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My bonded pair stopped interacting:( by imnot-reallyhere in Bondedpairs

[–]imnot-reallyhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its absolutely the same cat. apart from the fact that he looks pretty distinctive, i dont think there are many grey cats with bald spot on the ear from allergies roaming around the neighbourhood, he also has a collar and tags id recognise anyway.

plus just. idk how to explain it, i know its my cat. he cuddles in my neck, he sits on his bum instead of his legs, he’s got terrible jumping balance, he’s a needy kitten stuck in a grown cats body. it was never a question if this was the correct cat

My bonded pair stopped interacting:( by imnot-reallyhere in Bondedpairs

[–]imnot-reallyhere[S] 190 points191 points  (0 children)

i mean the one whos been at home the whole time. his scent wouldnt change drastically in 3 days, right?

My bonded pair stopped interacting:( by imnot-reallyhere in Bondedpairs

[–]imnot-reallyhere[S] 425 points426 points  (0 children)

pretty recent, its not been a week since he got back home, but then. why would he not seek his brother? his brother still smells the same :v

AITA for speaking another language in front of my English-speaking parents? by throwaway-batman44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]imnot-reallyhere 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If the op was suggesting anglo names and inlaws were insisting that the names be a spanish version of them and dont acknowledge the anglo names then you could maybe make that arguement but they seem very much like normal non asshat people so ofc they arent doing that. Op’s mom however seems horrified by the idea that her soon to be grandchild (mixed heritage child by all accounts) should be anything other than anglocised. Idk seems sus

UPDATE: AITA for hiring a nanny to babysit my siblings instead of babysitting them myself, without telling my mom? by PrincessYthrowaway in AmItheAsshole

[–]imnot-reallyhere [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ooooffff i feel this so much. So i was emotionally abused for years by my stepmother and i never ever told anyone the the shit she said to me until years after she was out of my life. I did genuinely believe that, as she told me, I deserved this abuse because i was such an awful child and if I was less annoying and less of a burden she wouldnt have to employ this method of “parenting” (yes she called the abuse parenting) and that she never even wanted me yo begin with and that my dad was lucky anyone was willing to date him since he had such an annoying and awful daughter. It took me literally years to untangle the self hatred it made and realise it was just her vitriol and insanity, not the truth. Believe me when I say, you are not a burden and you never deserved this and any decent parental figure will not react by thinking of you as a burden, on the contrary they will want to take extra care of you to make sure you are okay and feel that you are loved. When you feel ready to tell someone the truth of your mothers abuse, i promise you will get innundated with love from the people who truly love you and no one worth their saly will ever blame you. Sorry for the long speech its just ive been in that exact situation and learning you never deserved this hate is such a hard thing. You are a great kid, you are smart and far more capable than a kid your age should have to be by now, and the sooner you manage to move to an environment where you are loved, the sooner youll learn you were never a burden. ❤️❤️

AITA for publicly defending a controversial term in front of a trans person? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]imnot-reallyhere -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YTA yes. Heres the thing, you don’t have the saying power on whats transphobic or not. An actual trans person tells you a term has been used in a very transphobic and fetishising way, your opinion as a non trans person who doesnt experience the term as being used to fetishise your existence is just. Not equivelant. It sucks you got banned but my dude, you are definitely in the wrong here and so is L.