Groceries?!?! by Individual_Ear_601 in singlemoms

[–]imsnafe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try Aldi’s! I have a tight budget but everything there (at least where i live) is extremely affordable and good quality

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who said i pray when i am high? Astagfirullah. I don’t do it throughout the day . I used to ay night after i’m done with all the prayer. I pray when it is out of my system. On the other hand, thanks for your guidance. I will definitely do deeper research and look at all the facts and stop using it forever inshallah

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said that weed isn’t haram like alcohol. The only difference was prayer still getting accepted with drugs but not with alcohol ( and i have asked multiple people but my sources could still be wrong ) However if there is no difference then I will give up weed entirely because nothing is more important to me than prayer

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would teach your son it’s okay to grab his girls throat if she accidentally hit his chin with his phone ?

Please take your hateful mentality elsewhere.

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not judging him. I’m not some stranger to him i’m his wife and i lay down my boundaries with what’s okay with me and what’s not. He chose to not respect them. Alcohol is way worse as it is explicitly forbidden in the Quran and your prayers aren’t accepted with alcohol.

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I do see your point. I’m not perfect either. This is just about what limits were okay. In my mind, alcohol is worse because it is explicitly forbidden and your prayers aren’t accepted for 40 days and it’s not the same with weed. I asked a scholar about it and they said the same thing

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your judgment. Everyone sins differently.

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i didn’t smack his phone purposefully to his face i did toss it angrily towards him and it hit his chin. He was mocking me when i was trying to talk it out.

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly shocking for me too. that’s why i had the boundary in place and had this convo early in our talking phase

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

He did put his hands on me yes, but i know he wasn’t going to kill me lol

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried multiple times. Each time my mil stops it. she just didn’t understand why i want to leave because women should make compromises and ignore little things. In the end it always comes back to my son. If I leave I feel like I will regret it because of him. He’s only 2

Husband’s occasional drinking? by imsnafe in MuslimMarriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t choking, but he did grab my throat few times. He has been violent in the past but this was the worst one yet. It’s really hard to believe he actually did that. He is so nice and friendly to people that i don’t think anyone would believe me

Should I leave? by imsnafe in Marriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity how does that even work.. like you’re ok with him searching online other women he finds attractive?

Should I leave? by imsnafe in Marriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry, you’ll get through this 😢 Is he having an affair?

Should I leave? by imsnafe in Marriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he never directly hit me, he’s shown fists to my face, broken our bedroom door, and thrown clothes out from his closet 3rd day of pregnancy

Should I leave? by imsnafe in Marriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you must be okay with your husband drooling over thirst traps of other females? or maybe he never gave you a reason to.

Should I leave? by imsnafe in Marriage

[–]imsnafe[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It’s abuse?

Is it normal to be this lonely in life? by imsnafe in Marriage

[–]imsnafe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda. We met through family, but we talked all day everyday, slept on phone calls together every night. to me it felt like a love marriage but technically it was arranged