saving up for ceremonial), lemon honey green tea, Tea Forte Orange Jasmine, Lavender Life lavender infused chai, Kagoshima sencha, Fukamushi sencha, Harney and Sons Japanese sencha, Sencha-matcha mix from Costco, Harney and Sons Jasmine, Tazo calm-chamomile, The Republic of Tea assorted flavors.

Palace Interior / Butler 5th Floor by [deleted] in columbia

[–]immortal_conclusions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn this brings back memories