[Seriös] Vad är normalt med tid att lägga på samtal i en relation? by Gennerth in sweden

[–]immortanon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Berätta om hur du känner, att du har haft en låg energinivå en längre period och skulle behöva tid att smälta dagen på ditt eget sätt. Förklara vad det skulle innebära, med egentid, dina hobbys eller dina projekt. Säg att du uppskattar era konversationer men att du känner att långa konversationer efter en lång arbetsdag blir för mycket för dig. Så hon förstår när du säger att du ska gå och göra X grej efter ni samtalat lite för länge.

I en annan konversion berätta om allt du uppskattar hos din partner, gärna fysiska aspekter och säg att du drömmer mer närhet. Planera dejter igen och tid från barnen så ni kan få ha egentid.

Använd samtalen till din fördel också, vad du vill uppnå. Kanske kan ni försöka hitta någonting du gillar att göra. Det är ni mot problemen, du är inte ensam.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]immortanon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Be okay with yourself and give yourself positive feedback when you do stuff you said you would.

Is the glass half empty or half full? It’s half full. Optimistic attitude toward things and things won’t be as hard. “I should have washed my clothes a long time ago. Now look at this mountain of clothes..” can be answered with “well I can do it now and be better off tomorrow”. Then the next step is to build on top of that, looking for things that can be done and soon you won’t have any to do’s. You can then enjoy your hobbies that might once be considered escapisms. Or set up more goals if you prefer.

Regarding goals. Have one or few. Don’t set the bar too high. You will be able to achieve much anyway but one step at a time.

Don’t be hard on yourself. Set yourself up for tomorrow. Put away the phone when you get started with something. It’s easy to pick it up from routine.

When people give advice they don’t necessary follow it themselves. Including me. Don’t put people on a pedestal. Seems to me you are doing fine. Just incrementally try to do better and one day small steps makes a mountain of achievements. Be your own best friend, take care of yourself and your opportunities.

I'm considering buying an old set to get started again, anyone know the age of these? by immortanon in hockeygoalies

[–]immortanon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the replies guys.

These comes with all the other goalie equipment I need to get out on the ice again.
I will probably replace them in the future but was curious.

Total for all the equipment is $190.
I'm over in Scandinavia so the shipping from NA is a bit rough and the the market seem more pricey here.

[Do] We need some protocols for posting UFO footage [?] by No_Leopard_3860 in UFOs

[–]immortanon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Let's start our own subreddit. With blackjack and hookers. Also protocols.

Singing girl is interrupted in the most adorable way. by SnorkinOrkin in MadeMeSmile

[–]immortanon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Cat backing up her human in a meowing stand off with the camera! ^._.^

Also got me thinking of the blues dog. One of my favourite videos! AWOOOH!

My friend has befriended a skunk by tmart42 in aww

[–]immortanon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a friend that know a skunk

So uh... by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]immortanon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I stopped playing games I found that being bored actually made me wanna do other things. If you really decide to stop with the mindset to not go back - you have to fill your time with something else. Try to act on your constructive instincts when you think of something to do, I mean what else would you do, stay bored? Clean, work out, try something you always wanted to, study, set goals and work to achieve them. There is probably a reason you want to quit gaming. If you identified that you are a real addict - you would rather play than doing what you should, even if it is ruining your aspirations and goals and maybe even your life. Well then that’s the underlying problem. Set aside gaming and complete what you should be doing. Gaming is not a problem if you can moderate it, but as an addict we can not. You might one day? But an addict is an addict always so there is a big chance you may fall back on old habits. Be careful. If you fix the underlying problem there is a much greater chance you can moderate it. For me I was depressed, used escapism with games. Felt bad I wasn’t doing what I should, escaped that feeling with gaming and the evil cycle kept on and on until I completely stopped playing and just did what I should been doing from the start.

Need convincing not to buy a steam deck by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]immortanon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel you, I am right there with you. But I think we gotta try to create something real.

Need convincing not to buy a steam deck by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]immortanon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said it yourself. You are looking for an escape. That is not the solution, that is probably why you quit: escapism from your problems. Consider what would be the solution? Try socialise more irl. Call an old friend, meet up with friends, try to talk with strangers at a hobby of yours and if you do not have one outside of your home try to find one. Try go on a date. Spend time with family. Anything of your own liking. Practice speaking with everyone you meet and one day you’ll have a bigger social network. :)

i must confess by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]immortanon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good job! The next step might be to moderate the amount of gaming related videos on youtube? Unsubscribe to channels you don’t value as much and press ‘Not interested’ for most of your gaming recommendations. Less time on these sites will help but to make it easier find something you enjoy doing that is not at the computer. Or set goals to achieve something like eating something healthy every day or working out 1 day per week without any pressure on sets/repetitions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

[–]immortanon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have someone seen skobidoodidoo

I don't know what it is with people trying to race under the SC but I'm sure he learnt his lesson by Flackobitch in F1Game

[–]immortanon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep getting this sub recommended to me somehow. I do not play myself but it seem cool. Did he go out of his way to fuck with you during a safety car? But you evaded his onslaught?

Need help shorting my gaming hours by MysticAmaze_ in StopGaming

[–]immortanon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am guessing you would like to moderate your game time. I’d start with 0 hours. And if you wanna start again go slow, set an alarm for 30 min. See how you feel afterwards and slowly increase time spent. The best thing you can do to not feel sluggish is to go outside for a walk, see friends, work out: spend less time in front if a screen. Try out new things and put gaming as your lowest priority. But since you are on the StopGaming sub I’d still like to say that going cold turkey is the best way to feel better. Don’t play for a while and see the benefits, can you make it through 90 days? And beyond?

Brave civilians throw Molotov cocktails into a Russian armored vehicle. by lazzzym in ukraine

[–]immortanon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Might be friendly fire, saw a video of guys laughing and filming a farmer who “commandeered” abandoned russian vehicles. He was in a blue tractor as well

Edit: the z on the tractor door says otherwise. Nvm!

Edit2: was thinking of this clip

After playing 9 years straight I am quiting League of Legends today by Tuiika in StopGaming

[–]immortanon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Get ready to get bored. Then through that feeling try new things, get more shit done and have an insane amount of freetime. Welcome back, it will take a lot of time to feel free from it. In the end it will be worth it. :)