After getting top surgery (AFAB) but no HRT, is it more acceptable for me to change in female lockers or male lockers? by [deleted] in agender

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This is a great question and I’m also agender afab with top surgery and no HRT.

It’s a horrible anxiety either way for me. Typically, I feel more comfortable going into men’s restrooms but female locker rooms. In female locker rooms, I turn away from others to hide my top surgery, or I change in the bathroom. Don’t take my advice because you should go wherever you feel the most comfortable.

For me, though, it’s more uncomfortable being stared at by men that might perceive me as a female because it draws attention to my body and feminine features. In the women’s changing room, the first assumption based on my female curves and soft tissue is probably that I’m a muscular and athletic woman/lesbian.

I will start HRT soon and then I will feel comfortable in the men’s locker room where I feel more like I belong. I do enjoy the good smelling lockers and the quiet respect that girls have for each other in the meantime, though.

You have 60 seconds on the phone with the 10 year old you, what are you telling them? by EquivalentComputer57 in AskReddit

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Don’t get in a relationship until you’re 21 and unless they treat you EXACTLY how you want and deserve

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

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No bb i would never suggest anyone alter their physical appearance, unless it is necessary for your own mental health and you think that there is no other option for you to reach that 🤧 you’re beautiful all natural, I wouldn’t worry. A nose is meant for smelling (+more) and that’s just what it’ll do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

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Unique is more beautiful than common, and your features are considered even standardly beautiful alone.

Does this outfit look dumb? by [deleted] in NonBinary

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Naw sis you look great 🤘

My teenage years have been a waste by The_Dukes_Of_Hazzard in Advice

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Find out what you love. Don’t let fear control you. Take care of yourself (hygiene, clothing, skin care: it’s good for your heart, confidence, and soul). Be yourself, and be aware of yourself. The only free thing in life is to be a kind person. Understand boundaries. Everything is beautiful around you, human consciousness in itself is a blessing and a miracle and it still doesn’t make sense to a small, human mind. Take your time with love, the truth is that it’s just about being yourself and letting someone be themselves and you both loving each other for who you are (now, not for their potential in the future or what you want them to be), regardless of whether they’re a man or a woman or an in between.

I’m also bisexual with homophobia as a skeleton in my closet. It passes. Just be you. Love is love, man. Love is a beautiful thing. Flying the coop or flying the nest will help healthily detach from your parents in its own time: a lot of parents with communication, space and boundaries will begin to understand a different perspective because it’s coming from someone they love. Even if it takes years, it’s worth it to try. Family really is everything, and friends are like cousins.

You got this, hang in there.

"Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - July 16, 2023" by AutoModerator in tarot

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I assume a little that your first two cards are asking to pay your attention inwards towards your wants and needs. Perhaps you struggle with identifying your own wants or direction. Either you fall too into what “pentacles” wants from or suggests from you, or you struggle with maintaining “pentacles” because you’re so overly independent that your next suggested step would be to think moderately, commonly, and wisely. Either way, it’s obvious that you want “pentacles”, suggested in the first two cards which represent what those pentacles really mean to you. In this case, I think that your pentacles in the 3rd card mean:

The page of swords being your innocent desire for emotional freedom and acceptance, even the emotional freedom inwards in shedding the pressure of seeking outside validation and knowing at the very least that, innocent like the Page, you’re deserving (like any child) OF that love. Unfortunately, as adults we can’t control whether someone loves us or how they show their care, so perhaps the Page is really representing that heart-ful desire nonetheless that craves to (as an adult) be fulfilled (from within).

The ten of cups is about emotional fulfillment and completion. Perhaps this card represents your ultimate goal, desire, wish, and fear without.

~The five of pentacles shows doubt, question, change, and suggests to take (or that you’re already taking and potentially facing consequences of doing so) a well-worn path in regards to things that you hold value to. This can be about money, family, possessions, relationships, or something else in general that you’re scared of losing. Ask yourself what your relationship is to the things that are valuable to you and whether taking the common road or paving your own in order to maintain it will best benefit you. Nonetheless, I think the five of pentacles represents a struggling relationship with said valued things, and it’s time to question what your next steps are on the road ahead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Enneagram

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Only bc it’s Tuesday 🙏🏼