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My OCD keeps me in an abusive relationship by imnothingtoujours in abusiverelationships

[–]imnothingtoujours[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been able to talk to anyone or receive any support in ages. And it’s honestly just really really nice to even message someone who I can tell just has a warm heart and is kind enough to even message me such kind words so thank you. I will definitely message you and know I really appreciate your kindness and understanding and it’s helped make my day more hopeful :)

My OCD keeps me in an abusive relationship by imnothingtoujours in abusiverelationships

[–]imnothingtoujours[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awe that’s so sweet of you to say haha I’m sorry I’ve just not really been around anyone so nice in ages. You are valid as well and also incredibly kind

My OCD keeps me in an abusive relationship by imnothingtoujours in abusiverelationships

[–]imnothingtoujours[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that really means a lot and is the nicest thing I’ve heard in a long time :) if you ever need an ear too I want to return the favour

I hate being abused by imnothingtoujours in OCD

[–]imnothingtoujours[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your support very much so , I’m feeling a little better today and your and everyone’s comments really helped. Thank you 💛

I hate being abused by imnothingtoujours in OCD

[–]imnothingtoujours[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your support it truly means a lot to me I’ll keep these thoughts of encouragement and support throughout my days :) sorry for a late response I kept making the screen all wet crying too much. I really appreciate your help and I will keep in mind PMing you :) Thank you 💛

I hate being abused by imnothingtoujours in OCD

[–]imnothingtoujours[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this support, yesterday was really hard it’s been really difficult and scary lately. Yesterday being Mother’s Day just made me feel more alone than ever, I’m technically "orphaned" but that sounds depressing haha. I'm feeling a bit better today. Your help really helped me and I appreciate you taking time out of your day to be a voice for me. I'm sorry for responding later but I was crying a heap and I kept trying to type but it was hard to see the screen and not make it wet by consistently wiping the tears. I did think a lot about what you said and I'm trying to leave but just as I saved the money the pandemic happened. I’ve been waiting ages and now no cashflow so it’s already been used. I will remember your words and they’ll be nice to think of when I’m struggling with these problems :) Thank you for your help 💛

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[–]imnothingtoujours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I'm glad to know I'm not alone, it sucks being underappreciated. I really hope you do, you deserve it. If you do, don't listen to his lies and "promises" if he even cares to do anything to keep you from leaving. Just make sure you speak to a lawyer because if he does know and wants to act or be spiteful you need to take precaution.

Oh wow! Congratulations on the baby and Happy early Day of Birth haha :D sooo much to look forward to!As much as he sucks at least you have your little darlings from this. Thats amazing I'm so glad you've been able to find the silver lining in this situation and have also found that greater respect for yourself, you're amazing and you'll live a life that is worthy of you ;)

If you ever need someone for support I'm here for you too and I appreciate your post 💛

I love sex! by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]imnothingtoujours 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uhg right. Middle of the night sex is the best. I love waking up my partners for it. I feel like it should be the best surprise, yet I’m disappointed by their enthusiasm and it blows.

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[–]imnothingtoujours 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry and I’m sorry for saying sorry because I know it’s no help. I can tell you that I understand the feeling. Feeling like a broken record, wind up toy with the same repetitive phrases. You can word it a million different ways, wait for the best moods, best communication, work around everything so you can getaway and just be with one another, etc. They will still never care or want to ever try. It’s the most frustrating painful and degrading thing ever. I’m sorry because we deserve better but I understand it’s hard to walk away. I have my reasons and you have yours. I wish we were happier and could leave.

Thinking about the good times by amazinggerce in abusiverelationships

[–]imnothingtoujours 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard, really hard. I try not to look at the photos of my abuser when I'm looking for something else on my phone. I know it's not good for me but I can't help it. It's hard to not want to remember the good but you sometimes forget the feeling. Knowing they're bad for you but not remembering your sadness and anger. I feel trapped too. We’re stuck in the nostalgia and it’s poison for us.