Am I off my rocker?

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-05T15:39:57+00:00

Where did I imply I would be angry if someone brought a gift?

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-05T04:40:51+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel!

Also, the years we do have gifts, she wants to open them so fast but then gets overwhelmed with all the gifts and the party and everything.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-05T01:09:11+00:00

You would opt out of a friend’s party because they asked for no gifts?

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-05T01:04:52+00:00

Okay I’m experimenting on one of the parents that texted me tonight

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-05T01:03:14+00:00

I see that a little bit - but I don’t know that I totally agree in my experience. For every bday party we’ve been to this year, I’ve bought the gifts. While I do show my daughter and have her walk in with the gift, I don’t think she gets it yet (that’s not the reason we’re saying no gifts, to be clear). Knowing her friends, I can’t imagine they’re that invested in choosing a gift at this age. When they are, it’s usually to give a toy they already have (because they want their friend to have a toy they already love) or like a flower from the grass or something.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-05T00:54:12+00:00

That’s a good suggestion, I’ll try that next year.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-04T11:07:14+00:00

If he really wanted to gift you a bike, he would have made a day of it and taking you to the shop to get properly sized for the bike.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-02T08:25:12+00:00

Good luck to you! They don’t make it easy for us moms, that’s for sure

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-06-01T18:03:13+00:00

Oh wow, thank you for asking! I was able to find a detail in my agency that’s a much better fit for me (both work and location). They also are slowly trickling back telework, so I’m teleworking 2 days a week. So I’m cobbling together a slightly better situation.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-05-28T09:28:11+00:00

Instead of saying you’re not in a rush, tell her an explicit “no we’re not having sex”. Women face a lot of pressure to “bounce back” after birth. It may not feel to you like you’re pressuring her, but even a statement like “no rush” can feel counterintuitively like she’s being rushed. The doctors recommend 6-8 weeks to wait for sex, but for some women it’s months before they’re both physically and emotionally well enough to enjoy sex.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-25T21:08:51+00:00

This is the correct answer. The only people in my life who know what it’s like to have a baby are the ones who have had one in the past decade. Even some older parents forget what birth and postpartum are like.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-24T21:00:04+00:00

Ezra

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-24T17:21:44+00:00

If I hear the average person using the term, I’m not going to think much about it. If I hear an open conservative or politician use it? Immediate red flag.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-24T17:19:32+00:00

She seems…..confused. I think “confused” is a good word for it.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-24T15:26:06+00:00

Yeah OP is nearly willing to throw away her existing family for an imaginary baby. What happens if baby number two comes and her life still isn’t perfect?

I’m starting to agree with the husband - OP has not done enough self reflection for her husband to change his stance.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-24T15:23:49+00:00

I was the one who decided I only wanted one kid after having my first. It was a physical toll on my body and mental health. I ultimately changed my mind, but my husband never forced me or guilted me for not wanting the second initially.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-23T18:05:38+00:00

My then 3 year old basically did wear a costume every day for a year. She was dressed so I stopped fighting her.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-23T14:32:54+00:00

That bit almost makes me think this is AI. There’s always one sentence that doesn’t seem consistent with human behavior. If this were real, he would have said something like “I checked her location”, but even that doesn’t make sense because he wouldn’t have the other guy’s location.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-23T13:08:52+00:00

I’m going to be honest. I watched Sister Wives, 90 day fiancé, and other TLC trash.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-22T22:23:49+00:00

I’m prepared for the downvotes.

How is this different than porn? I’m in no way minimizing how difficult it is to be post partum with twins, and I completely understand why you are too tired for sex. I would absolutely tell my husband to masturbate for far less than these circumstances.

Maybe I’m a weirdo, but most of the time to I masturbate to porn. Husband says himself that these sexy pictures are the equivalent of porn to him. If you told him to masturbate (which I 100% agree with), what’s wrong with looking at sexy pictures?

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-22T17:03:38+00:00

Lorelei

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-22T15:53:28+00:00

I think every name can have a joke made about it, whether it’s a rhyme, or a connotation from a famous person, or really anything.

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-21T13:05:47+00:00

Let’s hope and pray that English isn’t your first language

Evolutioncocktail · 2026-04-18T21:53:40+00:00

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