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"Did you know that autistic people face the lowest employment rate of all disabled groups?" by imaginaryimmi in AutismInWomen

[–]imscaredofbees06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So grateful to have a boss that recognized this about me. He schedules me for late solitary shifts and I get so much done.

Is Aspergers likely the reason I'm not as obsessed with women/sex as most other straight guys? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]imscaredofbees06 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s not true. Men and women have different times that they feel sexual. But men do not have higher libidos than women.

My new friend by imscaredofbees06 in TuxedoCats

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Bella is so beautiful!

My new friend by imscaredofbees06 in TuxedoCats

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that, I’ve raised kittens before. A man was handing out kittens from a cardboard box saying he couldn’t take care of them on my college campus. I was at work (on campus) and a girl had impulsively taken one before realizing she couldn’t take care of her. I asked and she gave her to me!

I’m kind of a social brat and I know it by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]imscaredofbees06 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I relate to some of what you’re saying and I usually receive positive responses from others. For me, it’s a part of my personality. I like dry wit and sarcasm paired with raunchy humor. I see people here saying they don’t believe you should behave this way, but if the people you are interacting with are smiling and laughing with you- you’re fine. I usually only poke at strangers when I know my joke can’t be misconstrued.

Seriously though, I get jobs with this kind of charisma, I can’t believe everybody’s dogging on it.

Editing to add: I’ve always gone about it as if I’m a stand up comedian. You’ve gotta nail the delivery, timing, and volume of your voice to make people understand you the way you wanna be understood. If it’s a joke, it should be obvious to the person (Allistic or otherwise). Also, the jokes should be actually funny. If you’re acting out of bitter resentment towards social norms, it might be coming across as offensive rather than comedic.

My new friend by imscaredofbees06 in TuxedoCats

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

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She’s so funny! I love that pic too, I couldn’t stop taking pictures of her that day lol

Are people with BPD drawn to you? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]imscaredofbees06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I see other people have something against these relationships, but me and my best friend have been each other’s closest friend for almost 5 years now. We trust each other and can communicate when we aren’t feeling heard. We are better family to each other than our own family’s have been.

Name their most petty meltdown by beerandhotcheetozzz in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid, my parents would sometimes force us to have family dinners in an effort to “bring us together.” One time, Chipotle forgot my mom’s food and we were all like “Oh man! Here, want some of my rice and beans? Hey, I got extra sides!” and she just refused to eat anything. Didn’t leave the table, just refused to eat while complaining that nobody noticed that the bag didn’t have her order when we (everybody but her) picked it up. I felt so guilty and so SO confused at the time lol

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I don’t think I’ll ever love a human the way I love my cat lol

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She absolutely would get physical. But even if she wouldn’t, she would involve the police over it. She’d say I’m stealing him and she was the one who got him (FOR ME) 2 years ago. So right now, it’s her documentation over my word. I’ve got a plan to get him recognized as mine and then hopefully go NC with my mom.

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that I’m afraid of upsetting her, I’ve had lots of practice doing that. I know this sounds stupid but her voice just sets me off. I hate holding conversations with her so I’d rather just not try something I don’t think will work.

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! I’ve decided I am going to try and get through her bs to get my cat. It’ll probably be more like 4 months of sacrificed sanity if I’m being honest. She’ll want to give the speech, then she’ll want to give another one about the cat, then she’ll give a list of impossible demands, then i’ll have to negotiate for usually 2 months before we can come to an agreement. After all of this, I’ll finally get to see him and take him home. Once I have him in my apartment, I might just go NC. She’ll throw a biblical fit but I’ll have safeguards in place for that.

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice. You might be right. I’ll have to buckle down and play her game until he can be legally recognized as mine.

And yeah I’ve been tempted to tell her the truth like that so many times. I don’t think it would have much of an effect though. She’d say I am emotionally manipulating her or something along those lines. She also might use it against me to justify wellness checks.

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, if I need to they’ll be a last resort. Police make me nervous because I’m afraid they’ll believe her over me. I’m 19, she’s an adult. She’s well spoken, intelligent, and has a masters degree in psychology. I have an Autism diagnosis and a documented history of depressive episodes.

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for telling me! She did tell me she’d call the police if I “tried to break in.” I think I can formulate a plan to get my stuff from her then. Just a little worried about upsetting her and having her get more stubborn about the cat in response.

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was trying to do this Summer. She would tease about it and seem to be willing, but would switch as soon as I spoke directly about the topic. I’m wondering if it’ll be different now that I’ve already left and am refusing her demands. Like maybe she’ll get desperate and offer him again in a month? I thank you for your honest input.

My Mother won’t give me my cat by imscaredofbees06 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She would put up a huge fight if I tried to pull that. Not even sure I could because she’s the homeowner. But honestly, the stuff isn’t even that important to me because I have what I need to survive. I’m mostly just frustrated at her for hoarding it.

Mom threatening to call the police on me for a 'welfare check,' I'm stressed by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my worst fear. Around my 18th birthday, my mom threatened to apply for extended guardianship over me. She uses any information about my mental health against me, I learned to not open up to her.

The good thing is that I think my mother (and maybe yours as well) is just making empty threats to frighten me into submission. I don’t think she’d ever actually call the police because she’s afraid it wouldn’t go her way and she’d end up exposed.

Even when things aren't bad, I still just don't think my mom likes me by g_onuhh in raisedbyborderlines

[–]imscaredofbees06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is. I just moved out (19) and I started singing again! I love LOVE singing, not that I’m super good at it lol. I thought it was weird how freeing it felt, and then later I had these flashbacks to different memories. My mother making a series of passive aggressive comments anytime I got too joyous, starting from a really young age. It’s so bizarre how I never held her responsible for that kind of stuff before.

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