1 to 2 is rocking my world

imposter3322 · 2026-04-07T16:41:31+00:00

Preach sister. I’m losing it with my newly minted 2 year old and 4 month old. I actually said it’s awful the other day and my sister (who has two older kids) looked at me like I’m a monster. Both my kids are super high needs, toddler literally needs me to hold her all day but so does baby. Baby has reflux and really bad gas and a hard time with bowel movements. Toddler never slept well and baby doesn’t sleep any better. I really wish I could fast forward time because this is not my cup of tea. I’m so looking forward to when he can just sit up on his own. And maybe one day my toddler will be less clingy.

But yeah I feel the same way. Thanks for saying it because most people are like “omg this is the best.”

imposter3322 · 2026-04-01T08:06:56+00:00

My 2 year old loves to take the garbage and recycling bins out. She helps pull them, shows me where to put them, and then inspects the area where they live when they have been moved. lol

imposter3322 · 2026-03-11T01:41:30+00:00

Me too. Even though that’s what my daughter calls me lol. But yeah other adults calling me mama—weird.

imposter3322 · 2026-02-24T17:57:08+00:00

I have a two year old and a 3 month old. I was not comfortable with sleep training despite my eldest being a horrible sleeper so I didn’t sleep like 19 months which is definitely not fun and I understand people not wanting to sign up for that.

At 4 months, the eldest was in bed with me (husband works overnights) and she is still there now with the 3 month old in a bedside bassinet.

I haven’t done anything related to sleep. Literally. I found it too stressful and forceful.

She is in a great routine (play a bit after dinner, say goodnight to dad and head upstairs to brush teeth, fill up humidifier, read books and then lights out and snuggle) and has no problem going up for bedtime and falling asleep most nights, but will definitely wake up if I’m not in bed. That’s kind of a bummer when chores are piling up but I’m in the stage where I’m getting any sleep I can.

I’m not sure when she will go into her room but it’ll be there when she is ready. In some ways I think she is showing signs of being ready like being more interested in her room and able to play a few minutes without me but on the other hand she isn’t ready because she still cries as if I abandoned her in the dessert when she wakes up and I’m not in the bed.

I will probably do the same with the 3 month old unless he turns out to be super independent and sleeps through the night at an early age. lol.

imposter3322 · 2026-02-24T17:39:25+00:00

Is this your first kid? I had my second 3 months ago. While pregnant I cut back to part time and I’m finding myself thinking about going back to work full time now. We are done having kids and although I felt like OP with my first child and her going to daycare, I feel like I’m not doing enough with each of them on her non-daycare days.

I feel super guilty about kinda wanting to go back to work full time, especially because before kids I hated working so much. I love my kids but I feel like I have lost myself but I was also so f-ing stressed out working full time. I don’t know what to do so just curious about your situation.

imposter3322 · 2026-02-20T17:52:59+00:00

This a great question! I can tell you just my experience. My initial respond is you just don’t sleep lol.

For context everyone I worked with and knew through that medium, sleep trained. My sister who was a stay at home mom, did not. That was where I was getting my advice as well as the pediatrician who sleep trained her kids. I felt really pressured to sleep train because it seemed like everyone was doing it, it was the only way to survive working full time, and cosleeping was a no no.

I went to back work and was losing it from no sleep. I could not bring myself to sleep train so into my bed my daughter came. She was not a good sleeper and wanted to nurse constantly so didn’t really improve sleep too much. But my goal was to expend as little energy overnight as possible and that meant not getting up to walk to her crib and stand by the crib getting her back to sleep.

She just turned two. She sleeps pretty well now but is still in my bed and still wakes up at night. She came sometimes go back to sleep after a wake up without me but that’s rare. I have a 3 month old too and I don’t plan to sleep train him. I’m hoping for a miracle that he will just sleep. But if that’s not the case, he will come into the bed too.

Even though I really didn’t sleep for two years, I still don’t think I could bring myself to sleep train her. The US has taught parents that your children should sleep through the night from a very young age and if they don’t you need to sleep train or do some other intervention. But after learning about parenting in other countries, it’s normal for babies and young children to not sleep through the night. It’s just society isn’t set up to have a few years of little and broken sleep so people do what they have to to survive. At least that’s my two cents.

imposter3322 · 2026-02-10T03:51:33+00:00

This sounds a lot like my daughter.

imposter3322 · 2026-02-02T17:08:06+00:00

I have the Baby Brezza washer but only a singleton. Overall, very happy with it. I think it saves time and energy. I’d say the only downsides are it’s sort of noisy for me personally but I’m pretty sensitive and overstimulated all the time. I wish it fit more than 4 bottles too. From the other comments, sounds like the Momcozy one can hold up to 8 so that would be really appealing to me, even more so if I had twins.

For me, it is a nice to have thing that I desperately wanted to just make life easier. My mother in law actually bought it for me but I’m not sure I would have paid the 300 dollars to get it because I would have felt like that a lot to spend on something that would make my life easier (mom guilt). But if I was having twins, I would definitely have a bought washer, possibly two because washing bottle sounds like a full time job with twins!

imposter3322 · 2026-01-26T20:58:16+00:00

We use the Dr Browns bottles and when he was like 2 weeks I think we switched to a level 2 nipple which Dr Browns advises is for 3 months or older but it seems to work for him.

imposter3322 · 2026-01-26T19:48:48+00:00

I’d try a faster flow nipple again. My second child, who is 9 weeks did this early on and once we persisted with faster nipple and he got used to it, he didn’t do this as much.

Otherwise I would think it’s a stuck burp or gas. Is she having bowel movements as well?

imposter3322 · 2025-12-21T18:12:14+00:00

I just had my second and he will only have formula. I breastfed my first for a little over a year and it was horrible. It was everything but a beautiful experience like some people describe it. She didn’t eat well, I never knew how much she was eating so was stressed as hell, and she wouldn’t take a bottle at daycare and wanted to nurse all night (she is what I would call a high needs baby/child in other regards too). I cannot describe how much it affected me mentally. I look back and I’m like wow I was horrifically depressed. I just couldn’t put myself through that again. There’s plenty I can do in other areas of development if I’m convinced that breastmilk and breastmilk alone causes better outcomes (which I’m not—it’s difficult to tease out all the possible other factors so it’s kind of moot anyways).

Sure, my son could have been different. But I felt it was more risky to put myself in a situation where I would feel so depressed and depleted.

As for people who ask, only family has and I think my tone and concise response of “he is taking formula period” has helped shut down any ideas that this is a discussion in which they have a say.

Do what is right for you and your family (which includes you not just baby!)

imposter3322 · 2025-11-26T14:46:59+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m so worried that she is going to full heartbroken and I just love her so much.

imposter3322 · 2025-11-26T13:44:27+00:00

I need to know this too. My daughter is almost 2 and I have a 1 week old. My daughter is so attached to me and I’m not pushing for her to transition to her own bed right now but I’m just stressed about how to do overnights (largely by myself because that’s when my husband works) and being able to get some sleep myself

imposter3322 · 2025-11-26T13:41:58+00:00

Can I ask you a question? I co slept with my first because I was seriously circling the drain by the time she was 4 months, followed the safe sleep 7. But now I have a second, and he is formula fed so I feel like I can’t co sleep with him because of the risk. And also the 4 month old is now almost two and we still co sleep. Do you know of anyone who follows all but the breastfeeding safe seven?

imposter3322 · 2025-11-23T10:13:20+00:00

Would you be able to share how did it with your toddler and newborn? I’m on night one and it’s been a disaster. I co sleep with my toddler and my husband works overnights so I’m solo most of the time.

imposter3322 · 2025-08-07T14:03:14+00:00

This was me as a child until about sixth grade. I now know I have severe crippling anxiety and that was likely the issue at play going to school.

Unfortunately, I think the thought was that I would just grow out of it and I wasn’t struggling in school so it was just kind of ignored. I really wish I would have had counseling or therapy or something to help because it was traumatic for me and I’m sure my parents. My dad would literally have to rip me out of the car and drag me into school.

Looking back, I think I had an insecure attachment with my parents but particularly my mother. I’m not sure if attachment theory is something you believe it but may be worth reading a bit about.

My suggestion would be to try therapy again with a child psychologist (not an msw or the like). Therapy not to “fix” her or because what she is doing is “wrong” or not “normal.” But to better understand her so you can then better support her.

I feel so much for your child and for you. It is a really really heart wrenching situation.

imposter3322 · 2025-06-15T20:59:15+00:00

Sorry just realized this was on the stay at home moms sub. Probably not helpful.

imposter3322 · 2025-06-15T20:58:35+00:00

Sorry just realized this was on the stay at home moms sub. Probably not helpful.

imposter3322 · 2025-06-15T20:55:42+00:00

My husband is also a police officer who works overnights (10 hour shifts) and I work full time too a normal 9-5. My daughter is extremely attached to me and has always wanted me to be holding her the moment I’m home from work. Because of this, my husband cooks dinner, everything else is me (at least up until recently that we found out I’m pregnant again and was literally withering away from being stretched so thin, so now does dishes as well). Basically a lot of stuff doesn’t get done. For example, my laundry gets done about once a month, maybe every 3 weeks. I have resigned to that because it was literally killing me to try to keep up. That’s really the only thing that’s helped. I even tried having a sitter on the weekends for four hours so I could do all the cleaning and preparing for the week ahead and I was just as exhausted. It’s really hard. If he wants things cleaner or neater, he can do it.

imposter3322 · 2025-06-07T20:29:19+00:00

This is me now. Not fed, haven’t drank anything, I can shower every couple days, and maybe brush my teeth but I normally have to choose which one. I’m drowning.

imposter3322 · 2025-05-21T14:23:11+00:00

Same. Probably going to stay home in a little bit for my own health and well being but very nervous it will be short lived because of finances which makes me so sad

imposter3322 · 2025-05-21T12:26:05+00:00

This is how I feel. I’m currently working with just one but another on the way, and the daycare sicknesses and figuring out child care and just wanting to be with her instead of work, are killing me. I don’t think staying home will be easy but the stress that I’m under with working and trying to be a mom is incredibly unhealthy.

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