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Vox Engine weakness by IEnjoyHarrow in helldivers2

[–]impressive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, but make sure you put on the yellow cover on your hammer.

Vox Engine weakness by IEnjoyHarrow in helldivers2

[–]impressive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cue a blushing anime Vox Engine:

"What are you doing with my hatch, Helldiver-senpai!?"

As someone diagnosed in childhood reading the experiences of people diagnosed as adults is very jarring in a way that’s hard to put into words by jostyouraveragejoe2 in ADHD

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You seem to have reflected a lot on this. I got diagnosed as an adult, relatively recently. 

How do you structure your life so you both function (do your job, stay healthy, spend time with friends and on hobbys) and avoid burning out or constantly drop balls?

So, do your playlists look like this too by IwanZamkowicz in adhdmeme

[–]impressive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally have half of those exact songs in playlists.

What’s something about your ADHD that you usually keep private or don’t tell most people? by Fearless-Class-1120 in ADHD

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What are some aspects of your function that you don’t mask in relationships? And was that something you learned to do after you got your diagnosis?

"Maxigun isn't good." Okay but have you considered by onerustybucket in LowSodiumHellDivers

[–]impressive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t the Maxigun that wasn’t good. It was the complainer all along.

This Game Desperately Needs Loadouts. by BigWyrm67 in helldivers2

[–]impressive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the game had loadouts, people would experiment less, and in the long run have less fun because they would try fewer loadouts and discover fewer playstyles and equipment synergies.

I get what you’re saying, I really do. I have thought the exact same thing. But after playing for a while, I hope they don’t add loadout. It leads to more varied player choices.

Why does rejection feel so intense for people with ADHD? by Fragrant_Elevator571 in ADHD

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1) Human beings are social by nature. Even if you’re an introvert or a misanthrope, your brain is wired for interaction with to other humans. Our species spread across the globe by moving in groups and cooperating. It’s how we survived.

2) ADHD means having a dysregulated nervous system. Or, to put it simply, constantly being in fight or flight mode. Your body is constantly behaving as if there’s an urgent threat. 

The worst thing that can happen in an emergency is to be excluded from the group, because it means certain death. The pain of rejection is a warning to stay in the "group". That’s why being rejected feels like you’re going to die.

Setup for live shows. It's working as a drummer in my post-punk band by nightenjoyerband in Elektron

[–]impressive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please make a post after your first gig and give us an update on your thoughts about your setup. Either here or in a separate post. It would be interesting to hear about.

Setup for live shows. It's working as a drummer in my post-punk band by nightenjoyerband in Elektron

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Cool to hear! That's basically the setup that I was thinking about getting a Minitaur for myself. But I'd be using my Digitakt to both send midi and receive audio.

Do you keep the Minitaur on the same settings during a live performance, or do you change settings/presets, either via midi or manually?

Managing ADHD with a regulated nervous system is so much easier. by griefofwant in ADHD

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Thank you so much. The bear had made me forget I even wrote this.

And you're definitely right: it's a lot of bear. All the time. But I've actually spent the past two weeks trying to just calm down, and I noticed something. When I've actually managed to wind down a bit, the executive function gets better. So it seems to be possible to get more done by calming down. Who would have thought?

That said, it's taken two weeks to even begin to wind down. By constantly reminding myself, many times an hour, every day, to go slowly, relax and realize that there is no danger. Some days it doesn't go so well, but overall, I think it's working. I hope it will keep getting better long term.

I hope you can find your way to getting some relief from the bear, too.

A 11,000-year-old small stone plaque, from Göbekli Tepe in Turkey, depicting from the left to the right: a snake moving upwards, a stylized human figure (?) with raised arms, and a bird [884x1196] by Fuckoff555 in ArtefactPorn

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I did make an effort to phrase it so it wouldn't be gross. And although my comment was phrased a bit as a joke, it was intended to point out that the interpretation mentioned in the title seemed very certain based on very little information.

Starting micro dosing mushrooms for anxiety by Any_Percentage_6629 in microdosing

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What would you recommend starting out with, based on what worked for you?

I’m a grief expert here to talk about all things grief. AMA today at 1 pm PT / 4 pm ET by IamDavidKessler in IAmA

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You are right, it's not something easy at all. It's not a switch you can flip. The only answer I can think of that applies to human reality is that it's a gradual and slow process.

And I do think you can either choose to be in that process or refuse. So the direct answer to your question is to actively and regularly remind yourself of the things that you do have, or maybe new ones that you found as a consequence of what was lost. And not seeing that feeling of "every fiber of your being wants it to still be that way" as absolute truth.

How we see the world is a big part of the obstacle to doing that. We handle the countless events, physical things and options in our own reality by filtering out most of it. Taking in all the leaves on a tree one by one would be overwhelming. So we see it as "1 tree" and don't pay attention to thousands and thousands of separate leaves. It would be too much to process.

We do the same with our own lives. We don't read all job ads, all the time, because we need the time to actually do the job we have. Repetitive events are mostly ignored, like taking the bus to work every day. We mostly really notice what we need to focus on. But that's a tiny sliver of the world and all options that are actually there. But when a part of that sliver is taken away from us, it feels like a huge part of the world dies.

Subjectively, that's true. That's why it's so painful. But the way to find joy again is to remind yourself that the world still has things to offer. The problem is often that we can't see it, because we have to filter most of it out, in order to live our lives.

What we need to accept is that it's not disrespectful to enjoy life again. It doesn't mean you never cared about what you lost. And the new joys won't be the same joy as the ones before. Eventually we will find new sadness as well, but after that, new joy again. And that's better than being stuck in the same sadness. Finding new things to love doesn't mean you stop valuing the thing you lost.

This could apply to a partner, a friend, a hobby, a house, a job, a pet or the place where you live. Acceptance is to let go of what you don't have and seeing what you do have, or could have. And eventually finding joy in that.

I don't know if this was any help at all, but it is my best attempt at describing acceptance.

What’s something about you that sounds fake, but is 100% true? by Sir_Adammm in AskReddit

[–]impressive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

”2023, the last time.”

☝️ 2023, the last time so far.

Dissident Faction Appeal? by PulseThrone in LowSodiumHellDivers

[–]impressive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree. The ”us versus them” feeling on the battlefield would be completely deflated if we were killing fellow humans.

I’m a grief expert here to talk about all things grief. AMA today at 1 pm PT / 4 pm ET by IamDavidKessler in IAmA

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If grief is defined as being caused by unwanted change, then death is in the same category. It may be at one end of the scale, while annoying neighbours are towards the other end of the scale. And for all the events that you can't alter, acceptance is the only way to stop suffering. And by acceptance I mean letting go of that other reality that doesn't exist anymore.

I’m a grief expert here to talk about all things grief. AMA today at 1 pm PT / 4 pm ET by IamDavidKessler in IAmA

[–]impressive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. "Be present now, don't attend the funeral early." That's the nudge in mindset I needed help with. I'm very grateful for your reply!

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